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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/18/2011 4:03:58 PM

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Yes.., it has, but I don't see my progression as a ladder..

To me it's something more like a band, with each individual kink like a song.. like the Beatles, the Mamas and Papas, the Rolling Stones, The Who, or even Status Quo.

This is where I got the inspiration behind the term I use One Kink Wonder.. the male submissive with the predominant obsession with painted toenails is a bit like Norman Greenbaum's 'Spirit In The Sky'

Taking The Who as an example smashing guitars and exploding drums playing 'My Generation' is such a blast in the beginning, but then you move on .. 'Baba O'Reilly', 'Behind Blue Eyes', 'Won't Get Fooled Again' and so on..

Might even go through a 'concept' phase, like 'Pinball Wizard', 'The Wall' (as in Pink Floyd) or 'The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway' (Genesis).

I assume that most people are like The Kinks, Bay City Rollers, Showaddywaddy, The Byrds, Racey, Madness, etc and they reach a point where the hits stop and they're just happy with the repertoire.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/18/2011 4:13:03 PM

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There seems to be a few people in hewre who only listen to black metal and grindcore using that metaphor though...

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/18/2011 6:34:37 PM

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Sing it with me now...........

♪♫ Well we're movin on up,
ouch, my backside!
I finally got a taste of the crop
Moo-oovin on up
no need for astroglide
I now take every inch, non-stop ♪♫

That darn song has been in my head since I read this thread this morning.
I just had to get it out of there! Pardon please?

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/18/2011 7:05:23 PM

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Too cute poise!

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 12:11:40 AM

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Not sure what that has to do with the topic.

i was thinking of the kink ladder in a different way. when i did get involved in it, because i was new i was the person of least importance which led to me feeling worthless, which was the opposite of what i had hoped to get out of the lifestyle. i'm sorry if my comment wasn't on topic. don't take much of what i say seriously

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 4:47:45 AM

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FR:
I always thought that the kink ladder was something in a dungeon that they handcuffed you to before getting the cane out...

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 6:05:22 AM

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I've never felt like I was climbing a kink ladder or experimenting or trying or learning new things.

I never had any kinks that I wanted to try or learn about. I simply met men I was attracted to for a long term relationship and obeyed..simple as that. I guess my kinks adapt to the kinks of the man I am with.

A very nice reply. Surely, the kink is less important than the person with whom you enage in it?I can engage with increasingly larger butt plugs; but I'd prefer to have someone I like and respect (other than me, of course!) on the other end of them! That's what makes it worthwhile.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 7:14:27 AM

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I've never felt like I was climbing a kink ladder or experimenting or trying or learning new things.

I never had any kinks that I wanted to try or learn about. I simply met men I was attracted to for a long term relationship and obeyed..simple as that. I guess my kinks adapt to the kinks of the man I am with.

A very nice reply. Surely, the kink is less important than the person with whom you enage in it?I can engage with increasingly larger butt plugs; but I'd prefer to have someone I like and respect (other than me, of course!) on the other end of them! That's what makes it worthwhile.

What matters to me is the person. I can take or leave the kink. If one day the kink was to stop altogether I'd still be perfectly fine with it as long as he was still the person I adore and fell in love with.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 8:06:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Higuysitsme

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I've never felt like I was climbing a kink ladder or experimenting or trying or learning new things.

I never had any kinks that I wanted to try or learn about. I simply met men I was attracted to for a long term relationship and obeyed..simple as that. I guess my kinks adapt to the kinks of the man I am with.

A very nice reply. Surely, the kink is less important than the person with whom you enage in it?I can engage with increasingly larger butt plugs; but I'd prefer to have someone I like and respect (other than me, of course!) on the other end of them! That's what makes it worthwhile.

What matters to me is the person. I can take or leave the kink. If one day the kink was to stop altogether I'd still be perfectly fine with it as long as he was still the person I adore and fell in love with.

I think one could argue quite successfully that without the kink he would not be the person that you adore and fell in love with.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 8:12:40 AM

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and I'd argue that it wasn't the kink I fell in love with, it was his personality. The moment I met him there was not even a hint of kink and we never even really talked kink when we would email.

