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male chastity - 1/31/2012 7:38:11 PM   
theidaeof


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Hi, I would like to know from anyone who has had the experience of chastity. How long have you been in it?. We have the "steel chastity cock cage", *you can find a picture of it at extreme restraints*.

We have used the cb-6000, which after time the casing split at the join and caused severe pain and a little tearing.
we then tried the bon4 silicon device. i found it to unhygienic, and i was able to still get my self of in it with a vibrator, also i could wiggle out.

We settled on the steel one, i do need to put something around the bottom hinge of the ring to stop pinching. but the hygiene is much better.

I've worn it for about 3 days straight before, and I would lilke to know how long anyone else has worn it or anything like before.

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RE: male chastity - 1/31/2012 8:14:29 PM   
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I've had times when I was inundated with work, sick, or really worried about something, when weeks have gone by without any sexual activity nor the desire for it. I didn't need a device, I just didn't want to. And I consider myself to be a person with a pretty healthy libido. I'm of the opinion that many mistake the habit of frequent sexual stimulation as a hard and absolute NEED, when in reality, they could go without it a lot longer that they imagine, if the circumstances dictated it.

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RE: male chastity - 1/31/2012 8:15:43 PM   
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Three WHOLE days??!!!  I know guys who have been in them for many weeks, not merely days. 

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 1:59:22 AM   
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OMG! Three days! (runs in ever smaller circles until he falls down)

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 4:44:54 AM   
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OMG! Three days! (runs in ever smaller circles until he falls down)


lol i pictured that---so cute

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 4:45:03 AM   
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I didn't feel like I was bragging about 3 days. Just stating th experience I have had so far.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 6:50:23 AM   
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I've had quite a bit of experience with forced chastity.

I can't remember all of the devices that I've tried over the years.  I've used several of the CB series.  The CB-6000 is the best, but it is not as durable as it could be.  I once broke one in half with my penis (no kidding).  I had been locked up in it for about 5 days, and I was really horny.  I started getting an erection, and the device is supposed to stop that.  But instead of stopping it, the device split completely in half at the seam. I actually broke the CB-6000 with my dick!  My penis is larger than average, but I still don't think that should have happened.

The CB-6000 is one of the more difficult units to maintain good hygiene in.  The plastic causes your penis to sweat, and there is almost no way to get inside to do a thorough cleaning.  I used a combination of a squirt bottle with a soapy solution, and Q-tips.  But someone else may have found an even better way to maintain hygiene while wearing a CB-6000.

Here's a equation to describe what happens in a CB6000: 
Sweaty penis - thorough cleaning = stink!

Despite this flaw, the CB-6000 is one of the better units out there.  I also like the Birdlocked chastity device (I'm not sure if I've spelled it right, but a quick Google search should find it for you).

As far as how long I've been in one, I've had quite a few stints that have lasted for several months.  The longest that I've ever been locked up is 4 months.  I was also locked up for 3 months once.  I've had lots of 30 day lock up periods (I've served several Dommes who believed in long lockups as the most effective way to train/punish a male).

IMO, many guys deprive themselves of the real benefits/enjoyment of forced chastity because they won't allow their Domme to place them in chastity long enough.  IMO, 3 days doesn't even qualify as chastity (no offense).  I've gone much longer than that without release simply because I was busy working on a project at work.

I believe that we men are far too focused on our penises.  Initially, when you're placed in a chastity device, your focus will be even MORE on your penis.  You won't be able to think about anything else except for how badly you want to cum.  But after 2-3 days, that changes.  You begin to think about it less and less.  After about a week in the device, the strong urge to cum subsides altogether.  It's like your body realizes that it isn't going to get to cum, so it eliminates the desire.  After 30 days, orgasm seems like a luxury that is long forgotten.

Some Dommes say that men become more obedient once they have gotten past that threshold where they are so focused on their desire to orgasm.  That was probably true in my case the first time I was locked in a chastity device.  Once I came to the realization that the only way that I was going to get the chastity device off (and therefore be able to cum) was to do what she said, then obedience became the only logical option. 

I strongly encourage you to allow your Domme to keep you in chastity for longer than the 3 days that you've endured.  I really believe that you will enjoy being in chastity for 30 days.  It can be challenging, if you've never done it before.  But I can guarantee you that it will take your D/s relationship to new heights.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 8:16:34 AM   
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Lol, I was going to suggest the OP look for your posts on the subject.

OP - see also Roch in this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4011920/mpage_1/tm.htm

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 9:52:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Lol, I was going to suggest the OP look for your posts on the subject.



Thanks Kalikshama,

Forced chastity is one of my favorite kinks.  Whenever there is a thread about male chastity, it's highly likely that I will comment on the thread.

I was fortunate in that one of my first Dommes utilized forced chastity extensively.  We were together for about 2 years, and I was essentially kept in chastity for the entire time.

She believed that my cock belonged to Her, and my cum also belonged to Her.  So I was never allowed to cum without Her permission.  She kept me in one chastity device or another for the entire relationship, although it really wasn't necessary, because after 6 months or so, I had come to accept Her control of my cock, and I would never have challenged it.  In fact, I grew to crave it.

