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caelestis -> RE: Extreme BDSM / Fetishes (12/19/2011 12:48:35 AM)
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Oddly enough, a friend and I were having a discussion along these lines just a few days ago. Certain things a good portion of people find edgy, we're more like "Eh, its a Tuesday thing." and shrug it off. Perfect example... about a year or two ago I went to a cutting class done by Michael Sol, in which he told a story about how he was asked to leave a kink convention (I don't remember which one) because within a cutting scene, he cut off a tiny bit of flesh from the woman, and "forced" her to eat it.
Both of us had a general wtf reaction. The girl it happened with wasn't calling red on the action, it had been previously negotiated, and there wasn't even an issue of cross-contamination. Hell, I think it'd be hot to do, but only with the right partner who had the right amount of experience and with lots of safety discussion prior. I also didn't realize a lot of asthmatics don't like breath play, until I talked to a few other people who had it, and it was a hard limit of theirs. People I play with are always aware I have it, my rescue inhaler is always within reach, and it'd never crossed my mind not to engage in breath play, because I fucking love it.
So really, its all pretty relative to the people involved. There are a lot of things I find insanely hot that some people would say I should see a therapist for. Some other people have kinks I think the same thing about. However, if I happen to have some huge moral abhorrence to what they're doing, I simply don't participate or don't watch whats going on. They're consenting adults, and I have no place telling them what is right or what is wrong (obvious exception being if I feel something severely dangerous is going on, then I'll alert a DM and have them decide, since its their space).
I don't pretend to have some almighty knowledge of just where that line between kinky and unhealthy is, because for every single act I enjoy, there is a group of people out there who would tell me I'm just fucked in the head to want something like that. So I just go into everything I do with as much research and as many safety precautions under my belt as possible, and weight the risks and rewards. If the rewards win, I can do what I want with a relative amount of safety, then I do it. Simple as that.
((Excuse the rambling post, its nearly three in the morning here [:D]))
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