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ORIGINAL: feastie

Ask your Master what he'd like you to call him in your family's presence instead of Master.  Since you've already said he's a close friend or boyfriend of sorts, it would follow that you'd call him by his name.  However, it makes you feel weird, so how about some other term of endearment.  Personally, I'd have a problem with my 21 year old being involved with a 55 year old and I'd have PLENTY of questions.  So yeah, this is probably going to be tough, but since you made the decision to move in with the guy, then you're going to have to suck it up and get through it.  The rough part probably won't come until after the visit is over and you talk to your family at a later date.

Good luck to you.

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If you are uncomfortable with using His first name in front of Your family..trying using the term "Love."  Try some things out at home on Him...see how you feel with calling him those particular names.  

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Also, keep in mind that your family doesn't need to know everything about your relationship.  Y/you're dating, He's part of your life...that's all the really need to know.  Other than that, i think you'll find they would all out ask Him "Do you beat my daughter on a regular basis?"  Although, note in that regard... make sure you have no visible marks on you when going to see them...just to avoid that issue. 

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ORIGINAL: subtlesubie

If your family has any sense at all, they are planning an intervention for you.  55!  Are you nuts?  Dump the fossil - get with someone you could conceivably have something in common with before I call Dateline Wednesday.

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ORIGINAL: MlilnikkiM

WOW, okay I have to add my two cents worth to this. I am 22, my Master is 52, yes 30years difference in ages. To some that is a big deal, but to us age is just a number. Likewise we have been together for over two years now, and He has met my family. Yes in the beginning there were questions as to why I was with someone so much older; there were questions as to why he was with someone so much younger. All in all after they met him and got to know him, they love him and have made every attempt to make Him feel a part of the family. My mom even knows about the lifestyle aspects, and while she does ask question from time to time about things she reads, or hears, or doesn’t understand, the most important she has said is ‘As long as He makes you happy, and keeps you safe then that is all that matters.’  Those of us in the lifestyle shouldn’t be judgmental of other people’s relationships, desires, etc and then expect others to be accepting of theirs. I understand the maternal concern, but jumping down a child’s throat and flaming them for their happiness, is just going to cause rifts in the family. Now if it’s respectful discussion on the issues and such, that’s totally something different and in my opinion okay.   As for what you address Him as in front of your family, if they don’t know then Lifestyle titles are out of line. Especially if you don’t want the questions to go there. Futhermore you both need to sit down and talk about what may or may not be discussed at this dinner. Make sure you are both on the same page, and understanding of how to handle various things that MAY come up. Likewise if it turns badly, you have the right and the ability to get up and walk out. Its your family, and only you know if you can work through the difficulties of the situation. I agree though that families don’t need to know 100% of what goes on in your household/relationship/lifestyle.   Best of luck   Mellow’s nikki

pardon the 'reply to' i did a quick reply and didn't realize it would connect me to a reply to someone's post, yay for being new to the forums!

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ORIGINAL: Sub03

I am 21 years old. Old enough to live on my own, old enough to drink and old enough to make my own decisions on who I am with and who im not with. I am an adult and as an adult if I want to have a Master that is 55 I will have one, if i want a Master that is younger then me I will have one. I don't expect everyone to understand the reasons behind it, I don't even expect most people to understand it. But flaming me and my Master is totally uncalled for. My Master isnt some pedophile lurking around schoolyards looking for lil kids. He isnt the one luring kids online to meetings that end up in death or child porn. If you want to call Dateline wendsday at least call them with a story they are gong to care about. 3 years ago when I turned 18 I became old enough to date anyone of any age legally, so don't tell me who to date now.