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Clickofheels -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 7:18:00 AM)

(Smiles to all)

R.S. Looks like you "missed each other enough!" (winks)

Congrats on your engagement, Lilly of the Valley!

Fragilepieces... cute sense of humor! (lol)

Rocky Horror Picture Show... what fun! That could be a whole thread in itself, couldn't it?

*Since some of you have mentioned distance... unfortunately my submissive isn't just around the bend from me. So there is that consideration also.*



LadyHibiscus -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 7:39:41 AM)

I've done the hotel thing when we are "meeting in the middle" and sometimes it can be fun to play with different furniture, but unless it's a fancy hotel with a big bathtub? I'll stick with the home front, thanks.



Clickofheels -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 7:50:36 AM)

Oh! I agree, LadyHibiscus! (Smiles) I enjoy the suite with the separate room, the jacuzzi, the fluffy towels, microwave/fridge, workout room, and a fireplace (if it comes with one.)

(Shudders to even think!) Not interested in putting my big toe in the doorway of some seedy, "low budge" motel.



sincelo -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 8:23:16 AM)

We have always gone to his place after he got one here. Before that we did hotels because I share my house with my kids.



bighappygoth39 -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 8:27:07 AM)

When I was first searching for the right person for a relationship, I did meet quite a few people after initially chatting and getting to know them well enough for me to want to meet them. I always preferred to meet them somewhere public for the safety aspect, of course. It rarely went further than one meet and maybe a drink and a chat in a local pub.
Being as I have children and only have a kid free house every other weekend, that's how often I see my partner. He either comes here, or I go to stay at his, and he does stay here for longer sometimes as well. It's worked well for us for the past two years, but it won't always be like that and we do plan on living together eventually.
I think it all depends if there's a bit of a distance between you, as there's a bit of one with my partner, so time spent together has to be planned, unfortunately.



OsideGirl -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 8:36:09 AM)

I always dated local people. After the initial meeting, I would date. I always made it clear that I wasn't going to have sex, submit or play until I was comfortable. In Master's case we dated for almost a month (we saw each other about 3 times per week) before we did anything.



AndreSanThomas -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 10:40:35 AM)

When we first met 14 years ago, we had been chatting for a few months but we were 8000 miles apart. I had a work thing to attend "in the neighborhood" (halfway there) and decided to continue on for the meet. Unfortuantely, I have a lot of trouble with motion sickness and slept through the time to take one of my pills on the final flight. I was quite nauseous on the plane and then it continued after I was on the ground. It was a cycle of go to customs, go throw up, go to immigration, go throw up, go get the luggage, go throw up...

Then we met and he took me the scenic drive back to his place. Of course I don't want to tell him I'm sick as a dog, because that is HARDLY the right impression on the first date, but the whole way there, he's saying "look at the beautiful view..." and I'm thinking "don't throw up, don't throw up, don't throw up..." We get back to his place, he gets his first chance to really kiss me and feel me up. After just a moment, I have to stop him to (you guessed it), go throw up. I was throwing up for 12 hours. Sigh. Not exactly what I had in mind for the first live meeting with Master.

The next day however, I was much better. And that evening he told me to marry him. I stayed with him during that trip, then came back and planned the wedding, went back for another visit a month or so later (stayed with him again). We were married 4 1/2 months after we met. We've been together ever since, including two international moves and two kids. Anytime I have the flu or something, we joke about our first "date".

So, definitely not the traditional dating thing for us!

Please note that people should be extremely safe meeting face to face, etc. etc. I took a lot of precautions, had people to check up on me, had all kinds of contact info for him (including names and addresses and phone numbers for his relatives, etc. before flying 8000 miles).



Clickofheels -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 10:50:50 AM)

That's quite a story, AndreSanThomas! How awful to be so sick...even if you weren't meeting someone!

But it looks like you found your "happily ever after!" (Smiles)

I'm very glad for you!
Ms Click



AndreSanThomas -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 11:04:06 AM)

Thanks! We consider ourselves very lucky that it worked out so well. And it makes for an amusing story - now, at the time I wasn't so sure !



myotherself -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 11:15:20 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels

Gosh my! That makes me sound terrible then!


LOL - not at all!

The perception I have is based on my own personal experience of hotel-living. If hotels work for you, then go for it! [:D]



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 11:45:07 AM)

For initial meetings, I like to meet for coffee somewhere. It's a nice, neutral place and low pressure. And I like for him/her to have a safe call set up with someone ahead of time. If we don't click we part ways, no problem. If we do click, we keep meeting in neutral places until we are both comfortable enough with each other. Then, after that, I prefer to meet at either his/her place or mine. I've never been interested in meeting in a hotel. For some reason, to me, that just seems....sleazy.

NBMG



Ninebelowzero -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 12:20:11 PM)

1st meet a coffee house works for me, 2nd a little Italian I know where the service is slow but the beer & wine cold.



