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RE: The 3 faces of D/s on CM - 2/2/2012 8:21:56 PM

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Just like any social situation, the forums here have intimidated me for quite awhile, so I just lurked. I have always found it difficult to fit in anywhere, but I've been learning that if I don't come out of the shadows, I'm not giving anyone a chance to get to know me enough to give me a place to fit in. I've gotten nailed a few times when I haven't said something in quite the right way, and that does tend to add to the intimidation factor, but the only way I'm going to learn to fit in is to learn from my social blunders so it doesn't happen again. Well, at least not as frequently lol. So I dust myself off when that happens, take a deep breath, take note of what it was that I may have done wrong, and plunge right back in. It's made it a lot easier for me with Daddy being so active here.

Believe me, I don't go gingerly tiptoeing around because I'm afraid I might offend someone. I've just noticed that there are a few key words and phrases that inevitably invoke very strong, negative responses from just about everyone. Those are the ones I'm learning to avoid.

I also wanted to add that I have never felt that anyone was purposely out to intimidate me by pointing out something I said wrong. That just tends to be my initial reaction, and that's something else I'm learning to avoid doing.

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lilbear,

Indeed there are those on the boards that hit enter prior to engaging their minds as to the effect of their words. This is especially true on the sub side that just love to hide behind a keyboard to hassle a Dominant. I have met my share of those and in the beginning I would snarl back in my best Dom mode..........Then I learned to ignore them as my time is too important to me to engage them.

Try it and thanks for your input.

CP

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RE: The 3 faces of D/s on CM - 2/2/2012 8:55:53 PM

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I hardly post and hardly lurk. I post if I feel like it but dont always give my opinion. I have gone into chat rooms here and there but I find nothing really interesting goes on in there, for me anyway. I think the forums usta make me laugh more before, now they bore me with the same people saying blah blah blah blah for the most part.

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RE: The 3 faces of D/s on CM - 2/3/2012 4:50:35 AM

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> I hate forums. I've been online longer than the web and developed
> my hatred of forums back in Usenet's prime.

Same here, but mailing lists are on oxygen and receiving last rites. Typing the SMTP information into your mail program is apparently complex beyond human comprehension. And then there's the spam problem... after 25 years of heavy mail use, I finally gave up. I don't even have a regular address any more. I create an account on one of the free servers when someone absolutely, positively has to send me email.

Click. Wait... Click. Wait... Compared to a mailing list, slogging through a forum is like one of those nightmares where you're running through treacle with rubber boots, but if 99% of the rest of the world is there, that's where you have to go. Though if forums die out in favor of Facebook and Twitter, I'll just opt out, turn up my kerosene lantern, and glare at people from my cave.

Remember the Newbie Factor. Nowadays, an "experienced user" is someone who remembers when Windows Vista first shipped, and graybeards with suspenders might remember waaaaay back to when XP shipped. People who ran exmh on SunOS or pine on SCO are vanishingly rare nowadays, and those who still advocate mail and news are like those whackjobs who stand on street corners, shouting at people who aren't there.

Well, why did you *think* I chose "Exidor" as a handle?

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RE: The 3 faces of D/s on CM - 2/3/2012 1:18:02 PM

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I learned to program on a VAX, but I never did the BBS thing, so the reference is beyond me too. I did get involved with some mailing lists early on when I did get into dial up, which was in the early stages of the current internet, early to mid 90's, and I trace my aversion to email to that experience.

I even had a Commodore 64 well before that, replaced by an 8088, then a 286, but I also had a life - my current internet addiction didn't start till that ended.

One thing I miss about those days is Turbo Pascal. Java is more powerful, but I could still whip up a handy app in TP in less time, and it all fit on one disk.

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