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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/25/2011 11:30:12 PM

MissImmortalPain

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I think your question contradicts itself because even a diamond in the rough knows it is a diamond. It doesn't get desperate or depressed while looking for the setting that will allow it to shine for the world to see. If you were to ask if there are dom/mes that don't seek perfect people to match them than the answer would be yes, there are. Most of us are aware there is no such thing as perfect.

I would respectfully disagree. I think it is often that the good guys and galls need encouragement in the form of someone saying "If only every guy/gal were like you..." Sometimes we forget that because we view ourselves more harshly. Who is a "diamond" must then be determined by everyone else but one's self in my view.

Exactlly what is it that you are disagreeing with. That a diamond doesn't know it is a diamond unless someone tells it that it is? If so you and I think differently about diamonds. Diamonds don't become pretty and worth owning because someone put them on a pillow and told them they aren't a dirty little rock. Diamonds become what they are because they have been through a lot of pressure that other rocks couldnt stand up to. If you are trying to say that you know you are wonderful and just can't find some woman to tell you the same I would "respectuflly" have to guess that you have your head up your butt. When any person is a wonderful being others take note of it. People flock toward those worth being around. And though I was trying to be nice in my first answer, and am still now, perhaps I was to kind. People do not expect perfect, but they do not want a lazy, narcissitic, sissy either. And please explain to me how telling someone "If only every guy/gal were like you..." asks them to make better of themself? By the way I don't know where you are pulling your information from but from what I have seen over the years "we" view others a great deal more harshly than we do ourselves, but perhaps you are speaking from a point of view I do not personally have.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/25/2011 11:33:41 PM

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While personally, I like that you are desperate (because you loose, I get the Domme!) ...

you are not going to get undesperate, by saying you are ... or adding that you are depressed!

Who wants a bunch of @$@$@$ for a relationship!

Clearly you don't ... so why would a women be attracted to your darkness?

You are playing the body ... and looking for your mother ...

Some young guys pull try that act, and have for generations.

You will loose with it, period.

Get a life ... as all the Ladies say ...

PS: Just counted six Dommes on your profile. Why aren't you asking them ?????

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 9:12:48 AM

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If a slave offers himself to me in the first email he sends, and begs me to own him without getting to know me as a person first.... I qualify those types as desperate subs. To be honest, they bring up my ever so cynical & suspicious hackles, and its a distinct turn off. I usually assume that sub has sent the same inquiry to dozens of dommes hoping for a bite...

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 9:19:26 AM

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I usually assume that sub has sent the same inquiry to dozens of dommes hoping for a bite...

I totally agree. I used to get loads where you could tell they'd sent the same thing to others and not even read your profile. It was no wonder I was so taken by my now partner's first message. It was very well thought out, well written, he showed he'd read my profile fully, and he didn't come across as desperate in any way, so it made a refreshing change. I'd had other interesting and well thought out messages off others, of course, but his was pretty special. I think it just takes that special one to hit the spot, really. It's a pity more of the subs on here can't grasp that idea...

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 10:55:49 AM

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You're like those polished crystals DeBeers shows, Niney!

naaah a blood diamond morelike.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 10:58:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistrixMsE

If a slave offers himself to me in the first email he sends, and begs me to own him without getting to know me as a person first.... I qualify those types as desperate subs. To be honest, they bring up my ever so cynical & suspicious hackles, and its a distinct turn off. I usually assume that sub has sent the same inquiry to dozens of dommes hoping for a bite...

I've done this on occasion as there are so many profiles up with nothing to make a tangible connection. if that connection is there then 90% of first mails get a reply.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 11:42:54 AM

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Instant turnoff for me, too.

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If a slave offers himself to me in the first email he sends, and begs me to own him without getting to know me as a person first.... I qualify those types as desperate subs.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 12:00:12 PM

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If a sub isn't happy without me, that sub isn't going to be happy with me, either. Let subs manage their own depression first, and then I'll be interested in managing our relationship.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 4:12:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: Futuresocks

I don't mean those hollow souls who demand only kink satisfaction for commitment-less thrills, but those who seem lost in their own depression in the search for that special lady. Is desperation a no-fail turn-off, or are there any ladies here who will go a bit longer to look for that occasional down-in-the-dumps diamond in the rough?

oh, honey. you are a unique snowflake of unique uniqueness. don't listen to anybody who tells you otherwise, and never change! <3

yours in christ,

thurston francis boxwine, esquire

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 5:13:37 PM

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tHIS THREAD HAS GOT sooo far off topic! A desperate sub is just that and if anyone is willing to deal with them they have to be somewhat desperate too but thats life.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 5:17:55 PM

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it's what we do best.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 5:38:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

tHIS THREAD HAS GOT sooo far off topic! A desperate sub is just that and if anyone is willing to deal with them they have to be somewhat desperate too but thats life.

that's just, like, your interpretation, dude.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 5:40:08 PM

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Got to love all the new posters!

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/26/2011 5:43:40 PM

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Got to love all the new posters!

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/27/2011 12:53:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyXandreia

If a sub isn't happy without me, that sub isn't going to be happy with me, either. Let subs manage their own depression first, and then I'll be interested in managing our relationship.

Amen, sister.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/27/2011 11:13:30 AM

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Versus MissImmortalPain, I don't think that diamonds are at all aware of their value. This is because they're just stones and as such, aren't capable of being self-aware. I thought that was one of the essential points about, and attractions of, 'diamonds in the rough': that they have an attraction that they don't understand at all. Quite the opposite: they consider themselves schmucks, low-lifes and a million miles from 'white knight'.

Also: I just thought that I'd gently mention that a few Dommes I know - including a couple who've written on this thread - I consider to be 'diamonds in the rough'. That is: they're much more valuable than they think they are; or, indeed, would probably ever believe.

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RE: Dommes: How Do You Feel About Desperate Subs? - 12/27/2011 6:27:49 PM

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Desperation is like cock shots - never a good idea to show online; or in any other forum for that matter. Positivity and good humour are far more attractive attributes to offer up to a prospective partner, and much more likely to lead to a good response. So like your cock, its usually best to keep the amount of your desperation hidden! And 'diamonds in the rough'? What's that about? Women on here, like most dating sites, have far too much choice to want to bother searching through the messages and profiles of guys who don't or are unable to present themselves positively. To have a reasonable chance, a visit to a good gem polisher would be a useful idea!

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