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PolyDommesgirl -> Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:07:08 AM)

i have found that in general; on this site and many others, including non fetish; many men tend to have an aversion to reading profiles. In most cases, they seem to be responding to the pretty pictures or profile photos.
(me at a Wallmart, yep, some are calling that pretty.)

As a m-f transgender person who wears very little make up, who doesn't glam out, this is still a compliment.

How ever it feels like a roller coaster ride at times. There is the high of the excitement of some new contacting you, and then the low of no content or photo.

Granted many emails are form letters. But the fact is, i was still one of the people they narrowed there selection to.

i am sure many of you have experienced this and found this to be at times exhausting.

1. What is you favorite way to respond to the males who throw one liners at you and or don't read your profile?
2. Are you polite, direct or rude in your response?
3. Do you block them or play it by ear.

Thank you for your input.

dee





JanahX -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:10:24 AM)

I dont answer at all, or I scan over them .. and then delete unread them.

Fuck them. And fuck them for wasting my time. ( ~the ten seconds or whatever it is :o)



GreedyTop -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:14:43 AM)

what Janah said.



thishereboi -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:16:07 AM)

It depends on my mood and how much time I have. Usually I just ignore them but occasionally I will answer. When I do, it is usually snarky.

I got one the other day from a domme in PA that said..."Hello, would you be interested in taunting and laughing at a male sub of mine?" I wrote back and asked what she had read in my profile that would make her think I would"

I still haven't heard back from her. Maybe she is still looking for it.[8D]




mnottertail -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:16:51 AM)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-58I96OEf-s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OcydVgmKRE

Now, say I sent you that.  Would you ignore it? Would you dance? Would you Kesey next to me my darlin' straighter than a railroad track?

What's a feller to do?



PolyDommesgirl -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:19:15 AM)

Love it ! Thank you



PolyDommesgirl -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:29:48 AM)

Well i would look, as i did.

If you promised to sing hero, i would consider dancing for you.

As i am a media inclined person, the links you gave me, tell me more about you, then what what most men convey in their initial email.

It suggests that you may have read something about me.

dee



mnottertail -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:35:26 AM)

FR, at this point....

East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet.

Rudyard Kipling



OsideGirl -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:40:17 AM)

I usually ignore. The polite ones I will reply nicely and tell them that I'm not looking. The rude ones get flambe'd.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:42:07 AM)

I don't respond usually. If it's a one-liner, written in bad text speak, it just doesn't catch my interest. I may scan, or I might actually read it. But......... I mean there's nothing to respond TO. Sometimes I'll say "thank you," but that's when I'm in a really good mood.

I try to respond to every single well-written message I get. A one-line message CAN be well written. If it's friendly, all the words are spelled out, I'll usually respond -- I'm terribly shy about interacting with people and putting myself out there and striking up conversation -- HORRENDOUSLY shy about it -- so I can't imagine being expected to always make first contact, like men generally are. So I try to be nice and at least say SOMETHING back to them.

But a one-liner in txt spk abt omgz gurl u shud tewtally mov here 2 b wit me -- yeah, no.



searching4mysir -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 7:53:23 AM)

LOL

Definitely.

I had a guy in his 40s text write how he wanted to tit fuck me in his one line initial email.

I replied: Are you 12 or just too lazy to write "you" instead of "U"?



PetiteOralSub -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 8:04:14 AM)

1. What is you favorite way to respond to the males who throw one liners at you and or don't read your profile?

If the one liner is a polite compliment, I reply in kind, a simple polite thank-you.
If the one liner is an obvious attempt by a (probably) married vanilla daytripper sitting with his cock in his hand hoping for a dirty response to wank it off to,
I ignore, dont engage, dont respond, delete unread.
I'm a bit of a smart-ass internally and can be quite sarcastic.
I am training myself out of this behavior, it makes me a bit less interesting to some,
but is more in keeping with my status, and the exercise is good training in self-discipline.

Form letters are insulting. They are always obvious as well. My response to those varies on my mood, usually no response at all.
Same thing with the ones who obviously have not read the profile, nuetral is more polite and better for my karma than insulting, so I ignore.

