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allforfun123 -> Searching. (12/30/2011 6:49:11 PM)

I'll just get to the point, I don't want to bore any of you lol. I am single and lonely and I have been wanting to find and/or be with a dominant woman or Mistress for some time, relationship (preferred) or otherwise. What are some tips and advice on how to find a Mistress or dominant woman? Where would I go to meet one? Thanks :)



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Lockit -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:01:45 PM)

What she said. hehehehe



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:10:47 PM)

I've "Read the FAQ's in here", and nowhere does it say I cannot ask for advice on meeting a domme or mistress.



AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:13:25 PM)

Hi.

When applying to a Mistress always be honest and polite. you can tell her what your looking for and what your good at doing but don't sound like a guy placing an order. Ask her what she likes what she wants and what she's looking for.

Hope this helps!!



poise -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:19:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: allforfun123

I'll just get to the point, I don't want to bore any of you lol. I am single and lonely and I have been wanting to find and/or be with a dominant woman or Mistress for some time, relationship (preferred) or otherwise. What are some tips and advice on how to find a Mistress or dominant woman? Where would I go to meet one? Thanks :)


If you aren't sure where to meet one, what makes you so certain you want to interact with one?
Are you looking for a long term relationship, or just to get your kink on and then leave?
Are you married, and is the wife aware? These are very important points for either scenario.

In taking the advice to read the FAQ's here first, it may help you better formulate what exactly
it is you are looking for, other than simply the company of a dominant lady.



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:20:19 PM)

Thanks, that does help some.



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:23:45 PM)

I am certain I want to be with one, because I have been with one before. A long term relationship would be ideal, I would prefer that to just a one time thing. And no, I am not married. I said in the first post that I am single.



poise -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:31:17 PM)

Cool! How did you meet her? Workplace? After hours bar? Was she on your bowling league?
If you are out socializing in the world, you are certain to cross paths with many women who are dominant.
However, if you just want to show up at a place where a majority of them might be congregating, then check
out your local scene. Because of your age, you may need to look for TNG groups specifically.

Find Munches/Events In Your Area

Below is a link to a website that lists kink groups and events by
country and state.
Click here to see what’s available in your area.
http://www.drkdesyre.com/index.htm



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:31:51 PM)

Are you any good at meeting women? We are women, after all.



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 7:45:52 PM)

I met her in college when I was 18, the relationship lasted for about 3 years. When we met, she approached me and we got to know each other. She is the one that introduced me to kink and femdom and everything. Things got ugly between us, but that is another story. I have been wanting this kind of thing for a while, but I don't know how to find something like what I used to have. I didn't think it would hurt at all to just ask about it since I don't know, but apparently people have a need to be snobby.



poise -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 8:23:12 PM)

Listen, allforfun, you aren't Alice, and this isn't friggin Wonderland, ok?
You asked for advice on how to find a dominant woman, and were given a generous amount of it.
Dominant women are women, they aren't a thing to want to get into, so my advice to
you was to go out and socialize with ...................................................wait for it......................

WOMEN!
If you think that was snobby of me, then perhaps there are a good many reasons why you're still lonely.



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 8:39:33 PM)

No no no no lol. I wasnt referring to you being the snobby one at all, poise. I was speaking about other people. I'm sorry if it seemed that way. But yes, you did help me out and gave me some good advice, so thank you.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 9:02:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: allforfun123

I'll just get to the point, I don't want to bore any of you lol. I am single and lonely and I have been wanting to find and/or be with a dominant woman or Mistress for some time, relationship (preferred) or otherwise. What are some tips and advice on how to find a Mistress or dominant woman? Where would I go to meet one? Thanks :)


I don't know if you are on Fetlife or not but, if you are, they have a great search function for finding events in your area. If not, you should check it out. Then, go to the events and just approach meeting Dominant women as you would meeting any other women. We like to be approached as women first, because that's what we are. We're not all really scary chicks. lol Some of us are Nice, even though we can be Mean. [;)] Also, since you're young, check out the TNG groups in your area. And, you can google BDSM Portland, OR, and see what you come up with.

NBMG



allforfun123 -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 9:05:05 PM)

thank you :) 



stellauk -> RE: Searching. (12/30/2011 9:34:10 PM)

Start by looking for a human being.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Searching. (12/31/2011 8:01:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: allforfun123

I'll just get to the point, I don't want to bore any of you lol. I am single and lonely and I have been wanting to find and/or be with a dominant woman or Mistress for some time, relationship (preferred) or otherwise. What are some tips and advice on how to find a Mistress or dominant woman? Where would I go to meet one? Thanks :)



Now, some will tell you all that bullshit of "go to munches", still others will tell you "make yourself available...presentable..."

It's a crock.

I've found that holding a sign on the off ramp "will work for pussy and minor bloodletting" has been somewhat successful for me.



midmichiganguy -> RE: Searching. (12/31/2011 10:23:50 PM)

Oh jee. Go to events and munches and be known. Such great advice. You know what you discover when you go there as a single person? You discover that the women who attend (whether submissive or Dominant) and who are single pretty much are treated like trophies to be won. Consequently, few if any single women come back by themselves. And lets not forget that as a single male you are automatically under suspicion just because you are single and you are a male. I cannot even begin to list the number of events where I attended where my single Domme friends refused to go by themselves because they felt either stalked or harassed by the single men there or the events where I refused to go by myself because of the suspicion I was treated with whenever I tried to be friendly. It is what it is though and I have known more than 2 dozen singles over the last 10 years who no longer attend anything because of these behaviorial patterns.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Searching. (12/31/2011 10:25:52 PM)

Same song from you, Midmichiganguy. What's your winning solution, then?



midmichiganguy -> RE: Searching. (12/31/2011 10:30:05 PM)

lOl Your funny. I never said I had a solution and I don't believe that there is one anymore. But hey easy enough to attack the messenger right instead of offering positive perspective from the oh so wise and experienced people in this lifestyle, right?



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