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outofhabit -> Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 2:22:33 PM)
So, when I look at the other profiles of people who mark their gender as "trans", almost all of them are MtF crossdressers/transvestites. While that's cool, I'm not one. I was wondering if there are any FtMs or genderqueers assigned as female at birth here? I almost feel like I'm the only one.

genvieve -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 2:42:59 PM)
Being neither, i cannot speak for others here...but i can say...i have met several in your situation. -nods softly-

mellian -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 3:29:34 PM)
"Trans" is not a gender, short-version of saying transgender or transsexual, and neither of those are a gender. First one is used to described anyone who crosses or blurs the gender lines while the latter describe someone who has a condition. Any sites are bloody annoying when they put trans as a gender option. If they want to keep track of who is trans and other users would like to, then just add a checkmark or option somewhere for it, NOT making it part of the gender. -mellian

jamesthehumanrug -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 4:22:41 PM)
dear out of habs greetings and welocme glad to meet and know you ;please feel free to post on anything as you are an important member

Archer -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 5:23:44 PM)
The OP clearly knows what Trans means. Really what difference does it make how or where they make the identity option available. It fits just fine in the gender slot as far as I am concerned. In fact it seems the most logical place to make the distinction available. In Leather Archer

MsIncognito -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 5:33:18 PM)
While many people may agree with you (I know it doesn't make much difference to me where it goes) I've seen many a flame war between those who are themselves transgendered, transexed and cross dressers. To many of those people some measure of accuracy in how people with gender differences define themselves does seem to be important. quote: ORIGINAL: Archer The OP clearly knows what Trans means. Really what difference does it make how or where they make the identity option available. It fits just fine in the gender slot as far as I am concerned. In fact it seems the most logical place to make the distinction available. In Leather Archer

Wulfchyld -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 5:33:34 PM)
I read now and again that people feel deceived or mislead by TS/TG/CD members. Why it happens I do not know. I am sure everyone who is seriously looking for a relationship is open and honest about his or her situation. We do encounter people that are afraid to be upfront, but I am sure after a bad experience or two they approach things more honestly. Then there are the wankers that just want to play around. We encounter that in R/L meetings and it is just so much easier to deceive online. In this forum http://klashaan.org:8181/cgi-bin/yabb/yabb.pl/YaBB.pl TS/TG/CD identify their proclivities with the ts tg or cd tag on their <sig> they offer no illusions and are welcome to the community. So when people see the tag and it is their bag, they can feel free to contact them.

stef -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 6:11:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld I read now and again that people feel deceived or mislead by TS/TG/CD members. Why it happens I do not know. I am sure everyone who is seriously looking for a relationship is open and honest about his or her situation. We do encounter people that are afraid to be upfront, but I am sure after a bad experience or two they approach things more honestly. Then there are the wankers that just want to play around. We encounter that in R/L meetings and it is just so much easier to deceive online. In this forum http://klashaan.org:8181/cgi-bin/yabb/yabb.pl/YaBB.pl TS/TG/CD identify their proclivities with the ts tg or cd tag on their <sig> they offer no illusions and are welcome to the community. So when people see the tag and it is their bag, they can feel free to contact them. It's nice to hear that transsexuals are welcome in your new community, but transexuality is hardly a "proclivity." ~stef

Wulfchyld -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 6:30:11 PM)
I am open for suggestion if you have a better word.

outofhabit -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 7:21:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mellian "Trans" is not a gender, short-version of saying transgender or transsexual, and neither of those are a gender. First one is used to described anyone who crosses or blurs the gender lines while the latter describe someone who has a condition. Any sites are bloody annoying when they put trans as a gender option. If they want to keep track of who is trans and other users would like to, then just add a checkmark or option somewhere for it, NOT making it part of the gender. -mellian Transgender is more of a gender than "male" and "female" and is an umbrella term for a variety of different genders. I personally appreciate "Trans" being an option since my gender is not "man" or "woman". Ideally, I'd like gender to be a fill-in-the-blank box, but I've yet to come across that.

JovialKitten -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 7:34:20 PM)
My Mistress is an MtF transexual and we've just recently gotten together in April..both as Domme/sub and girlfriends. I knew of her being transgendered from the beginning and did a ton of research.. I find a lot of people say that they are trans,transgendered,transexual..etc..and leave it at that..which is fine..they shouldn't be required to let us know of their genetic gender if they don't wish. On a transgender and their partner's websites for MTF's they will refer to girls that are born as girls as genetic girls or gg's..and something like that should be put in place..so they can identify as the gender they want but if someone doesn't want that..they'll know to search for genetic girls or boys. To the OP: I don't see as many FTM's either..and it saddens me a bit just because I feel like perhaps even in their own culture they feel alone.

mellian -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 7:56:20 PM)
I respect that, but my gender is female, not trans, hence shouldn't be forced or accused as some deceiver just because I do not select it. Also, I don't want some tranny chaser easilly finding me simply by searching all those who are trans either. -mellian quote: ORIGINAL: outofhabit Transgender is more of a gender than "male" and "female" and is an umbrella term for a variety of different genders. I personally appreciate "Trans" being an option since my gender is not "man" or "woman". Ideally, I'd like gender to be a fill-in-the-blank box, but I've yet to come across that.

