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chocolateeyes46 -> new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:30:01 PM)
I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer?

mnottertail -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:31:20 PM)
lol, I'm a guy, so I wont even bother wishing you an insincere good luck.

DaddySatyr -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:38:48 PM)
Funny, there may be some people that are vagina-deficient that might have some good ideas for you. Here's my suggestion: Discrediting half of the population limits your potential. Welcome. Peace and comfort, Michael

poise -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:45:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chocolateeyes46 I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advise, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer? I would first ask you how you can determine his worth as a dominant if you are so very new to the lifestyle. Have you met him in person? Do you know how he treats his mother, his children, or animals? I would also caution you to not assume that being under consideration is some lofty position, as it often means someone has their hands in quite a few pieces of pie already, and use that term as a way to keep them all eagerly awaiting his next word. Remember, he is also under your consideration until you decide to give him authority over you. He has to earn that right just as much as you do. This site is a great place to interact with others and learn more not only about the lifestyle, but also about yourself and what you may want out of it. I hope you enjoy your time here.

Lockit -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:48:19 PM)
Wonder if her worthy dominant foresaw the reality she would find here, especially from the females. No offense to the men... but if her dom was afraid of someone domly stealing her away... he should now know that he had more to fear from the females. lol Lesson for them both.

DaddySatyr -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:51:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Do you know how he treats his mother, his children, or animals? Wow! I'm screwed! LOL I haven't talked to my mom in 11 years, My boys are all grown (and it's the old story of my opening line in every phone conversation being: You never call me, anymore) and I hate rats! Peace and comfort, Michael

tazzygirl -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:54:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chocolateeyes46 I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer? Im curious as to why you would discount the advice of men. Many who post to these threads have partners and arent looking for another. Many of the women here, myself included, value their opinions. Quite a few are flirts, but they do respect the property of others. Btw, I miss Charlotte. Great city!

searching4mysir -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:54:42 PM)
FR Dear OP, Being "under consideration" is BS. Sorry, but it is true. It is the equivalent of dating in the vanilla world. There is no commitment on his part, so frankly there shouldn't be on yours either. Test him just as much as he tests you. Don't give in to sub frenzy and just take the first guy that seems to take a liking to you. Watch his feet, not his lips (actions speak louder than words). You are new to the lifestyle? Pick up a copy of "The Loving Dominant" or "Screw the Roses".

poise -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:57:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr quote: ORIGINAL: poise Do you know how he treats his mother, his children, or animals? Wow! I'm screwed! LOL I haven't talked to my mom in 11 years, My boys are all grown (and it's the old story of my opening line in every phone conversation being: You never call me, anymore) and I hate rats! Peace and comfort, Michael It's never too late. :)

Lockit -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 4:59:21 PM)
[:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]

DarkSteven -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 5:31:48 PM)
Your profile says that not only do you not wish to talk to men, you don't want to talk with Dommes either. That said, I disagree with searching4mysir about being under consideration. To me, it's analogous to living together prior to marriage - a trial prior to real commitment. Searching4mysir may have been alluding to the fact that some "Doms" will place women under consideration to keep them off the market while they themselves play the field. I'd advise you to read up in this forum and the Ask a Master forum, as well as General BDSM. Follow the discussions. If you have any questions, I'd advise you going through your Dom to get his take. The basic situation is that what you and your Dom agree upon, is what really matters. However, make sure he knows what he's doing if he tries alcohol enemas, fire play, whips, or other things that require a high level of skill to keep safe. Welcome to the lifestyle.

poise -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 5:52:24 PM)
I just got a delightful email from the OP, and she assures me, with a few examples, that this man has good intentions. She also addressed the other concerns regarding isolating her interactions with just female submissives, but as she spends more time here on the boards, she will come to realize that isnt an easy task, as all of us post just about anywhere, regardless of gender. [:D] Welcome again to the message boards, chocolateeyes, I'm sure you will enjoy it here.

tazzygirl -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 6:23:01 PM)
Good to hear poise. Seems a little pointless to start a discussion then not join in.

Lockit -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 6:35:23 PM)
LOL Ridiculous. Just fucking ridiculous.

DarkSteven -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 6:52:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise I just got a delightful email from the OP, and she assures me, with a few examples, that this man has good intentions. She also addressed the other concerns regarding isolating her interactions with just female submissives, but as she spends more time here on the boards, she will come to realize that isnt an easy task, as all of us post just about anywhere, regardless of anything whatsoever. [:D] Welcome again to the message boards, chocolateeyes, I'm sure you will enjoy it here. Fixed.

searching4mysir -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 7:08:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven To me, it's analogous to living together prior to marriage - a trial prior to real commitment. DS - I don't live with anyone without a real commitment. But I agree, it is more or less used to take someone off the market while still "dipping their pen in any well that will let them".

EmilyRocks -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 7:16:36 PM)
quote: That said, I disagree with searching4mysir about being under consideration. To me, it's analogous to living together prior to marriage I'm sorry, you're usually very sensible, but that was a stupid thing to say. Really, really, really stupid.

LafayetteLady -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 9:29:14 PM)
Certainly, it is nice to know it would seem her potential dominant has decent intentions, but it also sounds as though she posted here, so people could respond and she could pick and choose who she wanted to respond to through an email. Not the most productive use of the boards to say the least. It also means that a good number of people might not respond at all to her posts if she is never going to respond in the thread.

Lockit -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 10:31:48 PM)
How many men pose as women on this site? Lots. I see no reason why an adult cannot communicate with anyone and handle whatever might happen. Isolating submissive women... who can take care of themselves... still seems a little odd to me. You don't even know that you are talking to a submissive woman. That may not be what is happening here... but can you see where the questions might come up? An adult should be able to communicate with people in general on the boards... and then be able to handle themselves in an adult world... whether they are new to something or not. Submissives are not lost children that need to be guided. Coming in wanting help to see something the way another submissive views it... may be totally wrong for someone else. Why would a dom send someone out to learn about things from strangers that could give information he would totally reject? Hell, I would be all over teaching my way and view and then saying... go the boards.. read some things and would be with them and review it all... but isolate other submissives? I think not. I can see where learning how other submissives feel about things is of worth... one can search the boards and can also make some friends.. but walking in the door... expecting to call some shots on how, with whom and all that.... Maybe I am jaded or expect a lot... but something just stinks to high heaven to me about this.

FrostedFlake -> RE: new sub female looking for help (12/18/2011 11:05:27 PM)
quote: ChocolateEyes I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Hmmmm... quote: Lockit How many men pose as women on this site? Lots. Hmmm... Checking...DAMN! Well, see you in the funny papers!

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