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ericdaddy -> Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 12:39:45 PM)
I'm a dominant male and I have been in a relationship with a sub woman for the last 3 months or so. It has gone well and we have grown nicely together. However, I just discovered on my own that she has been owned by another dom for the last 2 months. She has been dishonest about this which is obviously unacceptable. Does anyone have any ideas or thoughts to share about this?

mnottertail -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 12:41:50 PM)
as she is swallowing your load, simply say, "woman, meet curb". Then go get a beer from the fridge and start hunting a new one. The aftereffects of that blowjob don't last more than a couple hours tops, if she is dynamite.. Couple hours, you'll feel like killing people again.

Wantstocontrolu -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 12:47:05 PM)
Does she know that you know? Does the other "dom" know? Be creative, invite her over, have her strip and cuff her. Take her for a ride and kick her to the curb. (literally)

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 12:52:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail as she is swallowing your load, simply say, "woman, meet curb". Then go get a beer from the fridge and start hunting a new one. The aftereffects of that blowjob don't last more than a couple hours tops, if she is dynamite.. Couple hours, you'll feel like killing people again. [sm=rofl.gif] I would dump her ass. But, actually OP, do you know who the other Dom is? If so, I think another possible scenario would be to have them both over for dinner at the same time. Watch her squirm for awhile and get some entertainment out of it, then you & he can deal with her lying ass however the two of you want to. NBMG

angelikaJ -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 1:33:35 PM)
You have all sorts of options depending on what you want to do about it: Ending the relationship with or without an explanation, discussion, and continuing the relationship with or without explanation among them. Only you can decide how important her honesty and fidelity to you are.

DarkSteven -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 2:19:24 PM)
It sounds to me like this might be an online relationship. Is it?

Lucylastic -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 2:44:10 PM)
why is this posted twice in the SAME fora? just askin

littlewonder -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 2:58:50 PM)
Leave Walk away That's me though. I have no idea why you'd wanna stay or why you continue to stay. I personally wouldn't.

OsideGirl -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 3:04:59 PM)
Your relationship is only three months old, so before any answers can be brought forth, there are these questions: First, is this a committed relationship? Or is it just casual dating? Has she flat out lied by saying she's not seeing anyone else?

fragilepieces -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 4:17:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven It sounds to me like this might be an online relationship. Is it? It can't be cause when it's an online relationship one can hide this kind of shit better we just had a discussion about that on another thread. [:)]

tj444 -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 4:50:13 PM)
How exactly do you know this? exactly how reliable is the source? If the other Dom is the source, how do you know he is telling the truth, perhaps he has been trying to steal her away from you and telling you a lie.. Imo, you need it verified (like seeing them meeting and kissing or something more credible like that)..

poise -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 4:58:55 PM)
You ask a room full of strangers our thoughts on your relationship, but instead of sticking around for further discussion, you decide to blast her supposed infidelity on your journal. Go you! Funny thing is, my advice would have been to have this discussion with her as opposed to us kinky strangers, but it seems communication isn't your best asset.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 6:03:15 PM)
Ericdaddy, Sometimes I'm nice and sometimes I'm not so nice, you've been forewarned. You're 40 years old but you're not acting like it. For crying out loud get a backbone and communicate with her....confront her....do something for crap sakes. Do know at least that this thread will help nothing if you don't communicate with HER. It seems you've abandoned your own thread AND, instead of communicating with the sub in question, you get all passive-aggressive in your journal. Grow up. NBMG

searching4mysir -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 6:17:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl Ericdaddy, Sometimes I'm nice and sometimes I'm not so nice, you've been forewarned. You're 40 years old but you're not acting like it. For crying out loud get a backbone and communicate with her....confront her....do something for crap sakes. Do know at least that this thread will help nothing if you don't communicate with HER. It seems you've abandoned your own thread AND, instead of communicating with the sub in question, you get all passive-aggressive in your journal. Grow up. NBMG Heck, if I were his sub I'd kick HIM to the curb for being so whiny and passive-aggressive. Was she wrong to cheat? Yes, if it actually WAS cheating and they had a commitment that wasn't just in his head. Could this lack of communication have led to the cheating? Absolutely. It seems that they both need to work on their communication skills.

BurntKitty -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 6:26:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise You ask a room full of strangers our thoughts on your relationship, but instead of sticking around for further discussion, you decide to blast her supposed infidelity on your journal. Go you! Funny thing is, my advice would have been to have this discussion with her as opposed to us kinky strangers, but it seems communication isn't your best asset. But he's only 40. He's got a lot of maturing to do yet.

kalikshama -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 6:27:32 PM)
quote: I'm a dominant male and I have been in a relationship with a sub woman for the last 3 months or so. It has gone well and we have grown nicely together. However, I just discovered on my own that she has been owned by another dom for the last 2 months. Is any of this in the flesh or is it all cyber?

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 6:30:44 PM)
Okay, if this isn't an online thing I will put in my two cents. I had a sub cheat on me once. Really cheat on me(as in put his dick someplace it didn't belong) I will be more than happy to tell you what I did when he said he was sorry. I went and collected his dumb butt. I tied him down. And I put the fear of god in him. God in this case being me, because I spent about an hour and half slowly explaining to him that I was going to cut out his tongue than see what else I could cut off until he either knocked over dead or I wasn't pissed anymore. I watched pain and fear and worry rise up in him. Than I untied him, sat on the bed next to him, and cried. I told him that I could remove him from my life, my memory, my everything and it was up to him to decide what anything that happened between us meant to him. Then I spent awhile watching him cry. I watched it dawn on him that things in life should be thought about before they are just done on a wim. People should pay for mistakes so I understand why you ask what you should do now. But understand in your asking that before a person can learn from a mistake they have to first make it. Ask her why she did what she did. If she has a good reason(and I would suggest it be a damn good one) then fix the problem. If she really doesn't have a reason, or can't explain it to you, than understand that at least half of the problem is you and that the two of you are not meant to be together.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 7:02:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ericdaddy I'm a dominant male and I have been in a relationship with a sub woman for the last 3 months or so. It has gone well and we have grown nicely together. However, I just discovered on my own that she has been owned by another dom for the last 2 months. She has been dishonest about this which is obviously unacceptable. Does anyone have any ideas or thoughts to share about this? Let me just be clear here.....other than burning her at the stake? Bud....asking is ridiculi......why are you still here? End. End of discussion. (Capice?)

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 7:04:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven It sounds to me like this might be an online relationship. Is it? DS...you are so gawdamn insightful. I need to start seeing if you've responded first, before I utter. Well said....I'm sure.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Dishonest Submissive (12/31/2011 7:06:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic why is this posted twice in the SAME fora? just askin Fora......multiple forums? (I like that....fora....) Did you make that up? (I need to read more). I'll be over ---------------------> with books and such.

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