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MyHazelLabyrinth -> Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 9:05:32 AM)

Now, this is something i'm seeming alot of especially on FL. Pictures of subs/slave/littles with marks or bruises or even cuts on certain body parts. And comments that suggest these marks are attractive or....i don't know the right words...appealing.
I've never had a mark made on me by a Dom or alike so maybe that is more than half of why i don't understand it.
I think for some it is symbolic of something. But i don't know what.
As i'm still pretty unsure about the kind of sub that i am, not really knowing if i'm a masochist or not, well i just want to know....why are marks appealing/attractive? (if i'm using the wrong words here, feel feel to put your own in instead)
Because when i see bruises or marks, i wouldn't want to show them off proudly, i would want to hide them. That's just me, maybe that might change later on but for now that's my opinion.

Any and all feedback would be welcome :)



myotherself -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 9:26:39 AM)

I don't show my marks off, but I do like having them.

It acts as a reminder to me of the time we had together, of the pain I took for him, for the love he showed me by giving me the pain I crave.

When I was a teenager, some of my peers proudly sported 'love bite' bruises. Nowadays I have my 'love bruises' in less visible places [:)]



Kana -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 9:34:58 AM)

Think of em as love bites :-)



OsideGirl -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 10:10:01 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MyHazelLabyrinth

I think for some it is symbolic of something. But i don't know what.
For me, it's usually souvenir of a fun night.



Fornica -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 11:34:41 AM)

This.

quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

I don't show my marks off, but I do like having them.

It acts as a reminder to me of the time we had together, of the pain I took for him, for the love he showed me by giving me the pain I crave.






littlewonder -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 4:41:18 PM)

I like bruises and cuts and marks...they're symbols of his ownership over me, that he can and does do whatever he wants from me and also symbols of his love and pride in me and me in him and so yeah, I don't  mind if others see them. If they ask I just shrug my shoulders and usually give them a smile and say "rough sex".




NyxPontia -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/19/2012 11:58:25 PM)

"His fingernails bit into her hip. It would leave bruises, and she knew it. She also knew she would touch them often and think of him."

That's a quote from "In The Corner", a short erotic story I read. Forget the author, apologies for that, but it was in the book "Yes, Sir".

I memorized it because it reflects how I feel, and as myotherself and littlewonder stated, it is all a matter of being able to carry a 'love bite' in another form. I have had plenty of hickies, and I'm actually at a point where sucking and biting my neck doesn't do it for me anymore because I'm just used to the pain there. I would love to feel it elsewhere, though.



SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/20/2012 12:04:43 AM)

I post pictures of Scenes Ive been in, they are a reminder of the feelings I had, and to show the various art work or skill of the top who worked on me.

I look fondly on those photos because they remind me of where Ive been and how far I can go. They remind me of how strong of a person I am, and how I will not allow the fact that somethings not mainstream keep me from things I love.

I can look at certain marks, and certain scenes and feel how high I was in subspace at that time.

Yeah... ^_^ Marks are fun



RaspberryLemon -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/20/2012 12:06:41 AM)

I am not a masochist and my Master is not a sadist, so I do not end up with cuts or bruises from beatings or anything like that. I do get bruises and marks from hard bites and such, though--and I do like the marks it leaves and I don't care if people see them. It feels like these marks are him marking me as his. A small reminder/token of his ownership of me. It feels good.



Aileen1968 -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/20/2012 3:53:44 AM)

I absolutely love bruises from him. Sadly, I don't bruise often. They are rare on me, but we get an A for effort.
I don't really know why I like them and the thought of them. Maybe because it's the result of something that I view as being extremely intimate and emotional between us.



subjan1962 -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 11:53:49 AM)

Like Aileen i do not mark easily, not through lack of trying. i can feel the after effects for days after but never any marks. i am thinking of asking Master to use a heavy whip on me, maybe that would leave me with the marks i crave.



littlewonder -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 12:02:00 PM)

I used to be that way when I was younger. I never marked. But the older I get the easier it is for me to bruise, especially with medications and my skin getting thinner and diet, etc...nowadays it takes hardly anything for me to mark. He gives me a little pinch and a few hours later I have a huge bruise.




sheisreeds -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 12:51:08 PM)

I love marks, of all kinds. I love the lingering pain, I love scars, I love watching the body heal. I love all of it. There is something about watching my body heal, for me it is very erotic, and very human. I love the feeling the next day of being physically wrecked.

