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xssve -> RE: Is this objectification? (1/12/2012 10:47:44 AM)
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Well we're all objects to other people, other peopl eare objects to us, technically speaking, so when it comes to sex, many of us like to fuck and/or be fucked, and we need and object to fuck or fuck us, people are objects that have a greater range of functionality and subtlety than a vibrator or a microwaved watermelon, and offer a greater range of possibilities not just for fucking but for doing other things, and we tend to form relationships with people that go beyond sexual acts, we theoretically develop feelings of affection, security, empathy, sympathy, closeness, love etc., that make them more than objects.
Objectification your only value is your body and your willingness to allow it to be used as others see fit, but for most people the underlying feelings remain, we're a social species, it's difficult for anyone to entirely dispense with human emotion, even psychopaths tend to form bonds with their victims, revisit the bodies, etc., torturers and their victims often form emotional bonds, etc., so true objectification is really not as easy as it sounds, it mainly tends to occur when the object is not in proximity, i.e., racism for example which is objectifying people from an emotional distance.
So, in a sense, true objectification could be defined as emotional distance, which is not an attribute most people find attractive in a partner, while at the same time there is some thrill in surrendering control of yourself to someone else that really gets some people going, and not to objectify and use them in that instance, whether ongoing or periodic, would indicate true emotional distance since it indicates a perverse unwillingness to satisfy your emotional needs.
That clear things up?
Anyway, bottom line is, we're all objects to somebody, economic objects, political objects, service providers of safety or violence, entertainment or annoyance, warm bodies for utility of all description - sex is about the least of it, it really becomes a matter of how much your esteem can handle being treated like an object, and for how long, some people laugh it off, some people love it, some people react violently to it.
So, go with the flow; if you both have each others interests at heart, it should work out fine, the only real danger here is if it gets to the point that you believe your own bullshit and objectify yourself, believing whatever the idiot object tells you, which means you are probably not living up to your full potential.
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