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OrionTheWolf -> RE: Consensual Non-consent (2/12/2012 6:20:33 AM)
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The following case is true, though nothing other than relating this will ever be put forth. If it makes the reader feel better to think of this as a hypothetical that is fine as well. I have attempted to recount what happened from interview, personal experience in the matter, and court documents. My perception may not be as objective, so I will try to relate just facts. From the point of her meeting the man that helped her, to the point the slave finally left was a period of approx 9 months.
~FR~
I will relate a true worst case scenario that I have firsthand knowledge of, so that we can see the bad side of things. Later I will post about a true story that at this time shows some of the positive and wonderful things about this type of relationship.
There was a girl that a very young age started visiting BDSM chat rooms on one of the large ISP sites at that time. She already had inclinations towards D/s, as well as bondage and S&M. After a few months she met a guy who interested her and they began corresponding privately. They began a long term relationship via the internet and phone. This went on for a little over three years, during which the girl was introduced to a sub-culture of BDSM that treated slaves as chattel, and ingrained into them that to be feminine they must obey and be pleasing. Throughout this time, certain emotional and psychological aspects of the girl were identified, and the now long distance owner used these in combination with other protocols he instituted to begin the internal enslavement of the girl. These techniques and their subsequent results were never spoken about to the girl. Contact between the two happened several times a day, and she led a double life as many do, one which her family and friends saw as a regular vanilla life, and another where she was the absolute slave of another.
When this girl reached the age so that she could travel unrestricted, she flew to where the owner is, and spent a few weeks with him. During this time, various protocols and rituals were established. These protocols and rituals were designed to continue the internal enslavement of the girl, and maintain an atmosphere of complete control. Discipline was harsh and swift, while reward was generous combined with praise. The girl was taught to speak in third person speech, as if she was not a person, and this was done to reinforce the elimination of her sense of self, so that the internal enslavement could be strengthened. After several weeks she flew back to where she lived.
For the next few months they continued a long term relationship, with various things done to maintain the internal enslavement, and continue the process. During this time a severe yearning began in the girl and she did not feel stable without her owner. Certain things were done to make the girl co-dependent on the owner, so that she began to question even the smallest things, relying on him more and more to make decisions for her. She was rewarded more with praise for bringing these things to her owner, and also admonished when she made decisions based on self determination. She was often referred to as the perfect slave when she did well, but demeaned and emotionally wounded with words when she did not do as expected.
She again flew out to spend several weeks with her owner. During this time the protocol and techniques continued. The owner began using more “good hand, bad hand” techniques to establish his authority. The girl was kept naked, except for a small colored ribbon around her ankle and a metal collar. When going out, she was expected to wear dresses, light make up, walk just behind and to the left, and many of the other things that are practiced in many M/s relationships. During this visit the owner professed love for the girl, and the girl had always professed love for her owner. When it came time to fly back to the girl’s home, the owner forbade it and told her that she would stay with him from now on. This made them both happy, though she left behind a finance and family that knew nothing of this aspect of her life.
The girl was allowed limited contact with her family, but always in the presence of the owner. Within a few months the girl was made to get a job as an adult entertainment dancer, I use this term as she was trained in dance, and she performed and not just jiggled. The owner soon after quit his job. She made good money, and they moved into a nicer place. While at home she was not allowed to wear clothes, except for her collar and the colored ribbon on her ankle. She was not allowed to sit on any furniture, and even had her meals on the floor. Her meals were often the left over from the owner’s meal. She had to speak in third person, ask to do anything and everything (which is part of IE training), she was even required to ask permission to enter a room, leave the owners presence, and ask permission to speak directly to him. In addition to working she maintained the home.
After approx 2 years she became pregnant. When she was close to showing too much to work, the owner showed up to pick her up to work, and drove to the airport. There he picked up another girl that he had been in contact with, and told the original girl that this would be her sister slave, and that the new girl would serve him while she was too pregnant to do otherwise. This was a complete shock to her, not only was she dealing with the hormones of pregnancy, keeping up with her service, but she had the idea that they would be a family. Trust broken, which led to an emotional episode that night, where she packed her bags and left while the owner was away.
She returned to her home state and family, trying to pick up where she left off. Multiple times a day the owner called, trigger some of the IE as well as playing on her guilt issues. After a couple of months she returned as she felt that she had broken her word and was actually to blame for the situation. After returning she was punished severely, to the extent of being locked in a closet and given food and water by the sister slave for two days. After this she tried to continue as she had, but the owner now gave the majority of his attention to the new girl.
Fast forward to her being seven month pregnant and another emotional episode, as the isolation and complications with the pregnancy had taken their toll. She left again for her family, but this time it only took a week for her to return. Via Stockholm and IE, the conditioning was too much. She gave birth to a son, by herself in a hospital. She was taken there via ambulance, as the owner and only vehicle was gone. Later that day the owner showed up to see his son, was there for about a half hour and gone. He did spend some time explaining to her that since she was a slave, their son was actually his.
