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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/5/2012 5:06:42 AM

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Cuckolding like all these fetishes is a sad thing as it has been taken out of context. They are all aspects of submission for a male to a dominant matriarch. When some guys says I'm turned on by humiliation etc, A very wise Domme once said to me, he's got it wrong... I might use humiliation as part of the way to break a male ego, however if I call a sub or slave shit it is a tool. Why would I want shit to submit to me. Same with cuckolding, it can't be taken as just a fetish in itself... It is part of the subservient process before a matriarch.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/5/2012 5:09:39 AM

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kalikshama,

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Since then I embraced my Ethical Slutness and vowed to not enter into any monogamous relationships.

*laughs at the different outcome* :-)

I pondered the same question and my own "ethical slutness" caused me to conclude monogamy (for myself and for any partner I become involved with) is a prerequisite. It's important to understand that poly, cuckolding, and the myriad other possibilities that bring others into your relationship(s) do not mean cheating is impossible. In fact, all of the poly folks I know practice poly-fidelity. It's just as easy to cheat in a poly relationship as it is in a monogamous one.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/5/2012 5:23:10 AM

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Incorruptable,

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Cuckolding like all these fetishes is a sad thing as it has been taken out of context. They are all aspects of submission for a male to a dominant matriarch. When some guys says I'm turned on by humiliation etc, A very wise Domme once said to me, he's got it wrong... I might use humiliation as part of the way to break a male ego, however if I call a sub or slave shit it is a tool. Why would I want shit to submit to me. Same with cuckolding, it can't be taken as just a fetish in itself... It is part of the subservient process before a matriarch.

My reply may come across a bit harshly so I put this up front.

Cuckolding is an aspect of male submission to a dominant matriarch? Huh? Let's clear away the BS and call it what it really is. Cuckolding and/or whatever activities people choose to share are just that... things people enjoy doing and sharing together for mutual satisfaction. It has nothing to do with submission, though in the fantasy mind it's hot to think of it this way. As for "humiliation being a way to break the male ego", fortunately, I've long since realized I don't need or want anyone to break me. I like myself just the way I am and any dominant who tries this approach quickly gets shown the door. The whole "break the submissive" routine reeks of unhealthy BDSM.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/5/2012 8:15:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued
The whole "break the submissive" routine reeks of unhealthy BDSM.

I agree.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/6/2012 7:02:13 PM

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... It is part of the subservient process before a matriarch.

Only if that is what you and your partner find interesting and have agreed to. Cuckolding is not naturally part of the power dynamic, and not every female dominant wants a cuckold. Personally I have fantasized about having my partner present while having REALLY GOOD sex with another, but its certainly not something I am genuinely interested in introducing to my relationships. Im monogamous, and require my partner to be as well.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/6/2012 7:34:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: Incorruptable

... It is part of the subservient process before a matriarch.

Not this 'matriarch'. And might I add it's terribly risky for all involved parties unless safer sex techniques are rigorously adhered to every single time for every single sex act involving bodily fluids exchange including oral. Repeat after me: every single sex act involving bodily fluid exchange including oral!

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/7/2012 7:09:01 PM

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Im a sub male who is dating a dominant female. I was asked a few months ago about whether or not cuckolding is a hard limit for me and I didnt really know how to answer the question. My femdom doesnt follow the typical cuckolding diagram (not into black men), and to be honest im not sure if it would bother me or not? How do we procede with this aspect of our lifestyle? What can I expect or what should I be prepared for? Should I worry that this lifestyle will fester cheating in our relationship? Im unsure what to do??

My favorite topic.....don't even care to comment....just like it :)

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/7/2012 7:11:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: NCtriadsub

Im a sub male who is dating a dominant female. I was asked a few months ago about whether or not cuckolding is a hard limit for me and I didnt really know how to answer the question. My femdom doesnt follow the typical cuckolding diagram (not into black men), and to be honest im not sure if it would bother me or not? How do we procede with this aspect of our lifestyle? What can I expect or what should I be prepared for? Should I worry that this lifestyle will fester cheating in our relationship? Im unsure what to do??

WTF dude?????

It ain't about black men....maybe it is for you....it's all good.

It's hers.

When it becomes yours...it ain't cuckolding....(it's something entirely else).

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/7/2012 9:34:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: NCtriadsub

Im a sub male who is dating a dominant female. I was asked a few months ago about whether or not cuckolding is a hard limit for me and I didnt really know how to answer the question. My femdom doesnt follow the typical cuckolding diagram (not into black men), and to be honest im not sure if it would bother me or not? How do we procede with this aspect of our lifestyle? What can I expect or what should I be prepared for? Should I worry that this lifestyle will fester cheating in our relationship? Im unsure what to do??

WTF dude?????

It ain't about black men....maybe it is for you....it's all good.

It's hers.

When it becomes yours...it ain't cuckolding....(it's something entirely else).

haha! I missed this originally myself, I tend to agree. I will augment my original comment to state that cuckolding is not a natural part of a D/s dynamic, and not all women who enjoy cuckolding are "into black men". I agree that once the fantasy becomes based on what you want, it becomes less about what the dominant wants, and more about what you want, thus nullifying the cuckolding dynamic in your relationship.

That said, I could imagine a cuck getting off on being told what happened and how good it was, and this being a healthy part of a cuckold dynamic. Your mileage may vary.

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RE: Cuckolding ??? - 2/15/2012 11:07:50 PM

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FemmeDominion pretty much said everything I was thinking. Talk to her and discuss the idea and WHEN you BOTH come to a conclusion that feels right for you, decide on what to do.

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