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ORIGINAL: NinaAura

This has been extremely helpful! Now I'm wondering if it makes a difference that I learned to orgasm only from clitoris stimulation and have only recently begun experimenting with other ways. I've had an anal and clitoral orgasm before, which I can't seem to trigger again.. I've also hit a nerve in my mouth from a blowjob that made me horny only around that guy [I typically don't get horny at all without stimulation of some kind.] so maybe you guys can give me some advice based on that too? :3 <3
Thank you all!

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ORIGINAL: xssve

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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Im not sure thats the best advice. I got fisted and I almost hemorrhaged. Some things arnt supposed to fit in some spaces.

Oh and op im not a squirter either. Havent even come close.

Fisting is not for the impatient, it's a whole different technique altogether. Squirting has more to do with G-Spot stimulation, which often happens during fisting, but not necessary to squirt, Two or Three fingers is all it takes, deep penetration is not even necessary - rapid rubbing of the inner and upper wall o the vaginal canal, just below the pubic bone is what usually does the trick.

Couple things, the G Spot is not a separate organ, it's most likely an extension of the clitoris, which turns out to be quite extensive, with ganglia distributed throughout the vulval region, and you don't want to go straight for the G Spot anymore than you want to go straight for the button, you want to play with the whole thing for a while including the sphincter, and don't go for the G Spot until you're fully aroused. the reason experienced fisters can usually do it more easily is that they're more experienced at assessing your level of arousal, and when to make the move without causing you discomfort,

Other thing is, women seem to exhibit a lot more variability in vulvo-vaginal morphology than men do, it's not just size and shape: angle, depth, flexibility, etc, all vary somewhat from woman to woman, and I suspect that the distribution of the clitoral ganglia varies as well, and possibly even may be affected by how you learned to masturbate, i.e., overstimulation in one are may cause more nerve tissue to grow there, while understimulation in another may mean lower nerve density - some women claim to have no G Spot, and science seems to bear that out to a degree, which means that that ganglia, while it is probably there, may be less dense and thus, less responsive.

You might be able to stimulate nerve growth in these areas over time, nerves do grow even in adults, but it's not an overnight thing.

There are also significant erogenous zones deeper in the vagina, the rectouterine pouch, and one at the base of the cervix that fisting may stimulate and trigger the squirt response, but again, take fisting at a comfortable speed, the vagina is evolved to expand and become flexible to facilitate childbirth, but the body releases hormones to accomplish this: relaxin, among others, and it might take you body a few sessions adjust - some women report being able to fist more easily during their fertile phase, can't do it at other times of the month.

Wikipedia: Relaxin

Relaxin levels probably rise during intercourse, and are found in semen, probably to facilitate penetration itself, so the mechanism appears to be linked to arousal as well as where you are in your cycle, so just take your time and pay attention to what's going on down there if you can do that without getting too distracted.

If you do it a lot, the vulva and vagina can become very flexible and rubbery - it's not "all stretched out" as myth would have it, it's an organic, not a mechanical thing, and you have to keep doing it to keep it that way.

Those women who fist a lot in porn might be doing it Three times a day to keep their relaxin levels up (although other women seem to come by it naturally), whereas a lot of women body builders by contrast, build up so much muscle they can't deliver vaginally, so really, it's almost more of a balancing act, since you might be doing kegals, and the spasms from orgasms themselves will tend to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, but in the end it's your body, listen to it.

Anyway, just take it slow, it's the journey not the destination, if the goal is to orgasm then that's a success if you do, it just means you gotta keep at it and try again, dammit, lol.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

There is a group dedicated to squirting topics on fet, you might want to check that out for helpful tips. I noticed most of us here who have responded have not jumped on the bandwagon, but I do see a lot more enthusiasts over there.

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ORIGINAL: xssve

Well mine is not the final word by any means, that is just my experience, and someone mentioned videos, and that's pretty much what they tell you, but I've seen girls do it without any of that - it's something I'm still learning about, so lay it on us, that's why I made it a point to mention that everybody is different.

I'm very curious how you can do that without any vaginal stimulation at all - I do know that some women can orgasm just by thinking about it so I'm not being skeptical, just nosy.

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

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ORIGINAL: xssve

Well mine is not the final word by any means, that is just my experience, and someone mentioned videos, and that's pretty much what they tell you, but I've seen girls do it without any of that - it's something I'm still learning about, so lay it on us, that's why I made it a point to mention that everybody is different.

I'm very curious how you can do that without any vaginal stimulation at all - I do know that some women can orgasm just by thinking about it so I'm not being skeptical, just nosy.

I've squirted vigorously w/o physical stimulation, while playing with erotic hypnosis. All the sensations created in my body, by the words of the hypnotist, had me feeling as tho' I was being physically touched and stimulated. Powerful stuff!

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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Its not like I havent been with men who havent claimed up and down the block that they could get it to happen and failed miserably. If they would of bet their life on it they would be dead. Ive made quite a few bucks that way. (Im a betting kinda gal myself.)

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ORIGINAL: xssve

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

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ORIGINAL: xssve

Well mine is not the final word by any means, that is just my experience, and someone mentioned videos, and that's pretty much what they tell you, but I've seen girls do it without any of that - it's something I'm still learning about, so lay it on us, that's why I made it a point to mention that everybody is different.

I'm very curious how you can do that without any vaginal stimulation at all - I do know that some women can orgasm just by thinking about it so I'm not being skeptical, just nosy.

I've squirted vigorously w/o physical stimulation, while playing with erotic hypnosis. All the sensations created in my body, by the words of the hypnotist, had me feeling as tho' I was being physically touched and stimulated. Powerful stuff!

That's awesome, good thing I can't do that, I'd be walking around in a daze all the time.

Oh wait, I'm already like that!

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Somehow the thought of you making yourself squirt warms my . . .  heart.

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

I've doe it a few times because of a vibrator aimed at a certain spot. I'm happy it's never been a towel destroyig experience - it's interesting. Makes me feel woozy and lightheaded in a different way than orgasms do. I don't do it all the time, just every once in a while with particular stimuli.

For me, the weirdest part is getting over the "oh no, what's happening?!" feeling.

It isn't something I need to have fun, in fact, it can be a little inconvenient. Some chicks can't stop once they start - seriously. There's a local chick who always warns people against learning to do it because they may ot be able to NOT do it. I'm glad I don't have that problem. :p
If you play at public events, it can pose a problem, or even if you're just at home, nobody wats to sleep in the wet spot, right?

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
masses of posts from women and men who hugely exaggerate and talk out of their over sized urethra's!