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xXLithiumXx -> Rant? (2/1/2012 2:18:20 PM)

Can I do that here? Or do I need to move it to a different board?

Because I want to rant...and I want to rant to people who can help me think this through rationally.

Because I am about to do something rash...and I do not know if that is a good idea or not.



Duskypearls -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:35:36 PM)

What's going on, Lithium?



Fornica -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:44:13 PM)

'sup?



areallivehuman -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:46:01 PM)

Go ahead and rant, this is a good place to do it





mnottertail -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:49:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
Because I am about to do something rash...and I do not know if that is a good idea or not.


NOT.



Awareness -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:51:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
Because I am about to do something rash...and I do not know if that is a good idea or not.
By colouring it as 'rash' you've already decided it isn't.

So, what would inspire somebody to do something they knew was not a good idea?

My money's on temptation.



Fornica -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 2:52:33 PM)

Yup.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Awareness

By colouring it as 'rash' you've already decided it isn't.






xXLithiumXx -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 4:43:57 PM)

Gather 'round kids. Momma's got a story.


Temptation...hm...Of a sorts I suppose.

The kidlets sperm donor, who hasn't seen one in 4 years, and has only recently started seeing the younger, post two year hiatus for the chase of vagina...who has an EPO for threatening to kill me, and showing up at my bar in a meth induced rage to do so, has had his mother (yes, third party contact is in violation of said EPO in the great state of Ky) contact me and threaten to both sue me and do bodily damage to me if I do not give him 3500$ of my tax return because he wanted to claim my son.

Now...I have read the tax thing..and it does say that usually the non custodial parent cant take credits and deductions for the kids...I can't email him to tell him he is in fact a total douche for threatening me...But the rant comes in to this-

Who the fuck does this three toed retarded backwater po-dunk fuck monkey think he is? This is the same guy that fucked up my kid playing football last year because he felt like the 100$ a week he pays for TWO kids was more than enough to pay for art classes, football, food, clothes, and all the other accessories that a 16 and 11 year old want?

He doesnt pay medical insurance, he doesn't come to ball games, he doesn't call them ever, he doesn't send birthday cards, he doesnt send christmas presents, he doesnt do any of the shit a real father would do.

The kids live with me 24/7, I do the every day mom things. Dinner, home cooked, every night, I am at every play, every parent meeting, every ball game, every art showing, every band recital, every single thing that a parent should do and then some...and I try to not ask this fucker for anything...Not a damned thing...I even wrote him receipts for child support that he didn't pay, so his punk ass didn't go to jail.

When he was broke? I drove all the way to his fucking house for drop offs and pick ups because Im just that fucking awesome. I even baby sat his girlfriends kids.



And the kicker is? I didn't even claim EIC on the kid. I claimed a dependent care credit, and marked that he would be claiming the kid.

I didnt get the deduction.

And he is going to threaten to sue me? And that he is going to "come to my house and handle this in person if I refuse to reply to his emails?"

Oh. Fuck. No.

So...tomorrow morning, Lithi is going to take her enraged self down to the court house and I am going to show them this email, and I am going to see if that definitively violates the EPO, and I am going to have them toss his missing link looking ass into the cooler so he can calm his shit for a while.

But FUck! I am so mad.

I hate being threatened. Particularly by him. I was scared to death of this man for so many years, and I got over that. And now that I am, it's like he knows..and he is fucking with me. And I just keep locking eyes with him and waiting. I know he is going to do something stupid. I just don't know what form it is going to take....and the kicker is...I can't do anything because he is so politically bound up in the county that my case is in...Like the good ole boy system is so alive and well.

Proof of this is the fact that the case workers in this county put payments in maunally when they are notified by the state's main office that a payment has been made. Dood had a back balance of like 1100$, which is a felony. I go to them and am like look...why aren't you going after him for contempt.
They say..Oh...well...we will..but the docket is full right now...It could take 6 months. I say...okay and? Just make it happen. That's what you get paid to do.

2 months go by. I check the balance of what is owed. Mind you in this time, no payments at all came to me. Not a dime...but OMG! his balance is like 765$. Really? Okay. Where did that go then? Cos I didn't get it. Local office tells me they reflect a payment, and if they reflect a payment then it had to be because the state notified them. Call the state and the state says, well...we don't show it as clearing, but it appears that it has. So...we can't do anything about it.