We go long stretches without any kind of kink. I've yet to fall out of love with him.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 2:36:16 PM

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and I'd argue that it wasn't the kink I fell in love with, it was his personality. The moment I met him there was not even a hint of kink and we never even really talked kink when we would email.

I agree. Strange how this is such a foreign concept to some, isn't it?!! Personally, I've always viewed what some may view as "kink" as merely the icing-on-the-cake -- but not the cake.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 2:37:29 PM

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I wasnt implying that kink had to be a factor in any relationship. Yours dont, kudos to you. Other people love theirs. This wasnt meant to be a "my relationship is better than theirs because ___ ".. kind of thread. Which is why I said the type of kink didnt matter.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 2:39:42 PM

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quote:

I agree. Strange how this is such a foreign concept to some, isn't it?!! Personally, I've always viewed what some may view as "kink" as merely the icing-on-the-cake -- but not the cake.

Did I miss where someone said it was the whole enchilada? Please point that out to me so I can clear up any misconceptions.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 3:13:17 PM

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Another had stated, "...one could argue quite successfully that without the kink he would not be the person that you adore and fell in love with."

Thus, the above incorrectly assumes/implies: No Kink = No Love = No Enchilada.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 3:44:47 PM

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What the Lil'one does not mention is that whether or not we are engaging in externalized kink, we are ALWAYS engaging in the power dynamic, which has nuances that reach far far into every area of life.
So this cat would argue that we are always engaged in some sort of kink, it's just that sometimes it's far less tangible to the outside eye.

But I know it's present. She knows it's present (oh ko, how she knows).
Whether anyone else does is irrelevant.

The great thing about this is that it allows for some wonderful stuff that can be done with subtlety in public-for instance I've tortured her brutally laying on a crowded public beach surrounded by people, using nothing but hands, teeth, ideas, mind games and words. Meanwhile, anyone around us would have only seen two people snuggling, maybe even thought, "Oh, how cute, they are so in love," while she was going mad with agony and the discipline to hold it in.

That there was some good times...

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 4:46:15 PM

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and I'd argue that it wasn't the kink I fell in love with, it was his personality. The moment I met him there was not even a hint of kink and we never even really talked kink when we would email.

We go long stretches without any kind of kink. I've yet to fall out of love with him.

And I would say that even though at times your not doing the kink and that is still a part of who the 2 of your are about. Read who he is as a person. Without that element in his life you 2 may have never clicked in the first place. That is the point Im attempting to make and doing a poor job of it.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 4:55:26 PM

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Another had stated, "...one could argue quite successfully that without the kink he would not be the person that you adore and fell in love with."

Thus, the above incorrectly assumes/implies: No Kink = No Love = No Enchilada.

I can see that point though. If you change one aspect of a personality, would you not also being changing the whole personality?

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 4:58:17 PM

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Thank you Kana for bringing that up. Which is what I was trying to point out in post 40. Kink isnt always about a flogger or whip.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 5:24:05 PM

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quote:

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and I'd argue that it wasn't the kink I fell in love with, it was his personality. The moment I met him there was not even a hint of kink and we never even really talked kink when we would email.

We go long stretches without any kind of kink. I've yet to fall out of love with him.

And I would say that even though at times your not doing the kink and that is still a part of who the 2 of your are about. Read who he is as a person. Without that element in his life you 2 may have never clicked in the first place. That is the point I'm attempting to make and doing a poor job of it.

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RE: Climbing the kink ladder - 12/20/2011 5:33:20 PM

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and I'd argue that it wasn't the kink I fell in love with, it was his personality. The moment I met him there was not even a hint of kink and we never even really talked kink when we would email.

We go long stretches without any kind of kink. I've yet to fall out of love with him.

Going along in agreement with the recent tone of this thread, the kinkiness is apart of the personality.

We are who we are, and have the dynamic we have no matter what we are doing. It's part of what makes things so good.

What's amazing to me is how little we realize how poorly behaved we are until we're around our families.

Like the time he called me a cunt in front of my mom.

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