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FrostedFlake -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 3:01:09 AM)
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Reagrding the Original post and the point of it.
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Mygrth
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Steven "So, the point of this is, since there are a bunch of Dominant women hoping that a sub male will start a relationship with them, why haven't the sub men realized and acted upon that?"
Wouldn't that be a gross misrepresentation of intent?
Yes. If the intent was deception. But I think Steven was likely looking at another thing entirely. It occurs to me that, completely aside from the general nastiness of such a deception and overlooking entirely the fallout sure to result = genuine & general disdain, there is also the fact that it is a practical plan only in the very short term. For the effort involved, and the price paid in various coin, why wouldn't a fella who would bother himself to mess with someone this way, thus eclipsing his future prospects, take instead the much easier, less expensive and MUCH less disreputable course of $imply hiring help? Is it because only FREAKS pay for services rendered, whereas fine upstanding NORMAL men prefer shoving a dagger into the heart of a lover?
Hmmm...
That is not what bothers me about the notion I think Steven was mulling.
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Soul Alloy
As for the big question, why the mismatch? I'm not sure really. When I started exploring this lifestyle I was very much in the dark and naive, all I'd ever managed to find online were prodomme websites and alt.com, and based my first interactions via mail on those concepts, that we are lowly and that the domme persona is who they are 24/7 - stupid and naive no doubt, life is a learning curve. Being willing to learn is the key, and of course to figure out exactly what you want from life.
Then of course you have the minefield of expressing the sentiments in an alluring way without looking like a wanker lol
Soul Alloy here thinks over the learning process. We all start in the dark. we feel our way through things and we learn stuff. A little tiny bit at a time. At least, some of us do. And what of the rest?
Returning to first principles, when we deal with any situation, what we see is that part of it most directly in front of us. When we open the refrigerator door, for example, we don't see what makes a refrigerator WORK. That part is out of view, out of reach, underneath. Either you know how a fridge works or you don't and while it is easy to find out, it is just as easy to live ones entire life without knowing. It is largely a matter of interest. And, here is the point : if you don't know and someone tells you something that isn't so and you say, "Oh!", well then my friend, FOR YOU, that IS how a refrigerator works. Even though it doesn't really work that way.
It is not what we know that is the problem, but what we know that isn't so. The mental habits (inertia) that lead us into knowing things that are not so is at the root of the matter. And overhead, if you look, is the fact that IF we THINK we KNOW, we are not going to try to find out. Our ignorance protects us from feeling the effects of our ignorance.
I seem to recall from school, the colloquial term for this is Stupidity.
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SoulAlloy
Being willing to learn is the key, and of course to figure out exactly what you want from life.
Then of course you have the minefield of expressing the sentiments in an alluring way without looking like a wanker lol
Uhmm... Y'think?
FF
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