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Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 11:30:01 AM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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Background:

I met up with Sir for coffee on monday. As I am a little broke (being a student and all) he gave me a little bit of money. I am not entirely happy about this (prefering financial independence as it were). However, I figured I could use it to his advantage to, so bough a ridiculously see through (as in definately indoors not for the street) dress, which if I do say so myself looks fabulous.

Now the Dilema:

Do I send Sir photos of me sending said dress

Or

Do I wear it under a coat next time we meet for play, then he'll see it

Or

Both

Or

Any suggestions you may have

Thankyou

Bina xx

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 11:35:46 AM

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well .. it depends on your relationship ... for example, would He want you to spend it on something frivolous or practical?

If it were me, and I was sure of what He'd want ... I just wear the outfit under a coat and surprize Him!

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 11:41:30 AM

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Use it to his advantage to buy something you don't need when you don't have money enough to buy things you do need?

Unless he specifically told you to go do something fun with it.

I'd say wear it when you see him.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 11:56:07 AM

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Wear it the next time you are going to see him and do NOT hide it under a coat.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 12:00:21 PM

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i say take the dress back...

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 12:04:45 PM

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If she doesn't hide it under a coat she might get arrested, depending on just how see through the dress is. Gawd ... We're kinky but we don't have to be stoopid about it.

With that said, what was the money intended for when he gave it to you? It sounds like he was trying to be a good dominant and help take care of you and then you used his money for some silly little dress ... If he wants you in a see through dress, chances are he'll buy it for you himself.

Wear the dress for him, if you want to ... Under a coat when in public so you don't get arrested ... But next time, ask permission first or use the money for important things you need which is probably what he intended it for anyway.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 12:26:49 PM

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"If she doesn't hide it under a coat she might get arrested, depending on just how see through the dress is. Gawd ... We're kinky but we don't have to be stupid about it.

With that said, what was the money intended for when he gave it to you? It sounds like he was trying to be a good dominant and help take care of you and then you used his money for some silly little dress ... If he wants you in a see through dress, chances are he'll buy it for you himself.

Wear the dress for him, if you want to ... Under a coat when in public so you don't get arrested ... But next time, ask permission first or use the money for important things you need which is probably what he intended it for anyway. "

girl agrees, if a Dominant were to give her money and there have been a few who have done so she would use it for things she needs ie: food, medication, bills, transportation to an appointment, but not on some dress because she felt she would use the money to her advantage.

take the dress back and get something you NEED instead of sometthing you want, however if you do decide to keep the dress and wear it next time you and He meet, wear it under a coat, and if He is not pleased He will let you know what He intended the money to be used for, and in future ask Him or whomever the Dominant is what They wish you to use the money for.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 12:39:44 PM

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As a Dominant I would not be happy if I gave money to my sub and she spent on clothes
and not on what she needed UNLESS I specified she could spend it on anything.

Be agood sub and take the dress back and use the money as he probably intended.

There are other ways to show appreciation. :)

Mr. Pete

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:31:52 PM

darq

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Saying "Thank you, Sir ... This isn't necessary but I really appreciate it!" comes to mind ... And then actually show him how much you appreciate it by spending the money wisely ...

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:35:07 PM

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He told me to get myself something nice... I have money fine to live on (Live with parents though that's soon to change) It was never intended to help with living costs etc... In light of that, original question stands.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:36:26 PM

darq

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Well then I guess many of the original answers also stand ... :)

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:38:04 PM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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I did say something along the lines of your original post...

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:38:17 PM

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Wear it next time you see him, under the coat. Hasten to tell him you later thought about what you'd done and wish you'd spent the money on something more practical. Apologize, if that's appropriate and you feel like it. Show him you learned something from the experience.

That's my thinking, anyway.

Bob

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:40:27 PM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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Thankyou for your responses anyway, though I think some of you got the wrong end of what the money was originally intended for...

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:41:08 PM

darq

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God, I miss being young enough to actually stress over this kind of thing ... lol

Now I'm just like, hmm ok going to meet a Dom ... Well, if he's gonna love me, he better learn early on to love me with my hair in a pony tail and my nicely worn jeans hugging my ass! Of course, none of the Doms I know ever give me money ... Sheesh, bunch of cheapskates!

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSideOfThMoon

Background:

I met up with Sir for coffee on monday. As I am a little broke (being a student and all) he gave me a little bit of money. I am not entirely happy about this (prefering financial independence as it were). However, I figured I could use it to his advantage to, so bough a ridiculously see through (as in definately indoors not for the street) dress, which if I do say so myself looks fabulous.

Now the Dilema:

Do I send Sir photos of me sending said dress

Or

Do I wear it under a coat next time we meet for play, then he'll see it

Or

Both

Or

Any suggestions you may have

Thankyou

Bina xx

You kind of presented it as if he gave you the money because you were broke and needed it ...

So, are you going to wear underwear with your new dress?

< Message edited by darq -- 5/30/2006 1:42:44 PM >

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Tell me, whats so amazing about really deep thoughts?

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:43:01 PM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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Am not stressing smiles, just couldn't decide which way would be best. Probably not for him no, though if I wear it to a club then yes, initially.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:47:30 PM

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Dear DarkSideOf ThMoon, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I've given money to people that really needed it and or say they are financially strapped. The spirit of intent, as far as I am concerned, I like seeing the money spent on rent, food, utilities, medicines, etc.

Nothing bunches up my pantaloons more, that somebody saying they are financially strapped and buy something they won't use but on rare occassions, like a dress or pants. I can see if the clothes are thread bare but, otherwise--

It is your choice and your dominant will handle it as he/she will.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:50:09 PM

darq

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Now I have this mental image of Ms Hugs pulling bunches out of her pantaloons ... I *love* it when Ms Hugs gives me mental images ... lol ... :: fondly recalls the thread about ball popping ::

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:51:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSideOfThMoon

He told me to get myself something nice... I have money fine to live on (Live with parents though that's soon to change) It was never intended to help with living costs etc... In light of that, original question stands.

You did a nice thing.....You did as he asked but thought of him too.

I'd probably tell him and send a pic ( he'd probably ask for one, anyhow)
MY Master would probably fall down in a dead faint if I bought a sexy frock .lol.
Nice to see you again Bina x

agirl

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:52:46 PM

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ps .Have you had your *dreads* off?

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