Unless it was something particularly awesome I don't tend to post pictures of them. But I love marks.

I love that there are marks from my partner permanently on my body. I love that my story can be told through my scars. Also, a little confession, part of my fishnet fetish stems from the fact that my thighs hold most of my prettier scars. Also for whatever reason has always been one of my favorite places to have injured.

I don't mind people seeing them though, well at least, I don't mind other people into BDSM seeing them.

Not too fond of having to wear turtlenecks 2 weeks straight, or long sleeves in 90 degree weather because of kinky marks.

I'm a disbeliever in "I'm hard to mark", I used to believe that too, and then I realized I wasn't playing hard enough.

Though it is true that the older I get the easier it is to mark, and also it can take me longer to heal up.



fucktoyprincess -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 12:55:43 PM)

Yes, I am in the camp of I like them, and they are reminders of our time together or his Dominance. I don't know if I would have known how I would have reacted to a bruise before having one, though. I don't know that I have an opinion one way or the other about bruises on others. It is a bruise on my own body that I find erotic. I'm not sure I find images of bruises or marks erotic per se.



littlewonder -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 1:10:09 PM)

that reminds me that I don't like looking at marks on other people, in fact I find them kinda ugly <I know Master finds them hot however>. I only seem to like looking and feeling my own marks on my own body except when he films them or takes pics. Then I don't even want to look at them because I just don't find the pics to be very pretty unless it's some kind of design from a cutting or needles.



Fornica -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 4:21:53 PM)

I mark soo easily. (Damn pale pale skin)



MissToYouRedux -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/21/2012 4:49:49 PM)

With subs I'm in the "still hurts even though they can't see anything" camp, but I do understand that lots of subs would like a memento [;)], so I have been known to be magnanimous. [:D]



Focus50 -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/22/2012 2:46:31 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MyHazelLabyrinth

Now, this is something i'm seeming alot of especially on FL. Pictures of subs/slave/littles with marks or bruises or even cuts on certain body parts. And comments that suggest these marks are attractive or....i don't know the right words...appealing.
I've never had a mark made on me by a Dom or alike so maybe that is more than half of why i don't understand it.
I think for some it is symbolic of something. But i don't know what.
As i'm still pretty unsure about the kind of sub that i am, not really knowing if i'm a masochist or not, well i just want to know....why are marks appealing/attractive? (if i'm using the wrong words here, feel feel to put your own in instead)
Because when i see bruises or marks, i wouldn't want to show them off proudly, i would want to hide them. That's just me, maybe that might change later on but for now that's my opinion.

Any and all feedback would be welcome :)



Like others have said - think "love bites". Plus I do enjoy watching the girl take a seat on a recently paddled butt, esp out in public. Our little secret.... ;)

And yeah, while pain logically must hurt to the uninitiated, the average submissive usually overcomes that by sliding into sub-space. That's when it hurts soooo good. Of course, this probably isn't so helpful to your research, considering you have another topic devoted to the mysteries of sub-space - sorry 'bout that....

Most things are better understood as a complementing (D & s) dynamic. Trick is to find that right partner to both experience the different physical sensations as well as (the important part to me) talking through what you experienced, later.

Being a young, tall and slim fem/sub, I'm sure you'll find no shortage of volunteers to "help" you along. *Do* choose carefully, but....

Focus.



Focus50 -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/22/2012 2:52:44 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Fornica

I mark soo easily. (Damn pale pale skin)


Whoa - "Damn"?????

That'd be "drool" from my perspective - and not necessarily anything to do with potential markability.... ;)

Focus.



KatyShatter -> RE: Leaving marks/bruises (1/22/2012 8:58:16 AM)

I'm very easily bruised, so with me, marks and bruises are inevitable -- but then, I'm very much so a masochist, so the marks and bruises tend to be something that I find great pleasure in.

Either way, if you play hard, you're going to eventually get some type of mark or bruise. In the beginning, I was having too much fun to even realize that I was going to end up with bruises. I guess it's a matter of personal preference.

Camp Marks and Bruises, for me. [:)]



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