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need advice - 2/1/2012 11:38:27 PM   
toptiersub


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Status: offline 		Not really sure what to think of my current situation. I started talking to a female who claimed to be dominant with years of experience. I had been on the site for a couple of weeks and she seemed to be legit. She had access to my bank account and paypal and some of my personal information. Nothing was ever taken, but she would never verify herself on cam or with pictures. So we got to talking and she tells me that she doesn't like people who lie. So I am following her rules and doing everything she is asking of me until I told her I had a little over $400 left from my last pay check, but I actually spent some of it and when she asked me to prove the $400+ I said I only have a few hundred dollars left. She got all upset and deleted me from her contacts and refuses to speak to me. So my question is. If a dominant women with years of experience claims to be so. Why is she so easily offended? Shouldn't she take control of the situation and punish me or come up with a way to deal with me?

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RE: need advice - 2/1/2012 11:42:42 PM   
SpiritedRadiance


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Status: offline 		Because shes not that into you?
Because she doesnt need someone who cant manage his own shit?
Because she has a hard limit against someone stupid enough to not heed the BRIGHT RED WARNINGS POSTED LIKE EVERYWHERE?
Because the sky is red and the grass is purple?
Because my hello Kitty Mouse just died?


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 12:41:44 AM   
ElanSubdued


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I had been on the site for a couple of weeks and she seemed to be legit.  She had access to my bank account and paypal and some of my personal information.


Here's some advice.  Close your bank account and paypal account immediately, and notify these institutions that someone has gained access to your personal and banking information.  Open new accounts that nobody has access to.  Never give your personal and banking information out again, no matter what a "Mistress" asks for.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 12:50:30 AM   
pyroaquatic


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 1:34:12 AM   
Casssy


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 1:42:25 AM   
BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: toptiersub


So we got to talking and she tells me that she doesn't like people who lie.


So the first thing you did was lie to her then got butthurt when she dumped your ass rather than spanking you or whatever it was that you thought your lie would garner you in the way of punishment.

That about sum it up or did I miss something?

Oh yes, I would also change all my banking information. Maybe you can mitigate the tuition you are paying for the lesson you have an opportunity to learn.

I hope you learn it, er.. them. There are a couple of different lessons here actually.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 3:19:35 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: toptiersub

Not really sure what to think of my current situation. I started talking to a female who claimed to be dominant with years of experience. I had been on the site for a couple of weeks and she seemed to be legit. She had access to my bank account and paypal and some of my personal information. Nothing was ever taken, but she would never verify herself on cam or with pictures. So we got to talking and she tells me that she doesn't like people who lie. So I am following her rules and doing everything she is asking of me until I told her I had a little over $400 left from my last pay check, but I actually spent some of it and when she asked me to prove the $400+ I said I only have a few hundred dollars left. She got all upset and deleted me from her contacts and refuses to speak to me. So my question is. If a dominant women with years of experience claims to be so. Why is she so easily offended? Shouldn't she take control of the situation and punish me or come up with a way to deal with me?


OMG

1. DO NOT give someone access to your bank account unless you know them very well IRL.  Not someone you've known for two weeks online.
2. Online claims mean little.  She may have been a man with no experience.  You never know.
3. I have exchanged pictures.  I have never verified nor been verified.
4. Why is she easily offended?  If someone lied to me in the first two weeks of a relationship, I'd be less than happy as well.
5. Shouldn't she take control of the situation and punish me or come up with a way to deal with me?  You're asking about the Dommes' Union rules, which all Dommes must subscribe to, right?  There ARE no rules that Dommes follow - each is different.

So take ElanSubdued's advice, assuming "she" left you anything in your accounts, and count yourself lucky that you weren't taken for more.

And unhide your profile if you really want to meet Dommes here.


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 4:27:57 AM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't even know where to begin, the fact you believe what someone tells you on the net without evidence, or the fact you give access to your money to a stranger, it just all screams of being internet-naive. Try hooking up with a nice lady in the real world, the digital ones are gonna take you for a ride until you're broke and jaded.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 4:31:24 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 5:05:59 AM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: toptiersub
Why is she so easily offended?


In my experience, scammers always get offended at the first hint that they're about to be caught out. It's an excellent way of getting the target to turn the focus back towards himself - questioning his own feelings and beliefs rather than the scammer's honesty. Pretty standard technique, actually.


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 5:51:19 AM   
wolf223


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Nope,just shallow end of the gene pool.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:09:46 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: wolf223


Nope,just shallow end of the gene pool.


I really wish it was a joke.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:12:31 AM   
thishereboi


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Why is she so easily offended?
She didn't sound offended to me. She told you she didn't like liars and you lied to her. So she kicked you to the curb.
Shouldn't she take control of the situation and punish me or come up with a way to deal with me?
Why would she play with someone who lied to her?

That said, please tell me that this was a lie also....

"She had access to my bank account and paypal and some of my personal information."

I would really hate to think you are stupid enough to give that kind of information to a stranger online.


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:17:54 AM   
Fornica


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Do you interfere with natural selection/Darwinism, or let it take its course?

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:19:58 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I think you just have to say WHA??? Me, I instantly think someone's having us off. Because that level of stupid is just STUPID.

Then I think, shoot. If someone like that approached me, I could SO start doing my charities again...

Then I just pray that he doesn't breed.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:20:14 AM   
JstAnotherSub


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ORIGINAL: toptiersub

Not really sure what to think of my current situation. I started talking to a female who claimed to be dominant with years of experience. I had been on the site for a couple of weeks and she seemed to be legit. She had access to my bank account and paypal and some of my personal information. Nothing was ever taken, but she would never verify herself on cam or with pictures. So we got to talking and she tells me that she doesn't like people who lie. So I am following her rules and doing everything she is asking of me until I told her I had a little over $400 left from my last pay check, but I actually spent some of it and when she asked me to prove the $400+ I said I only have a few hundred dollars left. She got all upset and deleted me from her contacts and refuses to speak to me. So my question is. If a dominant women with years of experience claims to be so. Why is she so easily offended? Shouldn't she take control of the situation and punish me or come up with a way to deal with me?






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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 6:33:20 AM   
Fornica


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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 7:14:34 AM   
BootyBoy


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Status: offline 		OP, you really don't give anyone access to your account who you haven't met, and don't have a VERY solid and proven relationship with. Some would question doing so even then, but at least wait until the person has proven themselves as trustworthy. That kind of confidence comes not in weeks but years,

I think that you may harbor some naïveté as to what a D/s really is. Suffice to say that it is no based on the BLIND trust of strangers.

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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 7:29:54 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Op, you should have asked for advice before you had that lobotomy.




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RE: need advice - 2/2/2012 8:03:28 AM   
bighappygoth39


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Status: offline 		There are a lot of people in the world who should get one of those Darwin awards...

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