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RE: First Dom - 2/13/2012 1:51:24 PM

hellionsLight

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AGAIN Master's profile was signed on instead of mine (gah!) So this is his slave (Hellion64), and THAT is my answer

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RE: First Dom - 2/13/2012 2:08:06 PM

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Hellion... its a pain when that happens. And it happens to some quite a lot. To prevent from doing that, go to the post you wish to address, click on reply or quote and look at the top, it will display the account that is logged in.

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RE: First Dom - 2/13/2012 2:19:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Hellion... its a pain when that happens. And it happens to some quite a lot. To prevent from doing that, go to the post you wish to address, click on reply or quote and look at the top, it will display the account that is logged in.

Thanks, I need to remember XD

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RE: First Dom - 2/13/2012 2:29:51 PM

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I also think it is not just the first of anything, but anyone who has such a strong impact on you, whether positive or negative, is hard to let go of.

Sometimes we stay with people because we love them or love the way they make us feel, or we are addicted to something about the relationship and whether they are good or bad person, some things are hard to shake.

I disagree with those who said to just get over it, or she had "enough" time to heal; time to heal is simply an individual thing, not measured by what others think.

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RE: First Dom - 2/13/2012 2:41:30 PM

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Is there a general phenomenon of first Doms being perfect (someone to compare all others to) and hard to get over?

There is the 'first' and then there is the 'swoon' first. We often conveniantly actually forget the first and hang our hats on the first that inspire us. The person that introduces us to the wonderful will always be there, my first was lovely, in my head, crap in reality, but in my head we should be together forever. Its a strange thing that we do and struggle to let go of.

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RE: First Dom - 2/14/2012 11:09:33 AM

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Ha. My first Dom actually inspired me to run from the lifestyle, hard and fast, utterly convinced that I was a miserable, worthless, unfit sub. He lied to me from the very beginning and caused me to violate major personal ethics (he said he was separated, in the process of a divorce...imagine my surprise when i found out his wife still wanted to work things out and he'd even showed her my picture, maybe in some crazy bid to inspire jealousy in her? and then told me she said that i wasn't pretty enough for him). There were some things I enjoyed, but mostly, it was the worst experience of my life. He pushed me too hard and too fast, paying no attention to my comfort level. He was such a winner of a guy that after we split (like 10 months or so after), he called me ON MY BIRTHDAY to tell me about his new sub, and how she was such a GOOD GIRL (unlike me) and had moved in with him at the cost of her family disowning her, because she was such a good sub.

It took me several years, and several intimate friendships with quality dominants to break through all the ugliness he created in me. I was utterly convinced that while i wanted to be a sub, and while i felt complete when with a strong and caring Dom, that it was a hopeless dream because i was unfit and unworthy. That whole having a brain of my own, thing...

Imagine my surprise that I've actually met other Doms that LIKED my brain!

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