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Lockit -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 1:52:05 PM)

Talk to some women that have done it. I was offered to be kept by a famous ball player. The money sounded great... the things... amazing... but at the end of the day, I didn't want anyone dictating my life and would want love, not an agreement. I've known a lot of women that have been kept women. I never met personally a happy one, though I have 'known of' some that said they were happy and it was worth it. I guess it depends on the woman and the situation.

I wouldn't judge someone that did this, it just isn't for me. I didn't judge myself for doing it because I knew I had no choice. My kids were very sick and had been for some time and I rarely regret anything I do. I simply felt I gave a part of myself away that I could never get back. A part of my soul... not my body and that isn't religious in any manner. It was how I viewed myself, sex, love and bartering a part of myself that another took very lightly and didn't value other than the good sex.



mnottertail -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 1:53:04 PM)

Money can't buy you love, but it can buy you some shit that looks so much like it, you wouldn't know the difference.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 1:53:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Money can't buy you love, but it can buy you some shit that looks so much like it, you wouldn't know the difference.



If you're a man, I think that's true.



fucktoyprincess -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 1:54:28 PM)

I am going to make the assumption here that you are talking about sex (and not just non-sexual BDSM services). For the record, I do feel prostitution should be legalized - in other words, it should be legal for people to exchange money for sex.

So I don't have any moral type objection to people doing this if it serves the needs of everyone involved. And as long as people are being safe and sane within the context of the situation.

But here is my one concern. Since prostitution is not legal, if you put yourself in this situation and anything goes wrong - you are unlikely to get much assistance from police or the courts. So be sure you have made arrangements for your own safety and for payment. There are those who feel that because someone is getting paid for sex, that the person paying is entitled to do whatever they want to the person behind closed doors. Be sure you are dealing with trustworthy people.

I've never felt the inclination to sell those sorts of services, but if I were in a situation where I had to to survive, I wouldn't hesitate to do so. Although, personally for me, it would have to be an extreme situation for me to do this. (No judgment on others, but just personally for me, I could not do this just to earn a little extra spending money, you know, to buy a pair of Louboutins or something. It would really have to be an emergency situation where I felt I had no other options.) For me, personally, I would like sex and BDSM to be within the context of a true relationship - whether a friendship, or something more.

As for setting a price, I'm not sure how one determines the going rate for something like this, but my honest advice there is to not settle for too little. Be sure you are getting enough for what you are willing to give.



mnottertail -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 1:54:37 PM)

Men don't drip diamonds, or carry prada purses that I know of. 



Justyourpet -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:01:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

I am going to make the assumption here that you are talking about sex (and not just non-sexual BDSM services). For the record, I do feel prostitution should be legalized - in other words, it should be legal for people to exchange money for sex.

So I don't have any moral type objection to people doing this if it serves the needs of everyone involved. And as long as people are being safe and sane within the context of the situation.

But here is my one concern. Since prostitution is not legal, if you put yourself in this situation and anything goes wrong - you are unlikely to get much assistance from police or the courts. So be sure you have made arrangements for your own safety and for payment. There are those who feel that because someone is getting paid for sex, that the person paying is entitled to do whatever they want to the person behind closed doors. Be sure you are dealing with trustworthy people.

I've never felt the inclination to sell those sorts of services, but if I were in a situation where I had to to survive, I wouldn't hesitate to do so. Although, personally for me, it would have to be an extreme situation for me to do this. (No judgment on others, but just personally for me, I could not do this just to earn a little extra spending money, you know, to buy a pair of Louboutins or something. It would really have to be an emergency situation where I felt I had no other options.) For me, personally, I would like sex and BDSM to be within the context of a true relationship - whether a friendship, or something more.

As for setting a price, I'm not sure how one determines the going rate for something like this, but my honest advice there is to not settle for too little. Be sure you are getting enough for what you are willing to give.


For the most part its not about sex although sex is involved.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:02:03 PM)

No, they drive sports cars and have custom golf clubs.