Case worker over the case? Went to prom with his brother.

This guy gets hit with an assault on a minor? The cop that investigates it is an old high school buddy.

The judge exec in the county? His mom and grandmother-at the same time!!- used to fuck with this guy.

His uncle is one of the biggest land owners in the county.

The deacon of the biggest church/private school in the county-the only one for that matter in terms of private schools- perjured himself on the stand at a custody hearing to say that I had to be lawfully removed from the property. When asked to produce a police report, because those types of things are supposed to be reported to the state for safety censuses and shit...he didnt have one. But the testimony was basically considered though not admitted.


Does anyone know how to stage a political coup? [sm=blasted.gif]

I mean..seriously....what the fuck am I supposed to do? I am so mad I can not see straight. I can feel my heart beat in my eye lashes.

Maybe not mad...but WTF is this guy thinking?


I know...there's like a million rhetorical questions in there...and it's not that I had a question...but...I just wanted to get that out...I needed to really.

This guy has already run me out of the county that I come from. Like I wont even go up there on holidays to see my family because they pull me over and search me every single time I come or go from there.
He has just...complicated things to a point that I am just ready to pull my hair out...and you would think that at some point he would say..yanno...maybe I am just being a dick.



-sighs-

Sorry guys. I just really needed to vent that.

I mean..I am confident in the fact that I am in the right. Nothing I did was with malicious intent. I didn't like race to the IRS and try to claim the kids first. I have claimed them in the past. This isn't new. This isnt like ...oh..all the sudden. So...I dunno if its that he has a complex because he realizes I am not scared of him any more...so he just wants to see what he can do to rattle my cage. I dunno if its that he is trying to bait me into contacting him or into replying to his mother's email, because that puts me in violation as well. I dunno if he is just...I dunno...

I came here cos yall seem to see things a bit more clearly than I do...and for the most part...I respect the opinions of more than a few of you...and Im frustrated and for real? I just feel alone...and I needed people to talk to that would let me sound like a psycho but maybe understand why I was acting like one.

Im not saying Im gonna like do anything to him....God knows I would love to, but I am not stupid...but...its one of those things where you just throw your head back and scream...WHAT THE FUCK!







Rule -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:03:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
who has an EPO for threatening to kill me, and showing up at my bar in a meth induced rage

Next time be more discerning in your choice of sperm donor.

I get the impression that the guy is a narcissist.

Sell the bar and buy another bar in New York city or Los Angeles and move.



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:17:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rule

quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
who has an EPO for threatening to kill me, and showing up at my bar in a meth induced rage

Next time be more discerning in your choice of sperm donor.

I get the impression that the guy is a narcissist.

Sell the bar and buy another bar in New York city or Los Angeles and move.




No more sperm donors for the Lithi.

He wasn't always this way. He really wasn't. There was a time when he was an awesome person to be around. He wasn't really bright, but he was smart enough. He was caring, kind, genuine and sweet.

Then he got hooked on that shit...and he just...switched. It's sad...and I hate it. I really do. Cos I did love him. I mean we were together for so many years. And we have gorgeous off spring. And both of them are insanely smart. But it's like...wow...it's goin down like that?




My bar. Sorry...Lol. I should have been more clear. It was the bar I was managing. It became like second home to me, so I called it my bar.

Moving out of state would be an option...but this back water ass judge wont let me leave. Get that one in.

I had a job offer in Colorado. Very nice one at that. I was willing to allow for full summer visits and to pay for the flight here and back. I was going to also allow for video conferencing, as well as arranged trips during the fall and spring months, pending weather, for like a week each time..and I would as well pay for those. The judge said no fuck that. You get to stay here, where there are no jobs, and the cost of living is like double to double and a half of what the average rate of pay is. His exact words to me were that I had no business moving out west, as I had no family there. As the statute reads, I can move anywhere I damned well please- as long as I have work, school or mitigating circumstances. I had home placement, I would have been making like 75k a year. I was 32. I mean for real? 75k a year for 32 is like Unheard of. I know 70 year olds that have never seen the inside of 35k real good.



