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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 7:48:15 AM   
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Oh child, I feel for you. Take no offense at being called 'child', I may not be that much older in age, but I it seems I started the life much earlier than you.You are asking questions and that is good. You seem to genuinely want to do right by your man.

Don't be discouraged by some of the comments I read here. I'm new to online and have been away from the life for a while, but it seems online anonymity allows for comments that I may never have heard from my mentors face to face so long ago. Do you have anyone to mentor you in person, places to go watch others play? Don't answer me here, just something to think about. I see where you are from, and know there may not be much available to you unless you go down to a "big city". Think about it, and don't be afraid of asking questions. Like they say in AA... take what you like and leave the rest.

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I wouldn't count on that online anonymity bit. If someone were to come to me in person with the same question, I would have no problem saying the same things I have said here and I do believe that from years of knowing some of these people on the forums, that they would also feel free to say whatever they felt. It is often said that behind a monitor, people will say most anything that they wouldn't say it in person. People that hide behind a monitor will also hide in person. Those that speak their mind, with some tact or social graces or not, online will often also do so in person. There are actually people who are not afraid to speak their truth wherever they are. A lot of it has to do with personal accountability and honor and what one believes... truly believes and standing for it.

I don't know what you felt anyone said that was said because they were hiding behind anonymity and why one would feel the need for anonymity, but I am curious as to what that was. We were not being sneaky pervy people that were acting like slim balls. We were expressing what we thought and felt about a situation posted on a forum. I'm sorry you haven't ever heard honest responses in person on this type of situation or topic. I've heard it and hope I continue to hear it.

What exactly is it that was said here that was out of order, out of line or wasn't a truth that someone held? Ridicule? I've heard a lot of that in person, in real life and you can see examples of it throughout society. Some I wouldn't like or agree with, but people do it, live it and it is everywhere. I've found that in controversial subjects and things that matter on a personal level, people are often found to speak their minds, wherever they are. Those that don't would be someone I didn't or wouldn't trust. Many of us found what she was doing to be unfair, illogical and something we could not stand idly by and say nothing about. She asked, we responded and I for one would have no problem saying it to her face. In fact... I might like doing so.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 8:14:07 AM   
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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:01:03 AM   
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Yeahhhhhh......yesterday I was accused of false, behind the computer screen, chat room bravado......on here. Reading that email made me laugh enough to get the attention of people around me. So I read it to them. They laughed also.

The ONLY difference is that the people in my daily life have learned, if they don't want to hear my opinion, they do not ask for it or bring up the topic in discussion.


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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:06:19 AM   
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I can't imagine not wanting to hear what you have to say, LeeAnn!

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:09:36 AM   
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Uh huhhhhhhhh..... cuz I am so mild mannered and non opinionated and all.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:11:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Yeahhhhhh......yesterday I was accused of false, behind the computer screen, chat room bravado......on here. Reading that email made me laugh enough to get the attention of people around me. So I read it to them. They laughed also.

The ONLY difference is that the people in my daily life have learned, if they don't want to hear my opinion, they do not ask for it or bring up the topic in discussion.


LOL I had one of those too:) must have been the day for it:)
Congratulations!!!!!

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:12:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Yeahhhhhh......yesterday I was accused of false, behind the computer screen, chat room bravado......on here. Reading that email made me laugh enough to get the attention of people around me. So I read it to them. They laughed also.

The ONLY difference is that the people in my daily life have learned, if they don't want to hear my opinion, they do not ask for it or bring up the topic in discussion.


LOL I had one of those too:) must have been the day for it:)
Congratulations!!!!!


I would even go so far as to bet it was the same sender even!


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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:15:32 AM   
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I did not get any interweb chiding. Sad face!

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:18:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I did not get any interweb chiding. Sad face!


I can forward you some of mine!


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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 11:23:25 AM   
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LOL Even on facebook where my name is given, along with my picture and a lot of my family there to witness, I say what I want. I once said... my daughter may not be real happy about what her mother is about to say, but... My daughter came on and said... I know my mother will say anything she wants to say and I used to have a problem with some of it, but now... I like when she speaks her mind because I agree with it.

I will hold in what I have to say in touchy situations where others might be affected by my words... but as soon as there is an opening and no one will be hurt... I speak my mind. We just had a death of a monster and an ex of his wanted him to leave everyone alone, but in death he became a hero. (She secretly still loved him and although married to someone else, was posting all these romantic pictures of the two of them, saying she did it for the children, for which there wasn't one picture of that man with any of his children. They don't exist.) I had no problem letting her know making him a hero helped no one and was offensive to his victims, even when she threw scripture of forgiveness at me. Taught her a thing or two about that too. She even knows where I live and if she didn't, I would tell her.

I lost a friend. Gee... broke my friggin heart!


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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 1:12:00 PM   
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I just grew a really bushy beard....nobody can tell what face I'm making under it.


Nobody can tell if there even is a face under it.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 4:55:51 PM   
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OT: so what's with the dead bambi, or is my screen just too small and I'm missing something?

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 5:07:46 PM   
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My Lord, this is a bit like the blind leading the blind..

Levels of safewords? Good Lord, whatever next?

How about actually doing a bit of legwork and taking time to properly get to know one another and find each other's wavelength?

This I feel is the bottom line. Avoid creating superficial relationships and rushing in to be dom or sub or steaming in right for the jiggy jiggy.

Get to know the person, know their mind, and know how to communicate with them effectively. It makes the whole dynamic far more satisfying for both.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 6:04:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Uh huhhhhhhhh..... cuz I am so mild mannered and non opinionated and all.


Ok, that made me do a double take!

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 6:08:03 PM   
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Don't be discouraged by some of the comments I read here. I'm new to online and have been away from the life for a while, but it seems online anonymity allows for comments that I may never have heard from my mentors face to face so long ago.


Then your education was sorely lacking.

There are very few posters here who would not stand up to you face to face and speak their mind.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 6:31:53 PM   
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I'm more cunty in person, sadly.

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 12/30/2011 6:33:03 PM   
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I keep wondering that too.
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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

OT: so what's with the dead bambi, or is my screen just too small and I'm missing something?



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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 1/3/2012 10:56:24 AM   
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Isnt anyone gonna ask why theres a pic of a dead deer in the thread openers photo lol... Messed up

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 1/3/2012 10:57:17 AM   
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Isnt anyone gonna ask why theres a pic of a dead deer in the thread openers photo lol... Messed up


Someone did, and it was ignored.  Bleh, eh?

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RE: Appropriate punishment suggestions - 1/3/2012 11:10:44 AM   
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I am guessing it forgot to safeword in time.

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