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ResidentSadist -> RE: -=Casual date, sub-she pays – should Dom-he put out?=- (12/31/2011 8:27:18 PM)
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...It's probably different because we've been together for 5 years, but one year I spent nearly 2 two 3 hundred dollars on Daddy for his birthday and for Christmas, I didn't mean to but I was like well He'd love this, and he'd love that, oh and he'd die for that, I know he would, and as each item came in, because I was to excited to wait the 2 months for his birthday and then x mas a few weeks later I told him Daddy I have a surprrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrise for you when you get home, and I gave it to him. With no expectations back other than the expectation he'd say thank you, cause that's what you do when someone gives you something. He was, as I knew he'd be absolutely thrilled to the moon and back with his presents, And other than a thank you that was all I wanted"from him" I wanted to make him happy.
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom
I think any one who shells out lavish gifts with the idea they're going to get lucky deserves what they don't get if they don't get fucked cause unless the d hinted or said out right gifts get you fucked, you chose to do so freely and the other person is free to take said gifts and fuck or not.
Thank you for your perspective. This is exactly what I was talking about, attaching value to sex. Some see it only as “emotional value” or "passionate value" not monetary. Personally, I think it takes a lot of faith to drop a large hunk of cash on a gift and it's reflects on the value of the act of giving... which in an off hand way is emotional. An expensive gift shows faith in their judgement, how well they know you by risking that much on something that if not well chosen would go to waste.
If you help a friend move, you are trading physical labor for the emotional responsibilities in a friendship. I’d rather let her hire movers and blow each other while they do all the heavy lifting.
By many value systems, it’s sex for love, sex for sex, sex for submission etc. It strikes me odd that everyone puts a price on their sex but few (like you) acknowledge the validity of others’ value systems and even get judgmental about it. Surely it isn’t fair in the social order of things for people who exchange their valued gifts (monetary, emotional or otherwise) to receive nothing in return. Only a bitch would wish that on someone.
Many BDSM relationships are based on service and sex. The submissive gets acceptance and acknowledgement in return for their sex, not sexual gratification. Sex, labor, love, emotional rewards… we all value them at our own personal rates and exchange them in different ways in our relationships.
In my perspective, sex makes people happy and sex is a great gift. I give and receive sex as gifts.
When I was in my early 20s, the rule of the house was that my girls could have female friends and lovers at will. My neighbor was my slave's lover but not mine. By proxy, I felt a kinship towards the neighbor because she made my girl happy. So when the neighbor needed help one day, I gave it to her. A day or two later, I was shaving when the neighbor came into the bathroom and started rubbing her ass on me. I pulled her pants down and banged her. Afterwards I asked "what was that for for?" She said, "because your were so nice to me. Thank you". I said "you're welcome". We never pursued sex any further and remained friends as long as we were neighbors. It was a nice sexy gift. I never helped her expecting a piece of ass nor did I imply anything. It was her idea, an act of spontaneous gratitude. . . that and I am irresistible while shaving.
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