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Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 10:23:45 AM

newmstmcl

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Hello all slaves
I'm new the bondage world and hope you can give me some advice as a new want to be master.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 10:40:54 AM

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Know yourself.
Know why you are drawn to being a master, and what specifically you have to offer.
Read and learn. (the kink part is fun, but there's much more to it than that)
Know why you want a "slave" (and are you sure that's what you want? Do you know what a slave is?) and what specifically you have to offer.
Be able to explain the things I mentioned above.
So...why *do* you want to be a master?

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 10:56:32 AM

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The biggest part is understanding yourself. Why do you want to be a master? Why do you think you're qualified. Why do you think someone will follow your leadership? What do you have to offer a potential sub/slave?

If the REAL reason that you want to be a master is because you have difficulty getting dates in the "real world", then you probably aren't a good candidate.

That last sentence may sound like an odd comment, but once you've been around "the lifestyle" for a while, you'll understand exactly why I said it. I believe that over half of the on-line "Doms" fall into the category mentioned above. I have no data to support that belief. But once you read some of their profiles, journals, and forum posts, you'll probably come to the same conclusion.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 10:57:59 AM

xxblushesxx

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Plus, slave girls are easy, dontchaknow, and they all want a taste of slave-girl action!

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 11:16:17 AM

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Plus, slave girls are easy....

That's what all of the on-line "insta-Doms" seem to think. They must all have an internal conversation that goes something like this:

"Six years without a date. I've gone through 4 blow-up dolls, and my arm is in a sling from masturbating so often. How can I get a REAL girlfriend. Hmmmmmm......I know! I'll become a Dom and force one of those desperate slave girls to fuck me. As their "Master", they'll have no choice but to obey me. Goodbye lonely nights, hello blowjobs! Why didn't I think of this sooner?!"

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 11:23:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: newmstmcl

hope you can give me some advice as a new want to be master.

Master yourself before you even think to attempt to master another.

Get to know her as a person outside of the kink. She is going to have wants, desires, and goals of her own outside of sucking your cock.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 1:42:42 PM

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Nude photos work well. gratuitous cock shots are even better.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 2:28:29 PM

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Are you tiny or is your picture just far away?

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 2:29:38 PM

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So. I read your profile.
I notice you are looking for short term and very discreet (fixed your spelling). Married, eh?

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 2:29:58 PM

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 2:42:19 PM

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My Advice: Be more than just a kinky guy. Any decent sub/slave is going to want a dominant she connects with on many levels, so be sure to include your more "vanilla" interests in your profile, your hobbies, personality type, etc. A long list of kinks isn't going to cut it. If all a submissive female wants is kinky sex with a stranger, she can pretty much walk down to the local bar to get it. Why bother looking up guys online?

Additionally, you should make sure your own sh*t is in order before you try to control someone. No one is going to respect you because you call yourself a dominant. You'll have to earn the respect, and submission, of a slave over time.

P.S. Your profile makes you sound like a really horny, but married guy, whose looking for some short term fucks away from the family. It's gonna be hard to catch a willing submissive/slave if that is the case. There are just way to many avaliable guys out there to bother going after a married one, unless that's your kink, and you're an unethical bitch.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 4:00:49 PM

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Why would you want to be a Master? The study and dedication are hard to follow. Just be a Dom.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 4:14:40 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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Short-term and very discrete? I found myself looking to see if I could find a wedding ring on your finger in the photo, but your hands are both hidden. Married eh? If that's the case, why don't you just....say so? Most women can just walk down to the corner bar and find someone for kinky sex if that's all you want, why would they want to deal with the additional crap a married guy comes with?

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 4:19:41 PM

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Fixed that for him.

