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Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 12:00:29 AM

subwisco90

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Hiya.

I'm semi-new to this site (and the scene in general), and have a couple questions on how things work here.

I've had a couple of people that I have been talking to for quite a while, things start to click, but with every encounter I have they all of a sudden they start asking me to send them "gifts / tributes / $..." or for me to sign up for a different website that costs 60 bucks to be a full-member for... But that just doesn't sound right at all.

Now I'm not sure exactly how this kind of thing works, but I'm not looking for a pro-domme. I'm sure this sounds needy, but does anyone have any tips or advice for me? Or is this strictly a professional site, and I just missed the memo?? lol.

Thank you,
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RE: Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 12:03:40 AM

GreedyTop

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hi! this is a fairly common thing. Wander down to the ask a mistress forum, and read the FAQs. I repeat, READ THE FAQs!! lol

there are some great folks here in the forums, get to know them by posting after reading the FAQs, and be PATIENT :)

Good luck and welcome!

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RE: Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 4:34:08 AM

DarkSteven

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Hi, wisco. I've read posts from a lot of folks like you making the exact same complaint. And in every case, it's because their profiles don't show the wimmins what they have.

Your profile says "I want a relationship with a Domme." And then - nothing. That's not good enough.

Show yourself. Say you like to go bowling, and show a pic of you after you've just hit a strike. Include a pic of you studying your books before a test. Create images, both with your words and your pics, that show your hobbies, job, and aspirations, and also what you envision doing with her. Will you take her for picnics? Go camping with her? Fine dining? (Can you cook?)

What I'm suggesting above is the way to get the attention of the genuine lifestyle Dommes here. ANYONE can get the attention of the tribute and website Dommes, and that's all you're getting now.

Also, a specific suggestion regarding your profile - don't be coy. You say "I am smart, good with conversation..." and that's it. My profile says something similar and then mentions seven or eight topics I can talk well in. You say "I've got a long list interests" and drop it. That means nothing if you don't state what they are.

And you state "So idk if I mentioned this in my profile, but I am looking for a relationship that allows us to explore these fetishes and such, just wanted to let that be clear in case anyone was confused by it."

1. You wrote the profile. You should know what's in it.
2. There's a slight bias against textspeak here. Spell words out.
3. What's the point of the sentence? That you have fetishes? That you want a relationship? What does it say that is not assumed from the rest of your profile?

With all that said, welcome to collarme.

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RE: Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 8:15:11 AM

ashjor911

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RE: Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 8:47:59 AM

Killerangel

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It's a common scenario to have someone disguise that their intent is to receive money and not a relationship. Yes, there are Dommes out there looking for a relationship, but there aren't tons of them. Lifestyle Dommes tend to be the smallest of the BDSM groups. This is not a professional site, but there certainly are people out there trying to take advantage of the unequal ratios that leave many men partnerless.

Take the good advice that was offered to you and go forth knowing that people might not be honest with you in their interactions and give it another shot. You don't have anything to lose except time. Try some real life events as well, they have more equal ratios.

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RE: Quick Question... - 12/25/2011 11:17:14 PM

subwisco90

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@DarkSteven & all others

Thank you for the tips. They are duly noted and appreciated :)

~subwisco90

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RE: Quick Question... - 12/27/2011 6:51:22 AM

OohAahMrs

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Welcome wis, one of those horrid things, at some point money will change hands, just be careful!

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