Missokyst -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 2:17:24 PM)

lol heh..
well as usuall I seem to be in the minority. Call me a slut, but I LOVE hotels. Not as a first meeting though, I generally would choose a coffee place or restaurant to meet someone. And if we clicked hotels nice and relatively secure. I never take someone into my home environment unless I think they will be more to me than casual. It took me 40 yrs even to bring my group into my home for a meeting and I had known them for months or years prior. Lovers do not cross that boundry for me unless I think my family would be comfortable in their presence knowing that "mom" is getting fucked.
And if the man is local and has his own place, swell.. but I still choose not to go there until I am very comfortable with him. I must watch too many crime shows. At least in a hotel they find your body the next day.
Paranoia.



LafayetteLady -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 2:44:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

I'm with Littlewonder.

We dated for a month or so - going out to dinner, the movies, that sort of thing.

We came back to my place for dinner or to watch a dvd or tv because he has kids at home, while I don't. As the relationship progressed, we still use my home.

To be honest, it's pretty much the same thing I'd have done if it had been a vanilla dating scenario. If any guy had suggested we get a hotel room, I'd have been pretty insulted to be honest. Hotel rooms feel (to me) like I'm sneaking around, that it's only about sex and nothing more. So unless distance makes hotel rooms essential, they'd be an absolute no-no.


I agree completely, although for me, if I was with someone who had children at their home, since I have a roommate, a hotel would be the more viable option.  An option that would not be a seedy, "no tell motel" but something nice.



Clickofheels -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 4:34:58 PM)

I hope none of you think I would meet someone for the first or even first few times in a hotel room! I'm with the rest of you on this! I believe in supporting coffeehouses, and it sounds like we're all getting pretty caffeinated over our first meetings! (LOL)

I don't know though...I just may have to meet Nine after mention of that little Italian place! (winks)
Sounds rather romantic to me! Do they have candles in empty chianti bottles on the tables too? (swooning)

I think Missokyst thinks like me... at least in a hotel they find your body the next day! (just kidding of course)

Thanks for all your answers! It's making for an interesting thread I think! Hope you think so as well!

Regards....




DesFIP -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 5:06:59 PM)

We were three hours apart and I don't enjoy driving. So either he came up here or I met him about halfway (me taking the train) and we would stay in a hotel there.

These days we live together and enjoy getting away to a hotel where we don't have any teenagers arriving unexpectedly. Right now, for example, we were supposed to be playing. One of them showed up unexpectedly.

But we met for coffee which turned into brunch which turned into spending the whole day together. And we talked hours on end every day about everything under the sun in both our lives before and after the first meet. We didn't meet again for a second date for about a month, and then we did play.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 5:12:50 PM)

I have always felt safe to have them come to my home and meet me, and after the first meet, if there was to be a second meet, I have them over again. I also had no problem going to their house, yes even on first meets, but preferred meeting them on my territory first as in you pick me up and bring me over.
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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels


I thought it might be interesting to learn what kinds of set-ups they have for continuing to meet after relationships are established...meet at the Domme's place? the subs place? a local hotel room? a distant hotel room? etc. etc.






Aileen1968 -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 6:31:39 PM)

We rented an interior (unheated...motherfucking cold in the winter) storage unit halfway between us for about a year.
It had a big orange roll up steel door.
A dog cage.
A table with two chairs, bottle of Jack and a battery operated lantern. (Christmas lights hanging on the steel walls at christmas time too!)
A shoe rack with a great selection of heels and a nice array of sexy clothes.
Chains hanging from the metal beam above.
A four drawer unit filled with all of our "toys".
A padded saw horse.

I always got there first. Dressed how he instructed me to and then sat and waited.
I could hear when he would open the outside door to the building.
I could hear his footsteps in the hollow hall as he walked to the unit.
I would go absolutely nuts as he rolled up the steel door...

And then I got a townhome with a nice big red bedroom and a four poster king sized bed.
Toasty warm in the winter and it's been a hell of a lot of fun.

And yet...I still fondly remember the chamber and the bonding and love that formed in that cold, steel 7x9 room.



CrushedPetal -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 6:35:24 PM)

Great idea for discussion, Click. When my first RT Master and I met it was very difficult. I was in TN he was in KS. We took our time, and I got to know him online and by phone. We talked for months before meeting in person. It was long and torturous. I had a trusted family member drive with me to Kansas City, we all met in a public place and went for dinner. I had a hotel room reserved for myself and my family member. After dinner I decided that I felt safe enough to go to his place and spent two days there. Then the hard part came when I had to leave and go back home and back to work. He drove down to visit me the next time, we visited each other on our home turf three times. I moved up to be with him in KC after 5mos. We got married a year later and we are still married. We are no longer a lifestyle couple because of his health issues, but he is the love of my life. I consider myself one of the lucky ones.



Clickofheels -> RE: No.1 Thread of a Different Color (1/4/2012 7:18:16 PM)

Thanks Crushed Petal! Glad you're enjoying the thread!

My goodness! I never would have guessed that a question about meeting preference could be the fire for some very romantic stories!
It certainly proves that if the chemistry is right, it can find it's way through storage units and over miles and miles of highway.

Thank you for sharing your stories.

And kinder and gentler feels like a nice change. (Smiles)
I'm thinking there just might be room for a No.2 Thread of a Different Color on the boards....



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