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Remote Control - 5/30/2006 6:33:01 PM

Perenti

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I work away from home every two weeks out of three. Does anyone have any hints and/or tips or experience in maintaining a D/s relationship and control of a sub. in similar circumstances?

Any and all help is greatly appreciated.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/30/2006 7:01:24 PM

CrappyDom

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I just drop her off at the kennel...really puts her in her place.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/30/2006 7:05:33 PM

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Tell her that she is not that hard to replace... Once the sub gets the upper hand, it is all down hill for the Dom....

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RE: Remote Control - 5/30/2006 7:05:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I just drop her off at the kennel...really puts her in her place.

LMAO

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RE: Remote Control - 5/30/2006 7:39:15 PM

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WOOF! <chucklez>

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 6:21:27 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Do a search for "long distance relationships"

IMO- don't change anything, just keep busy and keep in regular contact.

But if you're into rituals, some people really like them.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 6:27:56 AM

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quote:

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Tell her that she is not that hard to replace... Once the sub gets the upper hand, it is all down hill for the Dom....

Yeah, THAT'S a great way to have a strong and trusting bond. Er... no. I think I'd have to disagree with that approach. Unless he just wants to force her to stay instead of making her want to stay.

Sorry if I'm not wording this very well. Telling someone that they're expendable is just insulting and could be seen as a threat. Unless that's what you mean it as, I wouldn't say something like that.

Long distance relationships are a different breed than daily ones, IMHO. You can't exercise the same degree of control. You can make lists and assign tasks and trust that this will keep her engaged. Maybe it will. If it doesn't, you'll find out about it before too long, I'm sure.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 6:46:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zumala

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Tell her that she is not that hard to replace... Once the sub gets the upper hand, it is all down hill for the Dom....

Yeah, THAT'S a great way to have a strong and trusting bond. Er... no. I think I'd have to disagree with that approach. Unless he just wants to force her to stay instead of making her want to stay.

Sorry if I'm not wording this very well. Telling someone that they're expendable is just insulting and could be seen as a threat. Unless that's what you mean it as, I wouldn't say something like that.

Long distance relationships are a different breed than daily ones, IMHO. You can't exercise the same degree of control. You can make lists and assign tasks and trust that this will keep her engaged. Maybe it will. If it doesn't, you'll find out about it before too long, I'm sure.

zuma

Very well said and very true.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 6:59:14 AM

agirl

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Just some thoughts...........Keeping in contact by phone, asking the right questions, allow her to realise that your finger is still on the pulse even though you're not present.

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 6:59:19 AM

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How does this answer the question?

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RE: Remote Control - 5/31/2006 8:22:28 AM

kittensmailbox

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i will respect your thoughts but i disagree... Anyone can be replaced... He has to trust her to be a good sub just as much as she has to trust Him...

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