Prior to meeting Her, I never would have thought that I could/would enjoy a relationship that consisted almost entirely of prolonged chastity combined with regular cuckolding.  But she showed me just how wrong my preconceived notions were.  By sacrificing regular orgasms, I got to experience the most erotic, satisfying D/s dynamic that I've ever had.

That's why I am always excited about chastity threads.  I always hope that by sharing my experiences, I can help other guys to give forced chastity and orgasm control a try.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 9:54:49 AM   
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And maybe someday you will convince me, Roch!

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 10:08:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

And maybe someday you will convince me, Roch!


So you secretly long to be kept in forced chastity?  Interesting! 

I'm not sure if the effect is the same for women.  Women don't seem to be as focused on their vaginas as men are on their penises.  I think that partially explains why women aren't serial masturbaters like some men are.  I've also noticed that women don't complain about going a whole 24 hours without orgasm the way men do. 

It seems that Nature was unfair in that regard.  Most men can achieve orgasm fairly easily (just look at how often some men masturbate).  In contrast, I've known many women in their 40's and even 50's who have admitted that they have never experienced an orgasm. 

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 10:16:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

And maybe someday you will convince me, Roch!


So you secretly long to be kept in forced chastity?  Interesting! 

I'm not sure if the effect is the same for women.  Women don't seem to be as focused on their vaginas as men are on their penises.  I think that partially explains why women aren't serial masturbaters like some men are.  I've also noticed that women don't complain about going a whole 24 hours without orgasm the way men do. 

It seems that Nature was unfair in that regard.  Most men can achieve orgasm fairly easily (just look at how often some men masturbate).  In contrast, I've known many women in their 40's and even 50's who have admitted that they have never experienced an orgasm. 



~cackle~ of course you know that I was referring to keeping MEN in chastity. I can go many months without having an orgasm and feel just fine tyvm.

I do know women who have never experienced an orgasm, and that's sad. Though perhaps they have, and didnt recognize it? It's not like we get giant explosions of bodily fluids (squirters aside) and it's not like "When Harry Met Sally" most of the time.


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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 10:27:28 AM   
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Have you ever kept a man in chastity?  If so, what did you enjoy about it?  I've obviously only experienced the male side of things.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 10:56:30 AM   
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Not for any length of time. My fetish is obedience, and being "unable" to do something is not really a test of will, is it? So short term chastity as a tease and denial game is fun. Long term? If you HAVE to be in chasitity, I am dominating your penis, not you. So, Not A Match.

Besides, these days, I want full access and use. It is far more of a thrill to me to drain someone completely (by whatever means) so that the thought of another orgasm is painful.



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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 11:08:47 AM   
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I see.  And I completely understand where you're coming from.

Personally, I prefer forced chastity that doesn't include a device.  IMO, it's more mental, and requires a greater level of submission.  But the OP asked about devices, so I was trying to stay on topic.

But your comment reminds me of a former Domme who constantly threatened to put me in a chastity device.  The only problem is that we could seldom go 24 hours without her ripping the device off of me.  She finally realized that the only one that she was denying was herself.  So she stopped putting the chastity device on me, because it was always in her way when she decided that she wanted to enjoy my (or should I say "Her"?) cock. 

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 12:12:18 PM   
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I could never do it. I like fucking too much.
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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 12:22:06 PM   
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I could never do it. I like fucking too much.
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Even when I'm with someone I don't want to fuck, I want near the goods when I want them. Way more fun to write on it with a sharpie, or tie a fancy ribbon and send him off...then inspect it all afterward.

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Plus, I love (LOVE) watching men masturbate. Endlessly fascinating to me. So, I am all for letting him entertain himself--he just has to SHARE. At least over speakerphone or skype, if not cam.

Am I generous or what?

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 12:46:08 PM   
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You totally are.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 3:38:48 PM   
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excellent thank you rochsub. Very insightful. you are right 3 days isn't really chasitity just a tease. I'm having a hard time letting go and submitting in that regard. I find it a little frightening to have my access to my penis taken away. At the same time though knowing i don't hve that control is very arousing.

it is surprising to me that as asoon as its on i'm horny, and i feel more acutely aware of her. I find that very fascinating. I'm trying to go for longer stints, as I have found that i can focus my mind in other places, and not so much on my genitals. Most times Ihave asked for it to be taken offf because it can get a little uncomfortable. I know though i have to admit that there is a little part of me just using that as an excuse and I should harden up.

As I write this I am in the beginning of the second day. I was inspired to start this topic to get an average idea how long some men have been in chastity because i am determined to go for longer then i have before.

You've inspired me rochsub to harden up and push throught he mental barriers. thank you man.

With regards to how my relationship with the wife works, we aren't lifestylers, we mainly fool around in the bedroom and keep things there. not sure if you've read my profile, but I've been introducing her to the BDSM scene/culture for years. together we are growing stronger. Since i mentioned to her i like the idea of chastity she jumped right on it. So i don't think for us/me its a sense of "she owns my penis and everythign in it". It's more like "I am in control of when and if you cum".

I will raise my hand and admit I am one of those compulsive masturbators. Chastity obviously helps cut down how often i do it. with your insight it would be interesting to see how i can change my habits, (because like smoking i feel now i am in the habit of masturbating) with prolonged chastity.

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RE: male chastity - 2/1/2012 5:05:47 PM   
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There is a website that might interest you. It is...chastitylifestyle.com...

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