2. Are you polite, direct or rude in your response?
I am a slave. It is important that my demeanor always reflect well upon every Master I have served.
I avoid rude behavior and simply do not feed the trolls. Many consider the "no response" to be rude, but that is the one indulgence I take, and it is the best I can do at the moment. Keeping in mind to, that the fresh meant here literally get hundreds of email a day for quite a long time. It does not become a manageable amount til you are on the site for about a year.
So, if you emailed fresh meat and were polite and did not receive a response, keep trying about every 2-3 months. No sooner.
You may get noticed once all the trash is cleared away.

3. Do you block them or play it by ear.
I have blocked very few. I just ignore them, they dont bother me that much.
Everyone is just trying to get off, I dont blame them, so am I!.
I'm just not their wank object of the minute.

I believe the best rule of thumb is to
Reply in kind, always be polite to those who are polite.
If you are capable of killing with kindness, be polite to those who are rude to you, it is actually a very delightfully selfish act!
My mother always said "At your worst enemy, flash your best smile" I always do as much as I am able on any given day.



littlewonder -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 8:18:07 AM)

I don't respond. I just delete their email and forget about it.



littleone35 -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 10:21:54 AM)

I try to respond to all my mails except the kneel bitch ones or things like that.  The ones like that i either delete and block or Master responds to them.  Form letters they get deleted and blocked.  If they are a polite e mail i will resspond in the same tone.  I do answers to one liners.  How i met Master he asked me a oer liner "what town in NY  live in".  Now my profile clearly states i am owned, but i just got an e mail from a guy the other day saying i liked you profile (not mrntioned anything i put in it) we have a lot in commom lets get together.  it is clear he did NOT read my profile

Matt's littleone.



JanahX -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 10:35:40 AM)

In all due respect, your profile pics are inviting people to want to engage in insta sexual corrispondance/wanking. And you also state that you are a slut - so do sluts need to be cared about? Or do they just need to be cared about by a whole lotta men?

I am confused by your profile - it states that youre a slut, but the rest of your profile seems to be aimed at serving one person? Are you looking to be owned by one person and then shared by him?



fucktoyprincess -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 2:04:21 PM)

I usually do them the courtesy of reading their profile. If I feel we might actually be a match, I will respond, even if what they sent was just a one-liner.

However, generally speaking, when I look at their profile, there will be something there that tells me immediately that we are not a match (and showing rather obviously that they didn't even bother to read my profile). In that case (the more typical case, I might add), I do the only thing that one can do - IGNORE. Because, in my experience, if you send back a polite note explaining that you are not a match, or not interested, etc., they take the response as an actual sign of interest and then keep e-mailing you. Sigh.

I am glad some of you try to be polite and respond to everyone, but I have found that it just drags out the saying no process. I have to practically beat them over the head with "no" if I respond. Ignoring seems to do the trick much more efficiently.

As for those Dominants who feel they deserve a response - my only comment would be - then be willing to take "no" for "no".



DesFIP -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 2:38:15 PM)

No response is also a response.

If I don't see anything in their profiles, their email or their forum posts (should they have any) that interest me, I wouldn't respond. It's really no different than going to a bar after work. You go in to unwind, have a drink with friends and maybe a bite to eat. If some guy sends over a drink and you don't like the looks of him, you don't go over and engage him in conversation to tell him no. You simply refuse the drink.



poise -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 2:39:36 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PolyDommesgirl
1. What is you favorite way to respond to the males who throw one liners at you and or don't read your profile?
2. Are you polite, direct or rude in your response?
3. Do you block them or play it by ear.


I haven't received a large amount of one liners. but when I do, I usually offer the same effort in my reply.
I admit that, while I am respectful and do my best to answer them all, it isn't always with good intent.
Sometimes I just feel like toying with them, just to see how far a one liner conversation can go.



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 3:33:28 PM)

FR ~

*dusts off the gem*
"The internet is full of wankers."
That said, I read all incoming mail, but don't bother responding to it unless it holds some sort of intellectual appeal.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Illiterate men (2/9/2012 5:20:44 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PolyDommesgirl
What is you favorite way to respond to the males who throw one liners at you and or don't read your profile?

I'm not a sub but, when someone says "Hello" and nothing else, I don't even answer them. I say right in my profile that I won't answer a letter like that, so if they'd taken the time to actually read my profile, they'd know better.

NBMG



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