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LadyPact -> RE: BDSM out of necessity? (1/26/2012 6:30:02 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Dscouple7383
What I AM frustrated with, is not being able to find people near me who share the same kind of mindset. And by the same kind of mindset, I mean people who make an effort to take care of themselves. THAT'S IT!!!
There is a HUGE difference (no pun intended) on a woman OR MAN who is overweight and BEAUTIFUL, compared to an overweight SLOB who just doesn't give an f about anything, including themselves.
So, yes....I seem to be running into the latter, as opposed to the first. I think anyone who kept reaching out in the local community, and all they seemed to find were people who were more slobs than people who work hard and may not have the nicest clothes, or manicured nails or whatever, would get frustrated after a while.
I don't care whether you are ugly or supermodel. I don't care whether you are morbidly obese or if you are unhealthily skinny. I don't care if you are rich or poor. But what I DO care about is having a shred of pride in yourself. OR, having a shred of pride in your partner, to not allow them to just be a slob. And slob doesn't mean FAT!!! I've met plenty of skinny slobs.
So this isn't about weight EITHER!!!!!! It isn't about women or men. It's about a mentality. And I'm frustrated that I haven't, as yet, found people in our local community who share that same mentality.
And again, TO ME, just because you affix a label to you, doesn't just grant you access to everything. Anything worth doing takes EFFORT. It takes WORK. And I'm not finding people with the same motivation. I think if everyone were honest with themselves, you can understand how that MIGHT be a touch frustrating.
Maybe there are others out there who have the same type of motivation, drive, and mentality that my fiance, our sub, and I have. But at the time I wrote my original post, I was starting to feel like there aren't any people out there close to us who we can talk to, meet, share ideas, stories, etc.
Take care,
Derek
I trimmed some of this down, but I hopefully kept the parts that I want to address.
I'm actually going to give you this part. I admit that I've done it. Not so much when I've been going to the dungeon. Even those times when it's been three hours away and it's one of those change when you get there deals. (Ever try riding in the car in an over the bust corset? It kind of sucks.) Once I have gotten on the leather, touched My face up, etc, I'm usually fairly decent looking until I start playing. After that, the bets are off because I'm going to be more worried about My scene and enjoying that nice endorphin rush afterward to even think much about every little hair is in place.
It's happened at munches, too. Even though I told people what My work schedule was like before I got voted on the board, I got voted in anyway which meant that half of the munches for the year, I was coming straight from work. There's nothing like a twelve hour day working on equipment to give you that refined look.
Of course, there are those times when it was My day off and I should have plenty of time to get ready, when the greeter calls and says they have some emergency or another and can I possibly be across town an hour early so we don't lose our room? Or, it's time for the quarterly financial report and our treasurer hasn't been able to get the spread sheet to work and it won't take long if someone else type's it up.
Oh, and don't forget the times when there has been an all day set up for an event that I've promised to host. That's three hours away just to get there. Plus the one thing you needed for said event is something you can't do without so you're in an unfamiliar town trying to find some obscure item like poker chips.
Yeah. I just don't know what's wrong with Me not being presentable.
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