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Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 12:22:15 PM   
Lily315


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Status: offline 		Please tell me if this is normal.

Do Dom's show lots of interest in a sub and then as time goes on show less.

If so why?
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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 12:27:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's normal for someone to lose interest just like regular dating.  If you are "involved" with someone who is suddenly showing you less interest, ask them why and if you don't like the answer move on. 

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 12:54:30 PM   
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It's normal for someone to lose interest just like regular dating.  If you are "involved" with someone who is suddenly showing you less interest, ask them why and if you don't like the answer move on. 


I totally agree. If you're just starting a new relationship, or even just finding someone to have as a play partner, communication is extremely important. Good luck.

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 1:07:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lily315

Please tell me if this is normal.

Do Dom's show lots of interest in a sub and then as time goes on show less.

If so why?



First, it's not a "Dom thing"... Dom/Dommes, subs, bottoms, Tops, Masters, slaves, or whatever are not some different species from the human race.

Second, here's ---> THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION





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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 2:07:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thats a shame if you thinks he not that into me

oh well I guess if that is the fact then I will get a nice vacation going out to where he is

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 2:17:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hope you have a good vacation, but I hope you haven't put too much hope into something developing with him as I'm sure he'd have shown more interest instead of less, to be honest. I could be wrong, of course, but good luck, anyway.

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 2:27:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		So you have not actually ever met him?  In that case, it does seem as though he may have moved on to his next conquest.

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 3:51:06 PM   
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The wife looked at the husband and said "why can't you do that"
The husband looked back at her and said "I could, but that bull doesn't have to fuck the same cow every time."


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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 3:51:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is not a "Dom" thing, it can be a guy thing however, or a woman thing. In general if someone loses interest then that's that, move on. That's all you can do since you can't change things on his end. 

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 4:04:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lily315

Thats a shame if you thinks he not that into me

oh well I guess if that is the fact then I will get a nice vacation going out to where he is



It could be a "Holidays are a busy time of year thing" or he is less vested than you at this point... .

He also may just not be good at sustaining interest and showing it long distance.
He hasn't canceled your trip; do you know how much time you might be spending together and do you have a plan B in case you aren't compatible?



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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 4:35:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		He's lost interest in you....or in other words...he's just not that into you.



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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 4:40:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am looking at it this way  if his interested he he will let me know when i get out there he has my flight info.

I have wanted to visit his area for a while good photo op and check out the area. If we hook up and things look good cool  and we have some fun even better if not
live and learn.  Its my first real vacation in 5 years.

thank you all for for the info


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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 4:57:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know how things played out, but did he start avoiding contact with you after plans were made to have you visit him? Maybe the dose of reality made him reconsider. Maybe he is married and having you come out there is different now then being able to carry on with you on the internet...?

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 5:10:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sweetie he likely has no intention of ever meeting you in person.

Be careful about your own feelings and expectations about the trip, it might be worth cancelling. Forlornly waiting for a phone call that's not coming while in a strange place is not a good time.

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 5:27:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lily315

Please tell me if this is normal.

Do Dom's show lots of interest in a sub and then as time goes on show less.

If so why?



He came...

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 6:29:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lizi

I don't know how things played out, but did he start avoiding contact with you after plans were made to have you visit him? Maybe the dose of reality made him reconsider. Maybe he is married and having you come out there is different now then being able to carry on with you on the internet...?



If the answer is yes then my guess is he has no intention on meeting you, or if he does it will be for a quickie.

Is there another great place you want to visit and can you change your plans?... if the answer to the above is yes.


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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 7:02:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		As far as I know, doms are human beings that show interest in what they are interested in, and when they lose interest in something, they move on. Submissives do the same thing. When they are interested in something they show interest. When not, they move on.

Ive heard toddlers do the same thing .... In fact my cat shows those same traits!!! .. GODSMACK!!!

ugh....

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 7:07:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		there is always a honeymoon period for all relationships. Also if you started with micromanagement- that gets tedious over time. Eventually things will settle down and get into more routine.

Some people actually have a problem with that and jump from person to person because they are sort of addicted to the honeymoon period rushes.

That is why there are so many books about "How to keep the Sparks Flying, Wake up the Marriage" etc. Vanilla and bdsm people have that issue going. It is a part of human nature

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 9:17:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JanahX

As far as I know, doms are human beings that show interest in what they are interested in, and when they lose interest in something, they move on. Submissives do the same thing. When they are interested in something they show interest. When not, they move on.

Ive heard toddlers do the same thing .... In fact my cat shows those same traits!!! .. GODSMACK!!!

ugh....


That pretty well sums it up. (Janah, love what you have done with your hair by the way.)

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RE: Dom's ? - 12/24/2011 9:41:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lily315,

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm still waiting for your answer to LafayetteLady's question:
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady
So you have not actually ever met him?

So, HAVE you?????

NBMG

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