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Short-term and very discrete? I want to fuck you, but don't even think about calling me or speaking to me in public.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 11:30:44 PM

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what you want are indeed important. Even if you are able to answer that you have to consider: do you know what you are actually asking for in your original post? To be completely honest a person could throw a stone and hit a few dozen “Masters” and “Doms” with about as much experience as my cat in the ways of Domination. Finding a “real” one is fairly more difficult to be sure, however an actual submissive is exceedingly rare. Finding a person who is not only submissive that you also connect with on such a level that they can give you everything they are and become your slave is by far the rarest thing for most to both seek and find. So really take time and consider everything that has been said before this post and even those that come after it. Instead of simply jumping in head first, find out if the water is shallow or not.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 11:39:01 PM

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Being a master is freaking hard work, especially for a married man with responsibilities to another. I'd start from a slightly different tactic and try to get your wife to start letting you tie her up to practice the bondage.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/11/2012 11:43:52 PM

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Recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and not being arrogant about the strengths or make excuses about the weaknesses.

Being able to recognize the strengths of others and build with them and not be threatened by them, recognizing their weaknesses and making them strengths.

Consistency

Honesty, integrity

COMMON SENSE

Commitment

Firmness tempered by compassion when needed.

Being able to, and WANTING to take good care of your property. If it is broken, it can't play.

Safety first. Willingness to be mentored (even if you don't find one) Cognizant of the need to learn the risks, troubleshooting and damage control, first aid, proper way of doing it BEFORE you try a "kink" or decide to get creative with it.

Able to empathize without turning to mush.

Be a person who can earn respect and keep through the power of your positive guidance and control. Fear is NOT respect-except respect of a snake. That is not the kind of pseudo-respect you want.

Admire to be admired.

Able to read others accurately

Listen and act rightly.

Sharing the compliment of the kink of your slave- liking to whip a person who also loves to be whipped is best, rather than the slave tolerating it for you, or you doing it for them as a reward because it is not something you particularly care about, as is having a sexual enslavement is best with a best who WANTS to be a sexual slave rather than just "putting up with it".

Being able to love and be loved.

This is going to sound strange but being CAPABLE of treating your slave like a queen but don't. i am speaking from my own kink spot- i don't want to be treated like a queen, but i want him to be able to- it has a lot to do with spectrum of experience and mindset. i wouldn't want a brute who is INCAPABLE certain behaviors, i just don't WANT those certain behaviors.

Recognize no matter how the dynamic goes your slave is still a living being and capable of intelligent contributing thought. (not that you'll agree or go along with it LOL)

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/12/2012 12:12:33 AM

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^^^ THIS ^^^

And, by the way, slaverachael2Him I really don't think it fair to give this old Leather top (read "Gay Dom") a stiffie.... but thanks!

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/12/2012 1:01:36 AM

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what you want are indeed important. Even if you are able to answer that you have to consider: do you know what you are actually asking for in your original post? To be completely honest a person could throw a stone and hit a few dozen “Masters” and “Doms” with about as much experience as my cat in the ways of Domination. Finding a “real” one is fairly more difficult to be sure, however an actual submissive is exceedingly rare. Finding a person who is not only submissive that you also connect with on such a level that they can give you everything they are and become your slave is by far the rarest thing for most to both seek and find. So really take time and consider everything that has been said before this post and even those that come after it. Instead of simply jumping in head first, find out if the water is shallow or not.

I have no idea how deleted the first line of what I said before hitting post. Sorry about that. Here is the complete post.

As it has clearly been stated above knowing who you are, what you have to offer, and why you want what you want are indeed important. Even if you are able to answer that you have to consider: do you know what you are actually asking for in your original post? To be completely honest a person could throw a stone and hit a few dozen “Masters” and “Doms” with about as much experience as my cat in the ways of Domination. Finding a “real” one is fairly more difficult to be sure, however an actual submissive is exceedingly rare. Finding a person who is not only submissive that you also connect with on such a level that they can give you everything they are and become your slave is by far the rarest thing for most to both seek and find. So really take time and consider everything that has been said before this post and even those that come after it. Instead of simply jumping in head first, find out if the water is shallow or not.

So sorry.

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RE: Looking for help in getting a slave - 1/12/2012 9:14:15 AM

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Hmm. He hasn't come on again yet to dispute the assertion that he's married.....

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