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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/1/2006 10:07:10 PM   
Evanesce


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I think it's a good indication that the person sending the message is, in fact, nothing more than a SNERT (Snot Nosed, Egotistical, Radical Teenager)


Oh, Harry... whoever told you the definition of SNERT should be horsewhipped.
 
It's Sexually Needy, Emotionally Repressed Troglodyte

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 12:29:52 AM   
wumpus


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baseline, those creeps hit many people in many ways. If a girl is on the large side then they will go for that, if english is there second language thats what they will pick on, disability oh easy target.


RavenMuse: Exactly my reason to start the thread! This was not the first time I saw people go due to rude/offensive messaging -- and I am not even here for a long time myself.

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 12:33:55 AM   
wumpus


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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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To the OP: It is terribly sad that people are like that but the reality is that assholes abound everywhere. Delete and Block are your friends. Use them for all they are worth. Also, if someone is loathsome enough to insult someone with a disability that speaks volumes about who they are. Move on and do not allow them to grind you down. They aren't worth the time or energy.


This is very clear to me and I have no problem with (sh)it anyway.

But obviously that girl was so overwhelmed with the flood (?) of offensive messages she got she gave up. -- And she even stated in her profile that she was going to ignore, delete, block bullying mails and their senders respectively. So she was aware of those tools.

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Master William




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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 12:35:01 AM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Evanesce

quote:

I think it's a good indication that the person sending the message is, in fact, nothing more than a SNERT (Snot Nosed, Egotistical, Radical Teenager)


Oh, Harry... whoever told you the definition of SNERT should be horsewhipped.
 
It's Sexually Needy, Emotionally Repressed Troglodyte


Definitions! Here's mine for SNERT - Salacious, narcissistic, embryonic, rapacious twit!

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 4:21:42 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs
What is disappointing, is that the peers don't speak up about it and think it is funny to attack polite people.  Being polite and kind to others, is not a sign of weakness however, a standard of quiet strength.


Quite petal, fact of life, some like me are virtualy bombproof, we are confident, fit in easily, come to places like this and dive in happily with both feet, any arseholes simply get shrugged off as being totaly irrelivent. Others lack that confidence, it has often taken them a lot just to come to somewhere like this, admit what they are and be open to looking. For them the initial flood with its large percentage of negative and abusive mails can be very off putting.

Does that make them weak people overall? No, it means that they sometimes need a little help and encouragement from others.... THEN they calm down, see past the initial reaction and learn how to stand on their own two feet.

All that takes is a few minutes of my time, a kind word from a peer, a little reasurance that not everyone out here is an offencive dick.

Did give me a chuckle being labled as a 'white knight'... it isn't the first time, but really.... folks here have seen how I react to someone when I see them playing the victim..... Do they really think I react any diffrent in private? Big diffrence between someone who just needs a little reasurance and someone with a victim complex

They came first for the Communists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist.

Then they came for the Jews,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.

Then they came for the trade unionists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Catholics,
and I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me,
and by that time no one was left to speak up.


A few words spoken out at the right time can make a lot of diffrence to another. Other folks don't want to... fine I don't ask them too... I do and, well as I've said a number of times before, couldn't give a monkeys what others opinion of it is, not going to stop me doing so when *I* deem it appropriate




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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 4:28:59 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		i read Your post Wumpus, Sir... and disabled or not, ppl get those kinda messages all the time... 
 
i too am a crip, and like Your friend it does not bother me nor do i careless what ppl think... Oh yes i have tons and TONS of ppl stop talking to me after they found out, but hell that is their problem, surly not mine.... 
 
some ppl just sux Sir, thats a fact of life....
 
P.S. just missing my left fore arm... no big...