The girl went back to work two months after giving birth. During that time she was not spoken with much, and the owner continued to spend the majority of his time with the new girl. The new girl was not required to do any housework, and it was still the responsibility of the first girl, along with caring for her son, and now she was going back to work.
It just so happened that at this time the girl met someone at her work, and became friends with this man. The man had experience in CNC relationships and other areas of BDSM. He was not a regular of the club, but was there often as he did work for the owner. As their friendship grew, this man learned more of the situation and began in his mind to assess the degree of what he considered mistreatment. This man determined that the girl needed to leave the situation she was in, but knew that there needed to be a counter process to the IE established. Over the next few months, in their discussions, things were mentioned bringing her infant son into the equation, and illuminating the things that her owner was doing.
Finally at one point, when things were at their worse, the girl was locked in the closet, fed, watered, and allowed to use the bathroom only twice a day. Her infant son was kept from her, and the owner berated her constantly, telling her that he would take his son and she would never see him. During one episode he beat her with a phone book, and forced her to beat her own head on the floor, in addition to using a belt that it later was approximated that he had hit her in excess of 50 times on her butt, back, and back of her legs. Driven into a near psychotic break, the girl called her friend.
Her friend happened to only be a few minutes away, and he immediately called 911. He explained that there was an assault in progress, domestic violence and the victim was in the kitchen with a knife, waiting for the abuser to return from the store. Her friend arrived before the police, and saw that the owner’s car was in the drive way. He grabbed a bat from his back seat, walked to the door with the bat held just behind him and knocked. When the owner answered the door, he used the bat to take out the owner’s knee, hit him a few more times in the side and back, and then stepped over him. The girl was naked, so he grabbed a blanket from nearby, scooped up the car seat that had her son in it, and went outside as the police arrived.
The owner was arrested for battery, and later charges added were aggravated stalking, and violation of a RO. This had been the third incident in four months, the previous times the girl had returned to the owner. It took the real possibility of her losing her son, her life, and she finally snapped.
The conclusion to this is that the girl was taken out of state, to be with her family so she could heal. Her friend that had helped, was more than a friend and was deeply in love with her and her son. The owner was kept in jail for several months, denied bail because of the threat he posed. When he was finally given bail an order of monitoring (ankle bracelet) was also issued. The girl has several emotional and psychological issues, one being PTSD but due to her being abused by a councilor at a young age should would not seek professional help. Once back home, even though she was living with the man who had saved her, she buried the memories and would not talk about them. She eventually told the man, her friend, that she no longer wanted to be with him, in any capacity. The man realized that she needed to heal, and that he was likely the only thing left in her life that reminded her of that awful time.
In Feb of 2009, two and a half years after the incident, the previous owner entered a plea of guilty to two felony counts and a misdemeanor count. He was given 11 years suspended sentence, and part of the order was that he could have no contact with the girl or her son, unless he first established paternity and then the court reserved the right to establish and monitor the visitation. In April of 2008, the girl returned to the man who had saved her, seeking out a CNC relationship, and over the years the man has assisted her in getting over a lot of her emotional and psychological issues, to the point that it has been over two years since an episode of PTSD. With the help of a Dr the girl has been seeing, she is under medication for severe anxiety, and other health related issues from that time. Her now owner has adopted her son, and they live pretty happily together and continue to assist her with her self esteem, guilt, and PTSD, all the time using IE methods to combat the emotional issues and reprogram her so that she can operate on her own if need be. There is a savings account and legal documents in place if anything happens to her current owner, including mental or physical incapacitation.
The girl’s previous owner to this day still tries to find her location, even though he is under order to not do so. Several times he has been charged with breaking probation, and has gotten off of each charge.
Afterword: The previous owner has a degree in Psychology, and was discovered to have been a member of a group of people on the internet that discussed the conditioning of slaves, but with no ethical standards to guide them. The previous owner had been in the Military, and believed to have been trained in Psychological Operations area, but the subpoena for his Military record was declined. The only thing that was made available was that he was dishonorably discharged because of previous domestic abuse charges, which his plea in that case was to a lesser charge. His psych profile would not be provided, but a current psych profile ordered by the court indicated strong evidence that he had a narcissistic personality, with other related pathologies.
The girl still lives in fear that one day she will be found, and fears that the conditioning may still be there, though there is no indication of this. The girl still is unable to seek professional assistance due to anxiety attacks that happen even when the issue is brought up by her Doctor. The girl currently lives a happy life, with a man she loves and loves her, her son, and family pets. CNC and IE are still used with the girl, but in a proper way, and her issues have gotten better over time.
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