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Arturas -> RE: Being tested as a Dom (2/29/2012 9:48:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ConfidencePlays
Personally, I've never had much patience for it. I'm not interested in getting into a pissing match with someone who has agreed to follow my lead within limits of ability, and sanity. As I'm not the type to expect things that are irrational, asinine, or dangerous, I don't leave much room for irrational, asinine or dangerous behavior.
Last I checked, high school was well behind me. I prefer to leave that kind of drama where it belongs. Just an opinion, I suppose.
I may understand this point of view. I had one submissive who used to be a dungeon monitor and she brought to the table a certain formal contract attitude in which she was only comfortable with sitting down with me and going over a detailed list of kink items and identifying scene limits and need to haves as in a top and bottom formal relationship. In that situation the test was if we agreed on the contract. So, there was no other 'test' other than the walk and talk and look test for the first three seconds I met her, as someone mentioned earlier, at least initially. I can see that a Dom who knows no other relationship except that type would very honestly and truthfully use terms like "follow my lead within limits of ability", "sanity", "no room for dangrous behavior" instead of terms like submitted to my will, or she challenged me but found I could meet her challenges and overcome her reluctance and even show her she wanted to follow my lead.
But in my case with this one submiissive who did first what she was taught in the dungeon scene, when the relationship evolved out of a simple top/bottom scene oriented relationship and into one more emotionally based then the testing of my will as a master, as one who controlled her outside of a formal contract of dos and don'ts, came quickly.
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