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 4:57:06 AM   
Bear55


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Status: offline 		Can anyone contact this sub that left? Maybe convince her to come back.  Is she new to the internet?
I am new here  to COLLARME and I am also handicapt Dom, not to mention I am so ugly I can scare dirt, I am not just sayin this to be funny but I have destroyed all pics of myself because everytime, and I mean EVERYTIME I show a pic, the sub stops talkin to me...but here are my thoughts.....
Although I agree with another post about kicking and banning these jerks who feel they must do this...it would be impossible. Ya might get some, but many will filter thru.
Three..(damn its early,I misspelled the word three) suggestions I have:
a) a link (intro) made where everyone can go and be "advised" that this is gonna happen and to report, block, delete. 
b) maybe a place be set inside COLLARME for people like this sub to go, and talk to someone about these jerks.
c) reporting these jerks to someone inside COLLARME and then these jerks sternly warned...THIS IS NOT TOLERATED.
Although I have never recieved rude emails, it is just as rude for someone to immediately stop chatting with you when they "finally" see a pic.


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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 5:03:01 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Do we really think that the VOLUNTEER staff at Collarme has the time or the desire to deal with "He was rude to me" complaints from ADULTS?

I'm really sorry, rude people do suck...but we ALL have to deal with them. If you are too immature to simply ignore it, or not confident enough to block or delete it....then I would suggest that you are not mature or confident enough to own a computer.

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 5:07:40 AM   
smilezz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

ORIGINAL: Evanesce

quote:

I think it's a good indication that the person sending the message is, in fact, nothing more than a SNERT (Snot Nosed, Egotistical, Radical Teenager)


Oh, Harry... whoever told you the definition of SNERT should be horsewhipped.
 
It's Sexually Needy, Emotionally Repressed Troglodyte


Definitions! Here's mine for SNERT - Salacious, narcissistic, embryonic, rapacious twit!


*grinz*  i like these.

Here's mine:  SNERT
                   Seriously Neurotic Egotistical Recidivistic Tard

~smilezz~

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 6:17:55 AM   
angelface183


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Status: offline 		Sir RavenMuse,

How I have always loved those words you cared to print.

quote:

  They came first for the Communists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist.

Then they came for the Jews,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.

Then they came for the trade unionists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Catholics,
and I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me,
and by that time no one was left to speak up. 


Years ago, my youngest sister graduated from collge and prepared to begin her tour with the Peace Corps.  My other sister was finishing up Law School with the intention of starting a family law practice to better focus on children's rights during divorce.  I was managing a pet store, working part-time as a vet tech,  and doing volunteer work.  My father lamented, "Damn it!  Can't any of my girls find jobs that make them money?" 

I responded, "Daddy, anybody can make money, but not everyone can make a difference."

Some times we can make a difference by saying the right thing at the right time.  Thank you, Sir.  I hope you were effective in keeping the lady in question from running; if she were to do that then the assholes and idiots win. 

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 8:20:24 AM   
wumpus


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Status: offline 		I think your suggestions are great. The "place to talk" might be a forum here and the "WILL NOT BE TOLERATED!" warning is probably the most important part: those jerks need to be told that directly.


Thanks everyone for the great discussion.


Kind regards


Master William



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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 8:30:57 AM   
Evanesce


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Definitions! Here's mine for SNERT - Salacious, narcissistic, embryonic, rapacious twit!


Oh, that's GOOD!

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RE: COLLARME: Abusive messages to new member with disab... - 6/2/2006 3:01:35 PM   
OedipusRexIt


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Status: offline 		I would have to agree with RavenMuse that the point of the OP was more about the rudeness than about disability itself.

True, the world could and should make a better place for people with disabilities.  Also true that the world has rude insensitive people in it.  No sense hiding from the truth...

Still, who wants to decide whether rudeness to and non-accommodation of disabled people is the cause most worth fighting for?  Is this where we put in a plug to feed the hungry, clothe the naked (selecitively, of course) and house the homeless?

Not to be too flippant, but some problems are larger than others, depending of course on your perspective.  Hope the OP toughes it out.

..................also, I don't think anyone should have jumped all over  Jaydee for trying to clarify, but it looks like you guys worked it out yourselves...

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