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stacey4u2luv -> You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:32:17 AM)
on the booth it says stop abuse against women your thoughts are....???? My thoughts were but, i wanna be used and abused by Master. i kept right on walking when the guy tried to talk to me. For some reason i was not sticking around and talking. Now try to imagine you do not have as much time to think about it as i just did, the both is there you read it and the man starts talking as you were walking past.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:35:04 AM)
I'll take huge stands against nonconsensual abuse against anyone, even if I go home and let a hypothetical M beat me up. :p IMO, they're two different things. I have the option to choose such a thing, but people in DV situations are not making that choice. Not the same at all.

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:35:13 AM)
I think "Oh. Ok. Yea, abuse is pretty bad." and keep walking. Then again, I know the difference between smacking a woman because dinner wasnt ready, and smacking a woman because she told you that you can, and its completely consensual.

littlewonder -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:35:19 AM)
I would take the pamphlets, talk to him about it and maybe even give a small donation. Sorry but my mind doesn't automatically go to what Master and I do. It goes towards what women are going through nonconsensually.

stacey4u2luv -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:36:01 AM)
Thoughts that i am currently having now that i am back home is you fool, do not approach a woman with a collar around her neck and ask her to discuss what you are doing there. lol Jesh, i do wonder if he knew what my collar was for or even if he saw it. haha

LillyBoPeep -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:37:53 AM)
I don't really understand how you're conflating these two things. Just because you wear a collar, do you think it's okay for any person to beat their spouse for any reason? That makes no sense to me. You CHOOSE to wear your collar and participate in S&M, a battered spouse does not.

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:39:36 AM)
Chances are he looked at it, probably thought "Interesting jewelery" and started thinking back at the topic at hand. Not everyone IMMEDIATELY thinks KINKSTER when they see collars, or chokers, or even leashes.

littlewonder -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:39:49 AM)
eerr...I doubt he even noticed your collar or even cared. It's his job to approach all or most people he feels will maybe talk to him and donate. His approaching you had zilch to do with your collar or being owned. It had to do with the fact he though you looked like the type that would stop. You're reading waaay too much into it and thinking what goes through YOUR head, not his.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:40:10 AM)
I think you are misinterpreting the situation, stacey. Consensual BDSM is worlds away from domestic violence, where women are permanently maimed or even killed. I am actually a little shocked at your naive and narrow view of the world. I doubt the guy knew or cared what your collar meant. I also doubt he would particularly care about your consensual relationship. What he apparently does care about is women and children in abusive relationships. I think someone is a fool, but it wasn't the guy at the mall. Have you considered some sensitivity training?

gungadin09 -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:40:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stacey4u2luv on the booth it says stop abuse against women your thoughts are....???? That BDSM and non-consensual abuse are two different things, and it's insulting to compare them. pam

LafayetteLady -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:41:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep I'll take huge stands against nonconsensual abuse against anyone, even if I go home and let a hypothetical M beat me up. :p IMO, they're two different things. I have the option to choose such a thing, but people in DV situations are not making that choice. Not the same at all. I'm with LBP on this one. They aren't even remotely similar and in my opinion, walking by thinking about how you enjoy it is a bit self-centered. How difficult is it really to take any pamphlets the guy might have and say, "I'm sorry I really don't have the time to speak to you right now?"

stacey4u2luv -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:41:37 AM)
No i do not think it is OK it totally caught me off guard when i seen it and yes, my mind did go straight to the sign and did not want to approach him because of my collar for fear he may see it and wondered if that was why he called me over etc...

LafayetteLady -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:42:28 AM)
So you really are that self absorbed and lack any empathy for others. Noted.

littlewonder -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:42:36 AM)
I'd say you have insecurities about your collar and relationship then. It's your problem, not his.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:44:04 AM)
So you thought he was singling you out because he noticed your collar? What gave you that feeling? Did he let other people pass before you without approaching them? More than likely, he didn't even notice it unless it's an obvious dog collar sort of affair. It's just his job to approach anyone and offer information.

Killerangel -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:45:01 AM)
My thoughts are to stop abuse abuse against women. Period. Why the heck do you connect abuse against women to the preference you have for your relationship style? Apples and oranges. It's weird that you seem to connect these things, I do not. It's a clear case of consensuality and nonconsensuality. Gungadin was right...it IS insulting to compare them.

LafayetteLady -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:45:10 AM)
Do you think that every person who wears a collar is kinky? Have you ever seen Goth kids? Really, iass is right. You need some sensitivity training.

stacey4u2luv -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:46:34 AM)
nah i do not think so if i seen someone being abused on the streets i would obviously do what i could do for them. All the time i see anyone trying to sell anything or trying to detour anyone from their paths in a mall handing out anything at all i keep right on going anyhow.

mnottertail -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:46:46 AM)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncBSOyte6lA

stacey4u2luv -> RE: You see a booth in a mall and (12/6/2011 11:49:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel My thoughts are to stop abuse abuse against women. Period. Why the heck do you connect abuse against women to the preference you have for your relationship style? Apples and oranges. It's weird that you seem to connect these things, I do not. It's a clear case of consensuality and nonconsensuality. Gungadin was right...it IS insulting to compare them. maybe that is just me i can see any type of sign ie... even this morning i was posting someplace else and got a chuckle out of it saying submit instead of post etc... little triggers do trigger kinky thoughts with me.

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