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ORIGINAL: DBWhiskey


Yeah, way off base, I was yelling at the original poster. Poise is my fav.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: DBWhiskey


Yeah, way off base, I was yelling at the original poster. Poise is my fav.

Whew.

Well, just FYI, when you post, the person you're responding to is listed in the corner. On your angry outburst
post (the first one) is listed our wonderful Poise, so that is why I questioned it.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

Why, yes.  Yelling at someone and displaying your lack of control and inability to deal with a dissenting view does rather imply you're not really cut out for any kind of mature, interpersonal interaction with another human being.  Thank you for asking.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

Why, yes.  Yelling at someone and displaying your lack of control and inability to deal with a dissenting view does rather imply you're not really cut out for any kind of mature, interpersonal interaction with another human being.  Thank you for asking.

priceless

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

The fantasy :

A real man has Marine tatooed on his arm, right below the heart with mom scribbled in the middle of it. They eat thier meat raw, don't ever get sick, and only wear black.

The reality :

A real man works a 50 hour week, comes home late on a saturday after working twelve hours and plays with his daughter. He lets her paint his nails, and reads her a story before putting her to bed. Instead of turning on sportscenter and watching the highlights from the games he missed, he massages his so's feet and listens to her bitch about one of the girls she works with.

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

The fantasy :

A real man has Marine tatooed on his arm, right below the heart with mom scribbled in the middle of it. They eat thier meat raw, don't ever get sick, and only wear black.

The reality :

A real man works a 50 hour week, comes home late on a saturday after working twelve hours and plays with his daughter. He lets her paint his nails, and reads her a story before putting her to bed. Instead of turning on sportscenter and watching the highlights from the games he missed, he massages his so's feet and listens to her bitch about one of the girls she works with.

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ORIGINAL: Tseegno

Sometimes, you have to learn enough to ask the right questions. What you want is someone who can put you where you want to be and keep you there. I feel dominance is about boundaries and control. Would you want an alpha male who would take away your freedom to leave the house or talk to anyone outside? Just as an extreme example.

The short answer to your query is that you can get an alpha male defined for you, but when you found him, you would probably not care for a relationship with that man.

Looking for any kind of relationship is not going to be easy unless you really care very little about what relationship you get. Life itself is about making choices.

I find that when I work with submissives, what I am trying to do is craft an invisible box of restrictions that puts them into a place where the choices they have remaining to them are intensified by the absence of choices they did not want to think about in the first place. Each set of boundaries and control is custom designed for the person who needs those boundaries, so that they feel they ‘belong’ where they are put. People will routinely get overwhelmed by too many choices. The trick is to not think about them. Sometimes this is a tall order. I give the submissives I work with boundaries they can tell are there because, when they try to step out of the box they want to be in the first place, they get forcefully put back in. That process of someone caring enough to put you back where you belong forcefully, is to me, what gives the submissive feeling that their dominant cares about them. How can you tell if in an invisible boundary is there without testing? How can you tell if it is still there without testing it again? ‘Nough said.

So, to sum up. The person who you likely seek, has the hard to define qualities of being confidant of himself, who he is, and what he likes. He will be able to make you respond positively to being restricted and made to follow his lead. Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between rude, vindictive and sadistic when compared to forceful, intense and uncompromising. Both are examples of alpha males, but one may suit you where the other will not.

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ORIGINAL: BoxwineForBrunch

old spice swagger. j&b on the rocks. bitchin camaro. snaps at the waitress and makes her cry because he sees her noticing his receding hairline. knows why it's all bullshit, and explains in great detail "how they get you" throughout dinner. took a pua course with mystery and mastered how to use neg hits to keep you in your place. lots of strong, loud opinions. has pictures of a deer he and his buddies hooch and slapdick shot on his cellphone (pictures actually stolen from the internet). facebook friends with ketel one. short spiky hair. dressed like he aspires to someday be in an 1800 tequila commercial. vibes...lots of vibes. vibe on vibes on vibes on vibes.

you'll KNOW.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

Why, yes.  Yelling at someone and displaying your lack of control and inability to deal with a dissenting view does rather imply you're not really cut out for any kind of mature, interpersonal interaction with another human being.  Thank you for asking.

priceless

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ORIGINAL: BoxwineForBrunch
vibes...lots of vibes. vibe on vibes on vibes on vibes.

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See, in my world, Sportscenter is on so he can watch it while I rest my feet in his lap.