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Seattleite - 1/3/2012 12:47:39 PM

CeePee

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I've just joined this site because I had a wake-up call last week. A dominant man who responded to an ad I placed on Craig's List wrote something to me that shone light on a problem I've had ever since I realized I was kinky.

All my life I have craved sexual abuse and humiliation. For years, I mistook that for submissiveness. I have been self-centered in the extreme, all my life. I've known it for a few years now and am making some progress with it: I work harder to be a good member of my extended family, I'm trying to complain less at work. Stuff like that.

I believe learning sexual submission may be a way for me to become a more complete, and better, person. I need to understand that when I put someone else before me, my needs get met, too. I don't have to be single-mindedly focused on what I'm getting out of every deal I enter into. If it's a wise deal, my needs will be met anyway. I do have a responsibility to myself not to be a fool. I can't just throw myself at anybody who calls himself a top or a dom and call it "trust" and submission. It's self-abandonment and neediness. It's truly giving submission, that I'm here to learn.

I already know it won't be easy. But I want to learn and I think I'm ready. Readier than I've ever been before, anyway.

Please wish me luck. I'm glad this site is here.

I should probably say: I'm 58, live in Seattle, seeking a skilled and mature dominant man.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/3/2012 5:42:36 PM

Casteele

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Greetings and welcome to CM

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RE: Seattleite - 1/3/2012 7:26:23 PM

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God bless Graig's List.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/3/2012 9:25:15 PM

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You've definitely made a step many subs never manage - stepping back from your own pleasure-seeking in order to serve someone as an end unto itself rather than as a means to an end. As you say, you do have a responsibility to yourself, but a good D/s relationship must be founded in many ways on a desire to make your dominant happy and comfortable (and his to do the same for you, in a different but equally dedicated fashion).

I'm not the one you seek, I suspect, but nonetheless I think you'll make someone an excellent partner. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/4/2012 3:37:32 AM

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Hey. well done, community sprit and all that. Now if you just want your arse to be given a damned good thrashing, i'm available, in the sprit and finest traditions of CM

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RE: Seattleite - 1/4/2012 6:49:24 AM

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Welcome

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RE: Seattleite - 1/5/2012 4:29:16 AM

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Best of luck to you. Welcome to the show.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/5/2012 11:46:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OohAahMrs

Hey. well done, community sprit and all that. Now if you just want your arse to be given a damned good thrashing, i'm available, in the sprit and finest traditions of CM

And you live where, again? I like to keep a list of people who like to keep it simple, just for when I'm in the mood. Vancouver, BC, is my northern limit, Portland, OR, my southern.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/5/2012 12:06:08 PM

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Welcome CP. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Seattleite - 1/5/2012 1:15:12 PM

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Best of luck in your journey.

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