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gungadin09 -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 5:57:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Wow.... I didn't see Servant say anything hypocritical. Neither did i. pam

kalikshama -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 10:30:27 AM)
quote: But the reality is the vast majority of females (taking into account subs and Dommes) post some pretty sexually explicit content to attract males yet some complain they are getting a slew of wankers and whatever else. I'm not convinced that it is the women with provocative pics that are complaining.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 11:57:36 AM)
quote: Must admit I read the original response the same way Oh well, you didn't get it either, no big whoop.

PeonForHer -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 12:26:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit The basic thing is... he may be half nude.. but he isn't bitching about the response. Some women are laying it all out there and ARE bitching about the response. Hell... if he were, I would have heard it... because I did make a few comments about his tool belt, privately and he was nothing but a gentleman throughout the conversation. He is half naked and not bitching. Worked for me. His semi-nakedness is beside the point, though, isn't it? It's about the effect that they're having. My guess is that our Mr Toolbelt doesn't receive any attention that would worry or annoy him. My pictures have never elicited a single gross, cold, or otherwise unpleasant response. If I've been objectified, then those who've done so have hidden it well. And that applies to gay and bi males who've written to me, as well.

Madame4a -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 12:48:11 PM)
I definitely have less experience with straight men than most of the women here-- but I've found that the majority of the men I've met and gotten to know seem to be more fetish driven. I think being fetish driven changes things. It makes people very single minded. Also for FWIW, I know several gay men who are similar. I know a few women who are similar but very few. Another thing I learned was folks new to BDSM, and who are very fetish orsexually driven have that old misconception that this is 1) all about sex and 2) therefore, most women are more sexually driven and or sexually promiscuous. I once had a potential partner refer to me as promiscuous -- that was his impression -- it was incorrect, but if I beat a naked person on a cross, who wasn't my partner, he saw it that way. Of course, we didn't get much past the second time we saw one another. ETA: I think that the internet sometimes makes some people act differently than they might in a face to face social type setting (a playparty or munch). So, if the basis of this discussion is on CM or the internet as a whole -- I think its very different in real life...or face to face for many.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 2:05:00 PM)
quote: that old misconception that this is 1) all about sex What is it about if not sex?

Madame4a -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 2:15:12 PM)
ALL ... I said all... its certainly about sex, but for some, its not all about sex...its about relationship, pain, power, fun, companionship, sometimes even community.. or even marriage and sex too... for some, its not all about sex quote: ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather quote: that old misconception that this is 1) all about sex What is it about if not sex?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 2:26:01 PM)
Not all service relationships are about INTERCOURSE. Really, it's totally pssible to do what we do in many iterations with none of the involved parties having orgasms in each other's presence. Been at this a long damn time. I can totally show someone their blodd without fucking them, or even wanting to.

PeonForHer -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 3:40:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Not all service relationships are about INTERCOURSE. Really, it's totally pssible to do what we do in many iterations with none of the involved parties having orgasms in each other's presence. Been at this a long damn time. I can totally show someone their blodd without fucking them, or even wanting to. Well, despite that sounding like complete bollocks, I could actually imagine that, Lady Hib. However, I'd totally need to crack one off later in the bathroom, just before bed.

OttersSwim -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 4:25:42 PM)
Lot of posts by you about "cracking one off" lately P...your hand getting tired, or is this just a phase? [;)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 5:37:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim Lot of posts by you about "cracking one off" lately P...your hand getting tired, or is this just a phase? [;)] Well, since you're interested, Otters, 'a pummel a day keeps the doctor away', is my motto. I've always done it for the sake of my health, which is why I've been wanking vigorously since I was a teenager.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Why the mismatch? (12/5/2011 6:18:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Not all service relationships are about INTERCOURSE. Really, it's totally pssible to do what we do in many iterations with none of the involved parties having orgasms in each other's presence. Been at this a long damn time. I can totally show someone their blodd without fucking them, or even wanting to. Well, despite that sounding like complete bollocks, I could actually imagine that, Lady Hib. However, I'd totally need to crack one off later in the bathroom, just before bed. Which bit is the bollocks, Darling? Can't you see me doing something dastardly with some awesome masochist and then going home with you? A person does enjoy a horse doover now and again. Honestly!

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