I have made every attempt to be kind. To be even. To be fair. And I think I have more than held up my end of the agreement. There should be a line where enough is enough.




Fornica -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:21:44 PM)

Pack up the kids and gtfo. Seriously.



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:24:52 PM)

That's the plan Stan.

My taxes were delayed by a few days because of the new system in place. I am going to use the lump sum to dip out.

I just bought the house that I am living in, but I am going to do some minor cosmetic work and rent it out.

There is too much insane shit going on here.




slaveluci -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:42:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rule

quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
who has an EPO for threatening to kill me, and showing up at my bar in a meth induced rage

Next time be more discerning in your choice of sperm donor.


THIS ^^^^^^

and

Think about your children before you do anything. You're mad but you have the ultimate choice of how to treat THEIR FATHER. You're not doing yourself or them any favors by flying off the handle and acting like the same kinda asshole you accuse THEIR FATHER of being. Like it or not, they see your behavior and his and they're going to look back and remember how you acted or more importantly reacted to his behavior. If he's as bad as you paint him, don't stoop to his level. No one is going to benefit from that, especially children belonging to both of you ......luci



lizi -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:46:48 PM)

Lithium, I don't have a lot of time tonight, but I want to give you something to think about. It might not seem like much, but it's the best thing I've got and don't have time to do more....sorry. School calls - have to have a thesis statement by tomorrow amongst other things.

Ok....I did this. I raised my handsome, intelligent, first son on my own and put myself through college at the same time, across the country from my family, while on welfare, with no car. I had no one for help, not a soul. It was the boy and me. His bio Dad did many of the same crappy things you mentioned here (although not all, I didn't have quite all of that) and I kept on sailing and putting one foot in front of the other till lo and behold this boy grew up to be a handsome, intelligent, and a complete success. He just turned 30, he has a Green Beret, a brand new home, and cars, trucks, and motorcycles. He has totally kicked ass to get there and he is a good person inside to boot. When I look at him I see the many years I struggled. You know what? It was worth it.

I screamed, cried, railed against his father for being such an imbecile. I was so tired sometimes i wanted to never get up again. I took my son to school and then went to my college every freaking day on the bus. I got groceries and brought them home by foot or on the bus. Took laundry in a basket 5 blocks away while holding his little hand to cross the streets. Dragged him with me to dr visits- I had no one to watch him and took him to his own dr visits on the damn bus. I went to get the free box of government food each month and brought it home in a little red wagon with my son riding on top of it. Once I didn't have enough money to buy him shoes so we had to stay home for a couple of days till I got some money. We always had enough to eat, we always had fun, we had each other. He never knew he was deprived.

Take a breath, you can do this. Go look at your children and tell me they're not worth it. Forget the imbecile as much as you can. Nail his ass to the wall for whatever you need to and put him out of your mind. I know it's hard, I know you'd like him to be held responsible for something, anything, but the fact is that he'll weasel out of it- the kids dont mean that much to him. Take the high road for them and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. My kids were the best thing I"ve ever done, anything I've done for them has been totally worth it. I have the satisfaction of knowing I did my best and seeing how wonderful they turned out. Go forth and be the Mom you know you were meant to be, it's not easy but it sure is the most awesome thing you'll ever do.



kalikshama -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:47:42 PM)

quote:

So...tomorrow morning, Lithi is going to take her enraged self down to the court house and I am going to show them this email, and I am going to see if that definitively violates the EPO, and I am going to have them toss his missing link looking ass into the cooler so he can calm his shit for a while.


This sounds like a plan. Best wishes.



lizi -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:52:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Fornica

Pack up the kids and gtfo. Seriously.


This is what I did. It made my life insanely difficult but easier. My son didnt' have a screwball modeling how to be a dipshit. He turned out to be a Special Forces soldier and his drug addled father today sweeps floors in a restaurant when he has work. I took the boy away and it was the best thing I ever did. I did everything on my own, I never regret it. I would rather have been dead then let his Dad even try to have a say in raising my son or show him how to be a loser. Best I ever did was leave - on a bus with one fucking suitcase across the country. My son and I both became successful after that, how could we not? We started with literally nothing.



