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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:54:37 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		I think you should explain to him what you did and ask for his guidance.  Talk with him and let him know how much you appreciated the money and may have went over board in wanting to do something for him.  ask whetehr he wants to see it or if he wants you to bring it back. 

Now I suspect he gave you the money to help make sure you were taken care of, so maybe the two of you need to have a discussion on what he expects.  

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:57:07 PM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		agirl - Yes, I loved them but needed a job, and they were an annoying length. I plan to put them back in + extentions when I go to uni...

Bina

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 1:58:09 PM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		I think I may follow your advice playful one.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 2:05:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		He gave you the money and told you to get yourself something nice. I think the fact that you did exactly that, but he also can enjoy and appreciate what you bought with it is prefectly fine. Enjoy the dress, wear it next time you see him AND .. what the hell, take some pictures to boot.

Maybe do up a little coupon book with a picture on each page.. and a little "this coupon entitles the bearer to _________" fill in the blank.. it's a nice way to say thank you to someone when you don't have a lot of $ to spend.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 2:05:43 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSideOfThMoon

agirl - Yes, I loved them but needed a job, and they were an annoying length. I plan to put them back in + extentions when I go to uni...

Bina


Your picture with short hair looks nice too. Ofspring No3 still has ever longer hair and has shelved dreads until he can have them *stress free*. His focus seems to have shifted to his first *love* at the moment anyhow...lol

agirl



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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 2:07:01 PM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		Oh bless Agirl - how old is he now?

Thankyou BitaTruble...

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 2:30:26 PM   
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Now I have this mental image of Ms Hugs pulling bunches out of her pantaloons ... I *love* it when Ms Hugs gives me mental images ... lol ...  :: fondly recalls the thread about ball popping ::


OMG me too!!! I read it and laughed so hard I cried. I really really needed that laughter that day also. It was so wonderful. If I could have I would have hugged LadyHugs.

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RE: Little advice please. - 5/30/2006 4:09:20 PM   
samvega


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Status: offline 		Original question  -   I say dont sent pics beforehand, just wear it under a overcoat. Then at an appropriate moment make the buttons/zippers of your overcoat available to his hands.

A very pleasant surprise for any dominant i think...money well spent.

As for the rest of the input towards this, I would have to say if a gift is truely given, then it is given. Its a rude, and undeserved sense of self entitlement to then make judgement upon the reciever based upon what they do with it.

Having been financially strapped at times I know exactly what its like to penny pinch your way through the day, every day.  Having unexpected money to spend on something completely insane is a highly treasured relief to the mind during times like this. That she even considered her dom in a moment like that is rather touching because it was un-necessary.

Well done  :)

If he is dissapointed that you didnt spend it on necessities then he will learn from this and from now on make his expectations clear like a dom should.

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/1/2006 5:32:07 AM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the responses, am planning to wear it next time we meet, and I'll tell you how it went.

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/15/2006 2:32:01 PM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		Because the money was for being treated, he loved it. We met up in a hotel today, so I wore it under my coat, knocked on the door then took my coat off. He was happy with me, and now I am smiley :)

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/17/2006 12:15:50 PM   
Noah


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Status: offline 		I'd like to apologize, DarkSideOf. The rush to judgement here was quite unseemly. We surely need more data to round out our view.

Give a shout when you've posted the pictures to your profile and we'll put our thinking caps right back on.

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/17/2006 1:43:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSideOfThMoon

Background:

I met up with Sir for coffee on monday. As I am a little broke (being a student and all) he gave me a little bit of money. I am not entirely happy about this (prefering financial independence as it were). However, I figured I could use it to his advantage to, so bough a ridiculously see through (as in definately indoors not for the street) dress, which if I do say so myself looks fabulous.

Now the Dilema:

Do I send Sir photos of me sending said dress

Or

Do I wear it under a coat next time we meet for play, then he'll see it

Or

Both

Or

Any suggestions you may have

Thankyou

Bina xx


this may be just my thoughts on this but ........  If hegave you money because your not that finacially stable and he was trying to make sure you could afford things you might need ... I think I see a discipline session coming in your future .... I'm betting he will order you to wear it then show you the error of your ways in spending his money on something that wasn't a need.
 
 Again this is just my opinion but .... you may be in trouble Bina

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/17/2006 1:46:49 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		ok Edit due to lack of complete reading . glad things went well and please scratch off my advice .. lol .... I hate when I miss a key word and make a bad suggestion due to it .... dam my human side

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/19/2006 7:37:23 AM   
dilligaf


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Status: offline 		you say you met him for coffee but how long have you known him?you made it sound as if you just met.i would send a picture of you wearing it if you dont know him well.you might send the wrong message and it could turn bad. if you know him well enough you could wear it under your coat the next time you meet.i would like that.

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RE: Little advice please. - 6/20/2006 10:26:14 AM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		Lol thanks for the replys since, but I saw him and he loved it. So, to conclude:

The money was intended for a treat, rather then to pay bills etc.

I spent it on a pretty dress that he would love.

I wore it under a coat to see Sir, and took my coat off as I went through the door.

He loved it, was amazed, and we had a fabulous scene.

Yay!

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