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BootyBoy -> RE: The Object of Desire (1/10/2012 7:56:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
This is not a terribly seductive thread.
I WANT HELPFUL HINTS!! What WORKS with you persnickety menz?
When I was having sex I remember it as being easy enough to get...so that is not what I mean. NSA afternoons are a thing of the past for me. This is different!
SPILL!!
Ok, so on to trying to answer the question. I can, of course, only answer for myself. I assume other subs have different reaction/needs/bents.
For me, I noticed fairly early on in my submissiveness that I responded to VERY different things in Dommes than I did in my days of vanilla dating. For example, in vanilla, I was always into the looks first off. I would introduce myself to girls across a room, on the street, anywhere, because they were good looking. Like most guys, I had a kind of internal checklist--Face...check, Boobs...check, Waistline...check, Ass...check! It's not that I wasn't interested in anything else, but sheer beauty was what got myy attention first. I would say that in those days, as a general rule, the more beautiful a woman was, the more susceptible to her seduction I was.
But I kind of tired of that after a while. Now when I began to discover D/s I noticed that my tastes had drastically changed, because my whole dynamic had changed. I had a really strong internal pull towards submissiveness, but not in the way that I would have expected. Knowing myself, I would have assumed that I would have gone for the "Bondage Barbie" type--trim, cute, and stylish, complete with a pink leather flogger, together with her pink 6-inch heels, and matching chaps. But, I found that that's not who I was most attracted to at on the dominant side at all. In fact, looks wasn't very important to me at all. I found myself much more drawn to women who were much more maturenthan myself, I had no problem with her being overweight. I wasn't looking for "pretty" I wanted someone who was going to HANDLE me. So, I found myself, looking for women who looked and sounded serious and with a bit of an edge. To me the seduction tables had flipped. I was not giving a second look at pornoesque dominas, but I found myself absolutely SEDUCED by no-nonsense women who sounded like the had very little patience for BS and knew what they wanted.
I mentioned in another thread about getting into, trouble with a mistress before we had even gotten to our first meet & greet. She seemed absolutely furious at me. But her lack of tolerance, rather than putting me off actually had the opposite effect. finally here was a woman who was really not going to let me get away with ANYTHING. As i described in the other thread, she made me cut a switch from a tree, strip off the bark and tendrils and bring it to our first in-public meeting @ Starbucks so she could inspect it. the whole time we were talking she had me place it on the table for anyone to see (if they could make sense of what it was). Once I cut the switch, I have to admit that I was scared of what she would do to me with it. But I also have to admit that I was absolutely seduced by the power she held over me. I went back and forth in my mind between terror and fascination. I kept looking at the switch every day, like it was a drug. I took it out and swung it, then put it away. Later I wondered how much it would hurt and tried it out. It REALLY hurt.
But the seduction was not about the pain, it was about someone having such complete power over me. I obsessed over it. I don't think I have ever been that devoured by the thought of a woman than I was then. Maybe it was the anticipation but it was stronger than anything I'd ever felt. I was literally loosing sleep because I just couldn't stop thinking about it, even late into, the night. I don't know why I was so sprung.
So seduction looked totally different for me, once I moved out of vanilla relationships. And to this day, what seduces my mind the most is when I'm made to feel like I felt then. Powerful women seduce me in a stronger, and totally different way then I was before, and for totally different reasons.
Does that make any sense? Does that help
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