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SweetCheri -> To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:16:19 PM)
I had a man tonight, I am no longer a virgin by any definition. I want to say that while it wasn't physically unpleasant it was very much so on a mental and emotional level. I want to thank him for his understanding, patience and well, just for being such a good person to do this for me on my terms. So to all those males who want to write and ask how I could know if I want a man. I have one, I did him, and I didn't like it enough to do it again.

Lockit -> RE: toall those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:19:19 PM)
Gunna bring the new year in with a bang eh?

littlewonder -> RE: toall those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:21:22 PM)
erm, ok you'll still be asked

SweetCheri -> RE: toall those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:22:05 PM)
Why not? New year, new life. It was interesting but sweaty in a way that a woman isn't. And well, I don't know, I have to process it some.

SweetCheri -> RE: toall those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:25:22 PM)
Yeah but now I have a thread to refer them to. And while its no big deal to you, it is to me. Its something I had to really work myself up to, and while it may be nothing to you, it was a BIG thing to me. But thank you for your response..

littlewonder -> RE: toall those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:32:42 PM)
I wasn't referring to you losing your virginity. I was to your posting about your reason for posting. Posting and telling them to read the post takes just as much time as just answering them lol. Personally I just delete emails I don't want to respond to <shrug>.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:35:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetCheri I had a man tonight, I am no longer a virgin by any definition. I want to say that while it wasn't physically unpleasant it was very much so on a mental and emotional level. I want to thank him for his understanding, patience and well, just for being such a good person to do this for me on my terms. So to all those males who want to write and ask how I could know if I want a man. I have one, I did him, and I didn't like it enough to do it again. Honey....I would have fucked you....no questions asked.....and with me.....you would have only had enough disdain to not want it for several months.

tj444 -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:41:57 PM)
I am curious why you did it, what your reason(s) were? Only if you dont mind saying, that is..

LadyHibiscus -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:44:46 PM)
Well, think on it some. It's good you had the experience, I think.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:51:44 PM)
never mind.

SweetCheri -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:52:34 PM)
Good question tj, I did it because I had to KNOW! That's all. did it matter to me what was fucking me? Yes it does, it really does, Now I know. I am secure in my homosexuality. While heteros may wonder about their sexuality, homos are bombarded with questions all the time. I answered it for myself. Why did I post? I don't know maybe because its an important step in my life and I thought I would share it.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 7:58:06 PM)
Thanks for sharing :) it's good that you were able to get your answer in a safe manner.

tj444 -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 8:06:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetCheri Good question tj, I did it because I had to KNOW! That's all. did it matter to me what was fucking me? Yes it does, it really does, Now I know. I am secure in my homosexuality. While heteros may wonder about their sexuality, homos are bombarded with questions all the time. I answered it for myself. Why did I post? I don't know maybe because its an important step in my life and I thought I would share it. ok, fair enough.. I just wondered why.. When i get especially disgusted with certain types of men, I sometimes think about switching but for me, I couldnt do it, I cant see myself having sex with a woman when i am attracted to men (the nice ones, not the shiteheads).. Women are sexy, soft, attractive in many ways but sexually, they arent for me.. My brother is gay but as far as i know, he has never ever thought about sex with a female. My first boyfriend and i tried to fix him up with a girl, we went to a movie and he was red faced (embarassed) a lot of the time. That was well before he told me he was gay (we wouldnt have fixed him up had we known). I can understand you wanting that question answered tho.. because now you dont have to ask yourself that question ever again..

xxblushesxx -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 9:10:46 PM)
How very...interesting. For so many reasons.

SweetCheri -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 9:40:31 PM)
Care to elucidate why you find it interesting. Give us a few reasons..I dare you!

Aynne88 -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 10:31:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetCheri Good question tj, I did it because I had to KNOW! That's all. did it matter to me what was fucking me? Yes it does, it really does, Now I know. I am secure in my homosexuality. While heteros may wonder about their sexuality, homos are bombarded with questions all the time. I answered it for myself. Why did I post? I don't know maybe because its an important step in my life and I thought I would share it. Sometimes you just have to know. Kudos to you for going there, but the men won't stop asking, trust me. So.....what did the other members of the quad say about this adventure if you don't mind me asking? ETA you are now modded, so I guess I will be waiting a bit for the answer. Damn that was fast.

slvemike4u -> RE: To all those who write and ask (12/31/2011 11:27:40 PM)
One can't get modded for sleeping with a guy.....can she ? just kidding of course,i think [:)]

Casteele -> RE: To all those who write and ask (1/1/2012 2:18:17 AM)
Well, Cheri, I hope you won't judge all men by just one man.. Most of us would have left completely disgusted and not even wanting to post that you finally had one :-P Seriously though.. If anyone writes and asks or tries to "convince" you, just ignore them. You do not owe anyone an explanation of your preferences and desires, nor do you owe anyone proof that what you feel is right for you truly is right for you.

erieangel -> RE: To all those who write and ask (1/1/2012 4:00:44 AM)
Congrats Sheri. I recently found out my sister is gay. She's in her 40s and has always dated men but never married, finally she is able to admit her sexuality, I think because our mom is gone. Mom threw a fit when my son "came out" at the age of 15.

FrostedFlake -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 6:27:46 AM)
You had to know. Not intending to be rude, And, y'know, demonstrating my ignorance, of the dozen or so Gay Women I know fairly well, only one of them even briefly let on to me that she was even slightly curious about men. And I'm fairly sure she was just playing. I had supposed that the essence of being Gay was not so much a matter of practice as a matter of mental and emotional state of being. Here is where the rudeness comes in. I mean, vive la differance, but I'm wondering, what's to know? I have a hard time relating to this Kinsey graphic. Because I am way over on the left. I know. It's interesting that someone should wonder, about herself, about something so basic to the self. And under that is something I all but never think about, the questions laced with doubts that gay women in particular must face. Apparently often. Apparently exclusively from straight men. You know. Zeros. I wonder if you would care to expound on that a little? [image]local://upfiles/769649/9267671B99594DA9A40ABE538AE3108C.gif[/image]

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