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ORIGINAL: MistressSteele

I personally feel that you cannot fully submit if you do not love your Master or Mistress and the same goes for the Dominants as well. To surrender you must be able to trust them with your whole being. Also I think Love is needed for any relationship to last long term.

Just my .02

Mistress Steele

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ORIGINAL: sweetieboop
I haven't read all the posts on this, but I'm curious why most of the ones that I have read, assume that showing affection and appreciation is a weakness. I would feel wonderful if my Master sent me flowers (only I like white roses. LOL!) and a note like that. I wouldn't even consider the thought of it being a weakness. I would think of it as a reminder of what I mean to him. Personally, it's a wonderful feeling when I know that my Master is proud of me, or appreciates me, or loves me for who I am. Knowing that I can please him doesn't make me want to take advantage of him. It just makes me want to please him more.

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Your question more or less answers itself katerina. You wonder. Any collared slave or submissive would. What exactly does this mean.? Can you now manipulate your dominant or master because they are so taken with you? Will they bend to your will rather than risk losing you? If you are like most of the women that I have known over the years, you'll try and find out. You won't feel secure until you do. You'll test and probe, to see if there is weakness there that you can exploit. You probably won't even know that you are doing it, except maybe in hindsight. If you do find that your dominant is so smitten that you can bend them, or wrap them around your finger, it's the beginning of the end.

Leonidas

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ORIGINAL: Katerina

The note reads: For you, the love and passion of my life. My strength and wisdom, the vessel that is always full and ready to quench my needs; the courage to endure and remain loyal and true and one with my soul; my light and vision, the fulfillment of all my dreams.

Would your perception of them change? Would they seem, somehow, less dominant, less in control? Would you, as a sub or slave, see a weakness there, you may not have seen before?

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Your question more or less answers itself katerina. You wonder. Any collared slave or submissive would. What exactly does this mean.? Can you now manipulate your dominant or master because they are so taken with you? Will they bend to your will rather than risk losing you? If you are like most of the women that I have known over the years, you'll try and find out. You won't feel secure until you do. You'll test and probe, to see if there is weakness there that you can exploit. You probably won't even know that you are doing it, except maybe in hindsight. If you do find that your dominant is so smitten that you can bend them, or wrap them around your finger, it's the beginning of the end.

What I am saying here certainly applies more to Master/slave relations than it does for couples whose D/s lifestyle begins and ends in the bedroom. If D/s is just about play time for you, then it certainly can coexist just fine with romantic notions of mutual devotion and heartfelt professions of undying love. My experience is that consentual slavery doesn't mix so well with classical notions of romance. That isn't to say that there isn't deep affection and even love in such relationships, the dynamics are just very different.

Take care of yourself.

Leonidas

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ORIGINAL: Katerina

Would your perception of them change? Would they seem, somehow, less dominant, less in control? Would you, as a sub or slave, see a weakness there, you may not have seen before?

Do romance and domination live in the same bed, walk down the same road, or are they forever separated when Dom/me and sub make that committment to each other along the dusty crossroads of life?

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ORIGINAL: Katerina

hypothetical....
Your Master/Mistress, Dom/me walks throught the door or stops by your house, or sends it by courier...a dozen yellow roses and a box of chocolates.

You know he/she is not trying to make up for some bumbling error they committed on your body or being, nor did you catch them with the tramp next door.

The note reads: For you, the love and passion of my life. My strength and wisdom, the vessel that is always full and ready to quench my needs; the courage to endure and remain loyal and true and one with my soul; my light and vision, the fulfillment of all my dreams.

Would your perception of them change? Would they seem, somehow, less dominant, less in control? Would you, as a sub or slave, see a weakness there, you may not have seen before?

Or would you just accept the gifts, in the spirit they were given, as the note implies, and not wonder if the other shoe is somehow, about to drop?

Do romance and domination live in the same bed, walk down the same road, or are they forever separated when Dom/me and sub make that committment to each other along the dusty crossroads of life?

Be safe and well,
katerina

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ORIGINAL: SAMANTHALYNNE

PLEASE STAY AWAY FROM DOMINATION AS FAR AS YOU CAN
SINCERELY
SAMANTHALYNNE
DOMINATION IS A SIN AGAINST EVERYONE THAT IS BEING DOMINATED AND IF A PERSON REALLY LOVES YOU THEN THEY WOULD NOT BE THREATENED BY FREEDOM,AND IF SOMEONE REALLY LOVES THEN THEY WOULD LET YOU BE FREE AND THEY WOULD NOT LET YOU BE TRAPPED IN DOMINATION THEY WOULD SET YOU FREE
I FOUND OUT THAT DOMINATION IS BAD THE HARD WAY,STAY AWAY FROM DOMINATION IT WILL ONLY HURT ALL THOSE WHO ARE TRAPPED BY IT.