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BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 7:22:50 AM

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I think it would be great if there was a bdsm matrimony, that would make life so easy

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 7:25:43 AM

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I know a lot of couples that are married. Not sure if it made their life easier, but they seem really happy.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 7:40:01 AM

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I know people who have had a wedding and collaring in the same day. Sure seemed like a BDSM marriage.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 8:27:52 AM

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I know that would be so super cool, getting into something that both love

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 8:36:11 AM

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Anything you can imagine in a relationship - someone is out there is doing it. What do you want OP? From reading your other posts I'd hazard a guess to say that you're not talking here so much about a BDSM wedding ceremony theme, but being married to a woman who is also your submissive. Is that correct?

That's not hard to find, many people that are on this site are married to their BDSM partner or have BDSM incorporated into their marriage somehow. If you want it, I think you can find it. For you I think the focus is not so much on finding BDSM, but on finding a relationship with a woman who will love and care for you. You meet someone, you see if the two of you are compatible as friends, when it's time you let her know what you like to do in the bedroom and that you'd like to take the lead in your relationship with her. Women are much more flexible in what they accept than you'd think, especially if it's for someone they care about. If she is amenable to the information you have given her about you, then you take the relationship a step deeper and try out the physical aspects of it. Perhaps eventually you marry this woman.

The progression is just like any other relationship in any other area, BDSM isn't special or different. People date and get married.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 8:52:35 AM

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Anything you can imagine in a relationship - someone is out there is doing it. What do you want OP? From reading your other posts I'd hazard a guess to say that you're not talking here so much about a BDSM wedding ceremony theme, but being married to a woman who is also your submissive. Is that correct?

That's not hard to find, many people that are on this site are married to their BDSM partner or have BDSM incorporated into their marriage somehow. If you want it, I think you can find it. For you I think the focus is not so much on finding BDSM, but on finding a relationship with a woman who will love and care for you. You meet someone, you see if the two of you are compatible as friends, when it's time you let her know what you like to do in the bedroom and that you'd like to take the lead in your relationship with her. Women are much more flexible in what they accept than you'd think, especially if it's for someone they care about. If she is amenable to the information you have given her about you, then you take the relationship a step deeper and try out the physical aspects of it. Perhaps eventually you marry this woman.

The progression is just like any other relationship in any other area, BDSM isn't special or different. People date and get married.

that exactly what i want, you have read my mind so well from my posts. i crave for a sbmissive lover who would love me loads

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 8:56:34 AM

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I know lots of couples that have that situation.

Yes, at this point, I do want to have mutual love with a submissive, you're not alone in how you feel.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 9:04:36 AM

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Oh you mean married and BDSM at the same time, I read it as you thinking a Wedding with a BDSM theme.

Seems perfectly doable really, no less so than any other marriage.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 9:32:44 AM

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why wouldn't it be possible? It happens all the time with no problems. Then again I don't separate my life into categories.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 9:41:18 AM

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I think it would be great if there was a bdsm matrimony

There is.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 9:43:28 AM

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Hey OP, I have to say that since reading your various postings and seeing your pics, you are a genuinely likable and attractive person. There isn't anything holding you back from finding this dream of having a submissive who loves you and perhaps marries you. We all want to be accepted and loved, its not abnormal- it is a basic human need. I know you have the disability to deal with, but it doesn't define your person, or arbitrarily set limits on your dreams. It might be harder with the wheelchair in the picture, but not impossible.

I suggested to you in your last thread that you look for a woman, not necessarily a submissive, who you like enough to date and who feels the same way back. That is perhaps where you should start, rather than trying to find someone who already calls herself a submissive. Look for a woman who seems pleasant, who seems subservient, who is helpful and does things for others. In other words, identify a woman with submissive qualities. Woo her with your ample charm and good looks. When you get to the point where you talk about more intimate things, then begin to let her know what you are looking for and what you like in the bedroom. Just don't dump the whole ball of wax on her right away, it might scare her, take your time with giving her information little by little.