Justyourpet -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:03:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Men don't drip diamonds, or carry prada purses that I know of. 

obviously you don't know me. jk <3 xD



Hillwilliam -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:19:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

No, they drive fancy pickup trucks and have custom fishing rods.

I fixed it for ya



Winterapple -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:41:42 PM)

I'd only do it if I had a kink for it and I don't.
No judgement on people who do and certainly
none on people who do so out of necessity.
It matters like that I think of something Janis
Joplin said "Don't compromise yourself you're
all you've got."
Aspects of being kept are appealing. Feeling owned
and used and at someones beck and call
but one can have that without being reliant
on some dude paying the bills.
I've never been interested in having a sugar
daddy or marrying a man for his money.
My mother would be the first to tell sadly
the more unemployable a man is the more
I usually dig him and think he's misunderstood
genius.
I've known some who've gone the sugar daddy
route. All I can say is whatever you decide to
do own it. And be prepared for any number of
things happening. Don't get to comfy in other
words.



Winterapple -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 2:57:33 PM)

Some of the people I've known who've done this aren't
people I would qualify as happy or unhappy.
They were more like sharks always moving forward.
Snap some chum. Don't look back.



Epytropos -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 3:28:21 PM)

Hell yes. I've always found the concept of prostitution fascinating in a way, and I'm onboard for just about any new experience, especially ones that involve me making money. If I could be relatively certain it wouldn't get out and I wouldn't get HIV and it was a significant sum of money (say, 100k a year) I would do it in a heartbeat. As long as they didn't want fecaphilia or beastiality I'd be fine. I'd probably only be up for it for a year or two, though. Save up enough money that I can live at my current level of poverty for a few years without having to work and then go back to blissful freedom.

If nothing else, it would make for an interesting story and novelty is always inspiring.



agirl -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 3:32:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: agirl

a lot.

eta.... if I was actually going to do something like that, personality and kinks wouldn't matter at all. I'd do it for the money alone.

agirl


I was thinking of a *one-off* type thing, not an ongoing arrangement.

I would be very unlikely to participate in any type of commitment or arrangement.

agirl



mnottertail -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 3:38:20 PM)

gimme a nickles worth of head right now.



mummyman321 -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 3:58:01 PM)

For a measly $10,000 I will gladly show up on you doorstep with my entire latex collection for the weekend :)



fucktoyprincess -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 3:59:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Justyourpet

For the most part its not about sex although sex is involved.



If sex is involved, in any way, shape, or form, you are dealing with prostitution laws. My original statement still stands. Be absolutely sure you have precautions in place. Be absolutely sure you trust the people you are dealing with. Prostitutes in the U.S. are routinely victims of physical abuse, rape, and other crimes. And this is partly because people have the mentality that if they have paid for your services, they are not bound by regular rules. This is a fact. So proceed how you will, but I would not reject someone's safety advice just because most of the play is non-sexual.



needlesandpins -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 4:21:28 PM)

fr

if i was offered enough and for straight sex i'd probably do it. but we'd be talking paying for a house type of money not just something to go towards my food bill for the week.

mind you, He has been known to throw his loose change at me, and even a tenner once. however, he took that back lol totally different situation though.

needles



DarkSteven -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 4:35:11 PM)

I once was put in this position.  A woman had some longstanding guilt issues and was discussing online me giving her a spanking to resolve it.  She asked me if pay was customary.  I told her it wasn't, and M/F was almost always free to the woman, but suggested some sewing she could do for me in return if she felt obligated.  She demurred, saying her sewing skills were bad.

We talked online a bit more but never did meet.



agirl -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 4:35:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

gimme a nickles worth of head right now.


Don't play games with me Ron, you know you'd get it for nothing! :)

agirl




OsideGirl -> RE: Would you sell yourself? (1/30/2012 4:40:32 PM)

Are you sure he actually has the money?



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