Rule -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:58:29 PM)

[sm=champ.gif][sm=yourock.gif]



ashjor911 -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 5:58:51 PM)

1- kill that SOB, & hang his balls on your car mirror.
or
2- report that Mother Fuck** & get a cop to help you, " you may have to offer him sex".
or
do as feronica said & get the Fuck out.


I am sorry, I am not there to kick hiss ass for free



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 6:05:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

Lithium, I don't have a lot of time tonight, but I want to give you something to think about. It might not seem like much, but it's the best thing I've got and don't have time to do more....sorry. School calls - have to have a thesis statement by tomorrow amongst other things.

Ok....I did this. I raised my handsome, intelligent, first son on my own and put myself through college at the same time, across the country from my family, while on welfare, with no car. I had no one for help, not a soul. It was the boy and me. His bio Dad did many of the same crappy things you mentioned here (although not all, I didn't have quite all of that) and I kept on sailing and putting one foot in front of the other till lo and behold this boy grew up to be a handsome, intelligent, and a complete success. He just turned 30, he has a Green Beret, a brand new home, and cars, trucks, and motorcycles. He has totally kicked ass to get there and he is a good person inside to boot. When I look at him I see the many years I struggled. You know what? It was worth it.

I screamed, cried, railed against his father for being such an imbecile. I was so tired sometimes i wanted to never get up again. I took my son to school and then went to my college every freaking day on the bus. I got groceries and brought them home by foot or on the bus. Took laundry in a basket 5 blocks away while holding his little hand to cross the streets. Dragged him with me to dr visits- I had no one to watch him and took him to his own dr visits on the damn bus. I went to get the free box of government food each month and brought it home in a little red wagon with my son riding on top of it. Once I didn't have enough money to buy him shoes so we had to stay home for a couple of days till I got some money. We always had enough to eat, we always had fun, we had each other. He never knew he was deprived.

Take a breath, you can do this. Go look at your children and tell me they're not worth it. Forget the imbecile as much as you can. Nail his ass to the wall for whatever you need to and put him out of your mind. I know it's hard, I know you'd like him to be held responsible for something, anything, but the fact is that he'll weasel out of it- the kids dont mean that much to him. Take the high road for them and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. My kids were the best thing I"ve ever done, anything I've done for them has been totally worth it. I have the satisfaction of knowing I did my best and seeing how wonderful they turned out. Go forth and be the Mom you know you were meant to be, it's not easy but it sure is the most awesome thing you'll ever do.




Lizi...thank you. For real.

I don't plan to do anything insane. I just think that if I can get him to cool his heels for a while, then make any legal moves i need to make while he is cooling them, I will be safer. This cat is about twice my size, and the drugs have made him stupid and mean. Stupid and mean in my world always equal bad things. You can be mean, or you can be stupid, but you put the two together and you get a serial rapist with a chip on his shoulder in regards to women. I know. I was there for that part, but not for long.
And for real? You don't look like you should have a 30 year old son. I know that you have to be proud. When my boy made his first touch down I almost peed. He has been on honor roll for the last two years in school and when he lived with his dad, he was failing out of school. He was in kindergarten at the time. Don't ask me how you fail kindergarten, but he sure was.

luci-

I make it a point not to bad mouth him. Even in this instance, I came here instead of screaming and throwing things or talking shit like I want to. I have made it a point to do as much as could to help him in every way that I could. Like I said, I baby sat his girl friends kids so he could try to stay with her. I helped him move back to Ky from Ga, where he left his second wife on her death bed with three kids and a half million dollar house to pay for. I have done as much as I can do...and while I will keep my mouth shut in regards to anything bad about him in front of the kids...and I do my best to be respectful when he is mentioned...this is one of those things where you just want to scream.


I do know what you are saying. And I do hold to the fact that the only bad mouthing I do is here or on paper. And when my family was close, I would go to them. But I don't ever let the kids hear me rant about him. Not ever.

Thanks guys. The advice means a lot. The encouragement means more.



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Rant? (2/1/2012 6:13:08 PM)

Lol.

1- Highly frowned upon by the legal types.

2-hard to do when the cops are his home boys.

3- Train is leaving asap!

No apology needed.



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