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Kana -> RE: Dom's ? (12/25/2011 6:57:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sheisreeds

Sweetie he likely has no intention of ever meeting you in person.



This.

If the talk shifts from all hot and heavy to recalcitrant once meeting became an imminent reality, I would suspect there never was an intent to meet.
Next thing ya know, he'll be telling you bout his dead Mother/Father/ Brother/ Third Cousin twice removed Sal...



Killerangel -> RE: Dom's ? (12/25/2011 8:55:49 AM)

I'm sorry, he has no intention of meeting you on this trip. If he did want to, he'd be all over things now making plans with you, it's very telling that he disappeared from contact right about the time of this trip. Maybe he's married.

Whatever he's hiding if I were you I'd try to change the trip plans and go somewhere else. You're setting yourself up to be disappointed by carrying through with the plans. No matter that you say you'll be fine with whatever happens, I bet you'll still be looking around for him to hopefully show up, and it'll make you sad when he doesn't - who wants that overshadowing a vacation?



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Dom's ? (12/25/2011 12:22:59 PM)

Jeepz, OP, I hope YOU didn't pay for the airfare...

Sorry, this doesn't bode well. How 'bout you go find a nice beach instead. Relax, and enjoy your vacation. Have a happy New Year.



Lily315 -> RE: Dom's ? (12/26/2011 5:27:14 PM)

no I have not met him in person.

I really looking forward to going out there. I have traveled through the area lots time and I love photography
I have want to go out do that photos for a couple of years he is just the excuse for me to go.

look for an update the 2 week of J an I will let you guys know how it went.

and really do thank you all for your answers.






risktaker9 -> RE: Dom's ? (12/26/2011 6:09:37 PM)

Well ok then Lily! I sincerely hope you enjoy your trip and don't get too disappointed in this guy. Have a great time then!



ThisIsUs -> RE: Dom's ? (12/26/2011 10:03:13 PM)

oops posted from wrong again...be right back lol



NuevaVida -> RE: Dom's ? (12/26/2011 10:04:33 PM)

What a great perspective you have.  Yes, it looks like he lost interest, but now you get to visit an area you've been wanting to photograph, so go have fun and enjoy yourself.  



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 12:21:15 AM)

Have a good trip, Lily. We'll look forward to hearing about it, even if the guy part doesn't work out. Happy picture taking! (Maybe you'd like to post one here :-)



hjalmar -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 10:04:21 AM)

dommes are mean by nature. Love it it avoid it.

D



CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 2:39:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hjalmar

dommes are mean by nature. Love it it avoid it.

D


I am NOT "mean by nature".

There's a difference between erotic sadism and having permanent PMS.



OsideGirl -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 3:36:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: slaverachel2Him

there is always a honeymoon period for all relationships.
There would have to be A relationship for there to be a honeymoon period.....



lizi -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 5:20:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hjalmar

dommes are mean by nature. Love it it avoid it.

D


Interesting random piece of crap generalization that means nothing and certainly isn't true. Besides Sparky, this thread isn't about Dommes. You might try reading a bit first to get a handle on things before adding a statement that the aliens in your brain dictated to you last night in your sleep.



Lily315 -> RE: Dom's ? (12/27/2011 5:32:36 PM)

Thank You lizi
I have been lucky enough to have had fair but firm Dom's  They have made what they expect of me very clear and as long
as i did what was expected of me I was shown respect and love when it was the right time.

lily

P.S. heard from the Dom today talked on the phone but i am staying opened minded



kalikshama -> RE: Doms who stop communicating (12/28/2011 4:11:53 AM)

So what did he say?



CoreFocus -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 4:14:21 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lily315

Please tell me if this is normal.

Do Dom's show lots of interest in a sub and then as time goes on show less.

If so why?




peoples words often conflict with their actions.



stellauk -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 4:57:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lily315

Please tell me if this is normal.

Do Dom's show lots of interest in a sub and then as time goes on show less.

If so why?



Normal? There's no such thing as normal. Not least in relationships between people.

However it's normal for a superficial relationship to be flaky. To avoid this get to know your own value and that of the other person and avoid creating superficial relationships.



lizi -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 7:26:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lily315

Thank You lizi
I have been lucky enough to have had fair but firm Dom's  They have made what they expect of me very clear and as long
as i did what was expected of me I was shown respect and love when it was the right time.

lily

P.S. heard from the Dom today talked on the phone but i am staying opened minded



So like Kali asked...what did he say in this phone exchange? There isn't much he can do to explain his dropping out of sight that would carry much weight, it still seems likely that your vacation will be a solo one. Or the vacation might be you and he and a great time, and he blows you off after. I mean I wish I could tell you differently since it seems that you're still hoping it will work out, but it doesn't look promising.

Honestly Lily, I'm trying not to jump to conclusions here but he doesn't really seem to be much of a catch. I hate to demonize people without knowing the whole story, but with the limited information at hand, this guy seems to be playing around with things online to suit himself, and he doesn't seem to be worthy of your respect. It just seems off. It also seems that you are trying mightily to make it work because you've invested some feelings into it. Please just try to see things clearly and don't get hurt if that's possible.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 9:13:18 AM)

She posted on Christmas eve, and he reappeared a couple days after Christmas.  Smells like married to me.



searching4mysir -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 9:16:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

She posted on Christmas eve, and he reappeared a couple days after Christmas.  Smells like married to me.



I wouldn't doubt it...

I have a firm motto of "Watch the feet, not the lips". Actions speak FAR louder than words. Talk is cheap, particularly over the internet where you don't have to look someone in the eye.



LaTigresse -> RE: Dom's ? (12/28/2011 9:19:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hjalmar

dommes are mean by nature. Love it it avoid it.

D


Duuuuuuude, I need you on my PR team.

I keep trying to convince people how mean and heartless I am, but consistently get an epic.......... FAIL.

And OP.......quit fooling yourself. The guy is treating you like a piece of meat on the side. Regardless of whether he is married, dating someone else.........whatever. It's obvious you don't mean shit to him.



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