If she is ok with it, start doing things with her slowly, it can just be a kiss where you gently but firmly hold onto her hair or jaw. Ask her to get you a drink, or wear something you prefer when you will see her next, and then make sure to compliment her when she does what you asked. Give her a small task to perform for you. If that whets her appetite then try another small thing and so on, build things up. We all started somewhere, I was 45 when I found out about BDSM, I learned of it from a man I was dating at the time. You can see where I ended up...in a loving relationship that includes BDSM.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 10:11:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: lizi

Hey OP, I have to say that since reading your various postings and seeing your pics, you are a genuinely likable and attractive person. There isn't anything holding you back from finding this dream of having a submissive who loves you and perhaps marries you. We all want to be accepted and loved, its not abnormal- it is a basic human need. I know you have the disability to deal with, but it doesn't define your person, or arbitrarily set limits on your dreams. It might be harder with the wheelchair in the picture, but not impossible.

I suggested to you in your last thread that you look for a woman, not necessarily a submissive, who you like enough to date and who feels the same way back. That is perhaps where you should start, rather than trying to find someone who already calls herself a submissive. Look for a woman who seems pleasant, who seems subservient, who is helpful and does things for others. In other words, identify a woman with submissive qualities. Woo her with your ample charm and good looks. When you get to the point where you talk about more intimate things, then begin to let her know what you are looking for and what you like in the bedroom. Just don't dump the whole ball of wax on her right away, it might scare her, take your time with giving her information little by little.

If she is ok with it, start doing things with her slowly, it can just be a kiss where you gently but firmly hold onto her hair or jaw. Ask her to get you a drink, or wear something you prefer when you will see her next, and then make sure to compliment her when she does what you asked. Give her a small task to perform for you. If that whets her appetite then try another small thing and so on, build things up. We all started somewhere, I was 45 when I found out about BDSM, I learned of it from a man I was dating at the time. You can see where I ended up...in a loving relationship that includes BDSM.

i get you totally, i m going to try that, i m learning new ways to approach his issue from all you lovely people. i think i nned to be patient and go the vanilla way to achieve my dream

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 10:42:06 AM

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i get you totally, i m going to try that, i m learning new ways to approach his issue from all you lovely people. i think i nned to be patient and go the vanilla way to achieve my dream

I'm not just building you up, I really think you are a cool guy with much to offer. I understand sometimes we kind of spin our wheels with trying to figure out how to get something. You come here and ask questions and seem to be getting something out of it, I respect that. With things that are new to us, sometimes we need pointers to get in the right direction. Of course when we want something it seems to take sooooo long, lol. You'll get there though.

In general you are saying you want a fulfilling life and someone to share it with. I can't see why you won't find that. You are a likeable person and you seem willing to work at things, you might be a bit impatient but you can work on that. I believe that someday you'll write in here and tell us all that you found the woman of your dreams, and you're settling in for a kinky lifetime with her

Shoot, I might even fly out to India and come to the wedding, I've always wanted to go there.

Keep asking questions and wrapping your head around things. You'll get to where you want to go, you seem like a fighter. I'm not usually this relentlessly upbeat - I seem to be a bit of a cheerleader today. The thing is, I love to see someone who is willing to listen, learn, and work - and you do those things well. Use the search feature on the message board page to find topics on converting vanillas into being kinky, or ideas on finding a partner. There are a lot of past threads with good information. Don't give up on your dream, I think you have just as much of a chance on finding everlasting love as any of us.

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 10:44:30 AM

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My roommates, who are in a M/s relationship are getting married this year. They also plan on having their official collaring ceremony within the same week.

Marriage can happen with BDSM. It's just how the couple agrees and dictates I suppose. :3

I personally, if I ever do get married, I would love to have something BDSM in there that's a little subtle. Not too much, to avoid freaking out the vanilla guests, but something that all the kink-friendly people would get a giggle out of :3

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 10:47:32 AM

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i have made changes for sure, first thing i did was changed my profile and added a lot of things about myself. secondly i am not bothered about the wheelchair stuff bcos true love see no hurdles. now i got a lesson on being patient and wait with full faith. so in a few weeks i have learned a lot for sure, i have no shame in asking questions bcos life is a learning curve. i wish i lived near by all you lovely peeps

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 9:25:18 PM

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I think it would be great if there was a bdsm matrimony, that would make life so easy

Well, with more data, I'd probably agree with you, however, I've found that shitloads of cash makes things all the more easy.

(Not to digress of course).

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/9/2012 11:23:46 PM

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haha, cash does matter

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RE: BDSM Matrimony - 1/10/2012 12:37:26 AM

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