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LaTigresse -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:33:24 AM)

Here is how I look at it.

We talk about kinky people not being that different than non kinky people......big picture. Our relationships are still relationships. There are many really fabulous people that are kinky, just like there are many assholes, and........as we've seen evidence of on here recently, some really mentally fucked up individuals.

Nearly every day that I work, I walk during lunch. When I walk I pass by quite a few of the homeless people in the town. Many of whom are mentally fucked up. I am certain I probably pass by a lot of assholes, as well as some really fabulous people. Hell, I met a certain sexy young professor whilst out walking.

I don't think that the odds of a really mentally fucked up individual having a negative impact on my life is any greater by having an identity online, or even on a kink site, than it is in my daily, actually physical, life. The most dangerous, the most fucked up people I've ever met/known, had nothing at all to do with my internet activities.



PolyIrishMiss -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:42:39 AM)

I don't put face pics up anywhere but Facebook anymore after a pair of lovely individuals on the Irish scene did their best to drive me to suicide a few years back. These days I just prefer not to paint a target on my back.

But a scare of that type I have had in the past. My GP booked me back in my prodomme days. I didn't realise 'til he was at the door. That was one frikkin' awkward silence.



Fornica -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:45:52 AM)

I'm more afraid of the religious, personally.
;)
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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories


The scare was that a Dominant male on a site filled with sadist




ShibsStories -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:45:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PolyIrishMiss
But a scare of that type I have had in the past. My GP booked me back in my prodomme days. I didn't realise 'til he was at the door. That was one frikkin' awkward silence.



Ow. That thought just hurts me.



PolyIrishMiss -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:54:25 AM)

To make it worse he'd been my GP since literally the day I was born. So he'd given me shots, and done rather a large number of examinations of an intimate nature. I was so happy to change GP later that year.



ShibsStories -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:56:53 AM)

ooooo
General Practitioner... I thought GP stood for grandpa ><

ETA
I feel dumb now. But my mind hurts less. Fair trade?



ShibsStories -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:58:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Fornica

I'm more afraid of the religious, personally.
;)
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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories


The scare was that a Dominant male on a site filled with sadist




Yeah, but atleast over here, they haven't been going the Monty Python "BURN HER!" route lately.



PolyIrishMiss -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 8:59:26 AM)

No thankfully neither of my grandpas were anything like me. I half expected to answer the door to my sperm donor at some stage. But I got pretty lucky I suppose in a place as small as Ireland with just my doctor. But considering the week before he'd been giving me a rectal exam...*shudders* That was pretty much the day I retired and decided to keep kink as my prefered way of saying "I love you."



Fornica -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:01:50 AM)

Did you still do him??



Kaliko -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:02:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I don't think that the odds of a really mentally fucked up individual having a negative impact on my life is any greater by having an identity online, or even on a kink site, than it is in my daily, actually physical, life. The most dangerous, the most fucked up people I've ever met/known, had nothing at all to do with my internet activities.



I agree. I do wonder, though, if labeling oneself as a submissive female does paint a sort of target on my back. Even though I know and you know and everyone involved in all this that have some knowledge and half a brain knows that my being submissive doesn't mean I want to get the shit beat out of me by the first man I meet, I think there are enough misconceptions out there that an abusive/unstable man might look at me as easy prey.

If I were walking down the street without an "I'm a submissive" sign on my back, perhaps that abusive/unstable man looking for prey might bypass me - because he's looking here, for women he believes are weak.

Just a thought. I generally feel that I have just as much a chance of meeting a nutjob in the grocery store as I do here, but that little asterisk of a thought popped into my head when I read your post.



PolyIrishMiss -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:03:54 AM)

Oh hell no. Bad enough that he knew precisely what I look like naked. The last thing I wanted was the image of his pasty white skin in my mind the next time I met his wife on the street. I gave him the number of someone I knew was good, and advised him to grow a pair and talk to his wife about his actual nature. 



Fornica -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:18:18 AM)

hahahaha!!!
That's awesome.



LaTigresse -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:19:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I don't think that the odds of a really mentally fucked up individual having a negative impact on my life is any greater by having an identity online, or even on a kink site, than it is in my daily, actually physical, life. The most dangerous, the most fucked up people I've ever met/known, had nothing at all to do with my internet activities.



I agree. I do wonder, though, if labeling oneself as a submissive female does paint a sort of target on my back. Even though I know and you know and everyone involved in all this that have some knowledge and half a brain knows that my being submissive doesn't mean I want to get the shit beat out of me by the first man I meet, I think there are enough misconceptions out there that an abusive/unstable man might look at me as easy prey.

If I were walking down the street without an "I'm a submissive" sign on my back, perhaps that abusive/unstable man looking for prey might bypass me - because he's looking here, for women he believes are weak.

Just a thought. I generally feel that I have just as much a chance of meeting a nutjob in the grocery store as I do here, but that little asterisk of a thought popped into my head when I read your post.


Kaliko, I do believe there is probably some merit to your theory.



kalikshama -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:23:26 AM)

FR,

I outed myself at work when I suggested we advertise on CM, which I had buried in a list of other adult sites, to no avail. They ad guys assumed I was a Domme, lol.

This was no big at this particular workplace.



DesFIP -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 9:28:15 AM)

I don't think I would be attacked if someone identified me but I live in a small town. It's not uncommon to have a phone ring, it be a wrong number and I know who it is or the right number they're calling.

It would just be awkward as hell for people I know from the PTA, or the synagogue, to see me, blush and be unable to talk to me. Nor would I want the only topic of conversation be what I do in bed.



heartfeltsub -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 10:10:53 AM)

Not from CM, but in real life, i was doing the orientation meeting for the BDSM group that i was joining. They met in the local library for orientation meetings. The day of the meeting i come strolling into the library, and start walking up to the table where i see people who are going to do the orientation meeting when i spy sitting at another table, just two tables down, my brother-in-law. None of my family know about my interest or proclivities and i REALLY didn't want my brother-in-law finding out.



Kaliko -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 10:27:39 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Nor would I want the only topic of conversation be what I do in bed.




You use a bed? ppfftt. How vanilla.

:)




OsideGirl -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 10:40:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Kaliko


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Nor would I want the only topic of conversation be what I do in bed.




You use a bed? ppfftt. How vanilla.

:)


Twue submissives do it on a bed of broken glass.....



petboy85 -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 11:48:10 AM)

I do the same as you by putting my pics up off and on. But always kept my face pictures blanked out just for this reason!



Epytropos -> RE: Ever have a scare? (1/18/2012 1:08:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories

Congrats on being published :)


I appreciate it. I'm having a crisis of conscience at the moment because all the top publishers (controlling >70% of the market) are SOPA/PIPA supporters. I like physical books (and advertising and editing support and and and) but I'm not sure if I can bring myself to be involved with people who are actively working to destroy freedom of speech.



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