outofhabit -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/28/2006 9:07:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mellian I respect that, but my gender is female, not trans, hence shouldn't be forced or accused as some deceiver just because I do not select it. Also, I don't want some tranny chaser easilly finding me simply by searching all those who are trans either. -mellian I've noticed a lot of people use "female" as a gender, which is sort of inaccurate. Technically it's a sex, not a gender. Now, I'm generally not into semantic scribbles, but this is why it bothers me. I feel like not maintain the gender/sex divide makes it difficult for me to talk about my body. I can't say that I'm female or otherwise people think that it is a declaration of gender. Even saying that I'm "female-bodied" which is something that I see more often suggests that my body is somehow gendered as feminine. So while I think that there is nothing wrong with you choosing not to disclose or identify as trans, I still dislike that "female" is being used as a gender on these sites.

MistressKrystal -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 9:22:43 AM)
Transmission? I change the oil in it at regular intervals! Translucent? Semi transparent? ~ Transparent? Mommy or Daddy? Transplant? Moved to a better place? Transgender? Changed? Different? Living As? Transsexual? From 1 sex to a different sex? MTF ~ FTM Transvestite? Getting sexual excitement from the opposite "sex's" accoutremants? Female, Is a Gender. Male, Is a Gender. "Man" or "Woman" is NOT listed on your drivers licence! That is a personal feeling or outward display. Intersexed? There can be a great deal of "grey" area involved with gender expression OR gender "Identity". The Grey Matter in your brain is largely responsible for how you feel. Expression is up to YOU! To be given the chance to "display" who or what you are is Always wonderful. Why does it "seem" that there are more MTF? Who knows. Many "TG" people feel constrained by the "gender" related hardliners. The truth is many people fall into the "normal" lines of gender and there are others that don't, how can these people find the way to express themselves well? I Am a Woman I was born "Gender Divergent" Do I want to put on My profile I'm "trans" ? HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Be well Be Yourself ! Be happy or find a way to get there ! Mistress Krystal <http://groups.msn.com/MistressKrystalKittysDomain/_whatsnew.msnw>

feastie -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:21:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: outofhabit quote: ORIGINAL: mellian I respect that, but my gender is female, not trans, hence shouldn't be forced or accused as some deceiver just because I do not select it. Also, I don't want some tranny chaser easilly finding me simply by searching all those who are trans either. -mellian I've noticed a lot of people use "female" as a gender, which is sort of inaccurate. Technically it's a sex, not a gender. Now, I'm generally not into semantic scribbles, but this is why it bothers me. I feel like not maintain the gender/sex divide makes it difficult for me to talk about my body. I can't say that I'm female or otherwise people think that it is a declaration of gender. Even saying that I'm "female-bodied" which is something that I see more often suggests that my body is somehow gendered as feminine. So while I think that there is nothing wrong with you choosing not to disclose or identify as trans, I still dislike that "female" is being used as a gender on these sites. Hate to burst your bubble, but gender does indeed refer to sex, either literally or in the use of language... 1 a : a subclass within a grammatical class (as noun, pronoun, adjective, or verb) of a language that is partly arbitrary but also partly based on distinguishable characteristics (as shape, social rank, manner of existence, or sex) and that determines agreement with and selection of other words or grammatical forms b : membership of a word or a grammatical form in such a subclass c : an inflectional form showing membership in such a subclass 2 a : SEX *<the feminine gender> b : the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex* How you personally identify your gender is up to you, but gender is sex.

outofhabit -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:34:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressKrystal "Man" or "Woman" is NOT listed on your drivers licence! I don't have a drivers lisence, but I do have a state ID. I was asked for my sex, not my gender.

feastie -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:38:33 PM)
That's because sex is a shorter word and fits on the form better.

outofhabit -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:45:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: feastie 2 a : SEX *<the feminine gender> b : the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex* How you personally identify your gender is up to you, but gender is sex. The second definition I would agree is a definition of gender, but while it is related to sex it is still not sex. But, if we will take your definition that gender is sex, what sex is a transperson who has never been and currently isn't using hormones or had surgery? Intersex activists are very sensitive to trans people appropriating the term intersex to describe their bodies since trans people not born intersex generally did not experience the medical abuse that intersex people have...since genderqueer is not a sex and it's offensive for them to describe themselves as intersex, what sex are people who consider themselves neither man or woman? For reasons such as this, I think differentiating sex (as a biological construct) and gender (as a social role construct) is useful.

outofhabit -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:48:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: feastie That's because sex is a shorter word and fits on the form better. I doubt that. Increasingly I've seen large groups that ask for sex use "gender" instead of sex (almost exclusively inaccurately).

stef -> RE: Trans as a Gender on Profiles (5/29/2006 12:55:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld I am open for suggestion if you have a better word. How about 'themselves?' ~stef

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