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Aswad -> RE: Why dont Masters consider Tv/CD gurls? (12/18/2011 1:42:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: EmiliannaRose
i am just curious to know why most Masters dont consider tv/cd gurls.
I'll bite.
For the average straight male dom, I expect you simply don't register as female, or even particularly feminine. There's a vast difference, in my experience, between the CD peeps and the TS and IS peeps, in terms of the sheer amount of effort that goes into creating, cultivating and internalizing a consistent and coherent identity with all attendant mannerisms for the relevant gender.
For the average gay male dom, I will hazard a wild guess that your CD interest should be filed under "stuff about me", not "what defines me and the relationship I seek", but since I'm not gay, I can only guess at that. If I met a girl that liked to CD the other way around, I wouldn't find that a turnoff. But I would want to discover that about them as a part of the process. Having someone PM me as a girl, and presenting CD as an important activity for them would work fine. Having someone PM me as a CD instead, by contrast, would give me pause.
I might still give such a person a shot, but there's a difference between CD being a part of someone's life that I can support them in, and CD being a defining aspect of who they are and want to be in the context of a relationship. The latter would require far more effort on their part to pass as natural, and I simply don't see any evidence of that in your profile or your posting.
Also, it's a good idea to point out whether you're looking for a romantic relationship or a partner for casual play or something else. And, of course, whether you're looking to live crossed over, looking to cross regularly or occasionally, or simply think it's a fun thing to do once in a while. And if it's something you think is fun to do once in a while, it's probably a good idea to point out whether you're planning on doing it in the bedroom, in your daily life, or both.
With the way you've presented yourself, it's rather hard not to dismiss you.
Consider taking some of the above advice to remedy that.
Health,
al-Aswad.
P.S.: Implying that one group of people is more loyal or giving than another is a really quick way to offend tons of people here and elsewhere. There are groups where one might claim that there is some basis for that assertion. I've found a lot of aspies to be more tightly bound once they let you in, compared to the average with NTs, but I've also seen some exquisite examples of the opposite. Even so, I would not make a blank check claim on the basis of my experiences. And were it to be truth, it would still not be a good sales pitch. So, in short, don't do that; you're starting several places behind the field as it is.
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