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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/3/2006 7:48:41 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
and that all the women responders have no substantive problem submitting.


And from reading your comment, if you can't see what these lovely ladys are saying regarding problems with submission then you have a lot more to learn about the subject than you obviously think you have.

I had my girl read this thread because she has similar 'problems' and she was nodding in agreement all the way through.


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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/3/2006 9:56:33 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear catize, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Lass, you do need to tell your Master you need to be fed.  This feeding is some sign, by verbal, gesture or some other sign that he is indeed pleased with the efforts in giving him a clean plate.  It is an 'at a girl,' or 'good girl.'
 
Some need to have a pea ping off their head to um, get a hint that your slave heart is hungry for some praise.
 
In addition to your responses, the perfection is sought and until you are given the signal that the job well done is given and or praise and or fed; you will keep trying to discover what is wrong that is not triggering that praise/feeding the slave soul.  So, lass--you are over processing as you're doing things right--you just need the Master to confirm it.  So, time to communicate your needs, as to help your Master do his job in feeding you as much as you feed him.
 
Do let us know how much progress is made.  You are a good girl.  You are a special girl.  You need to hear this like all slaves, male or female--that you are good and you are special.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/3/2006 12:36:59 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy
and that all the women responders have no substantive problem submitting.


And from reading your comment, if you can't see what these lovely ladys are saying regarding problems with submission then you have a lot more to learn about the subject than you obviously think you have.

I had my girl read this thread because she has similar 'problems' and she was nodding in agreement all the way through.



I would in no way equate my challenge of learning to express concern at the appropriate time with "problems with submission."  That's quite a stretch. Learning behaviors that please him has nothing to do with having a problem submitting to him.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/4/2006 10:54:12 AM   
ownedblackbeauty


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Status: offline 		its hard for me to accept Master, Sir giving me oral pleasure. i have this block come up. i think: "im supposed to be pleasing Him!" one time, i put my hand in the way... i thought i was going to get it by the way He looked at me. im working on it though. i have to say to myself over and over that it pleases Him to please His slaves as well.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/4/2006 12:50:46 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Maybe he enjoys your flavor and response to him.  Why deny him that?  If the result is your physical pleasure as he pleases himself with you, all the better.  Accept the gift

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/4/2006 3:42:01 PM   
denika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

This is not a poll (dear mod)...

What was/has been/still is the most difficult thing/part of you to submit to? 




At first the simple act of being told 'no' for what ever reason was really difficult, I'm a bit spoiled (Rob swears I should have come with a warning label *s*) so I wasn't used to seeking permission but once I let go and accepted myself, now the hardest part is not being  able to  access that part of my personality more. Rob and I don't have a D/s dynamic I have an informal one with my Top.


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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/5/2006 12:39:11 PM   
OedipusRexIt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy

From reading this thread it strikes me that no men have responded and that all the women responders have no substantive problem submitting.


That would be true, I suppose, if I hadn't responded.  Still very much male here.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/5/2006 2:46:49 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		the biggest challenge in submiting for this girl is learning to trust in her Owners.she has been blessed with having a Master and Mistress that understand how and why walls get built up through the years and They take her through letting the wall down brick by brick in baby steps and each and every time she throws up a brick to replace one she has taken down They do not allow her to do so. They continually show her it is safe to submit to Their will and she has finally come to learn it is safe.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/5/2006 6:16:45 PM   
mikeyny


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Status: offline 		It seems that i am the only male sub who has responded.  i must say that submitting to my Mistress (Mistress Gina of Buffalo, NY) is the easiest thing for me in all ways.  It is so fulfilling and rewarding to see Her smile when She likes what i have done for Her, whether it be in playtime or doing errands for Her.  It is all about Mistress Gina and i gladly submit to Her.  She is the first Woman who i totally gave up my power to.  i would never do anything to upset Her nor cross Her.  i am proud to be Her slave.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/5/2006 6:42:41 PM   
faithNZ


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Status: offline 		The biggest challenge I have would be trusting the Dom.  I am the type of person, that if someone does me a favour, I will be wondering what they want from me.  That, and intimacy 'issues'....makes for some interesting times.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/5/2006 7:49:09 PM   
sweetbbwsub31


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Status: offline 		My first Dom was very selfish and strict. He was harsh (for my taste) and allowed no eye contact. He pushed my limits from the very beginning but I really didn't know any better.So, when I had my first few scenes with my second Dom it took me a long time to adjust to the fact that he respected me. It was quite an adjustment to understand that to him part of serving him was him giving me pleasure. It was difficult to just relax and let him take over when I was so used to serving only to please my Dom. Accepting gifts, allowing him to really take care of me physically, emotionally, spiritually and even financially at times. Now, after being released, I am spoiled rotten and very picky about my next Dom. I just can't help it. I wont give that complete gift of submission out easily.
 
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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/6/2006 4:46:27 AM   
keme


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Status: offline 		for me it is fear of losing myself... who I am and all I want to be. I like me though I do have issues I still want to work through and I fear giving that up. I fear my past decisions and future hopes. hummm sounds like I purdy much am just scared...lol. I know leaving your comfort zone is hard and frightening and handing your life to another is terrifying... but I know for me there is no other path. I will one day have to let go and trust in him and my choice in him. But that will happen after we finally meet I guess...lol.

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/6/2006 4:59:30 AM   
sabswife


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Status: offline 		i have always been in vanilla relationships where i wasn't treated very well -- especially emotionally.

the hardest thing for me thus far is that i have always had self esteem issues - particularly with my body, He loves my body but i still tend to focus on all the negative things rather than what He sees.  i need to learn to close off my mind and just enjoy the moment without wondering if He is going to suddenly see what i see.

i can submit to the best of my ability at this time, as this is all still quite new to me as compared to He who has been a part of this lifestyle for almost as long as i have been alive.  i have spent 27 years basically thinking i was alone and nobody felt the way i do about life and relationships. in the end i do as He asks but the trouble i have is letting myself go of my hangups so i can truly get into the moment.

i guess what i need to do is learn to see myself through His eyes, rather than my own. 

i feel that i fail in submission when i am not completely there with my mind as well as my body when it comes to all situations, i just hope that at some point i really can let all of this go and finally just be the me that He knows is there.  being treated like a worthwhile human being is brand new territory to me, i am not disposable after all.

end of ramble.. lol

< Message edited by sabswife -- 6/6/2006 5:01:37 AM >

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RE: Challenges of Submitting - 6/6/2006 5:58:21 AM   
peterK50


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Status: offline 		Submitting is easy, certain acts within submission may be harder then others. I found it hard to have to beg to suck a cock, and then thank them afterwards.

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