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RE: So many players - 6/2/2006 8:46:42 PM

Calandra

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ORIGINAL: Tikkiee
It has not gone anywhere.
If you truly seek to find someone to join your family, then you need to get off the computer and get going in REAL LIFE. I find it quite humorous that so many look for honesty on a computer screen, and then complain when pixels turn out to be not what they expected.
**edited for spelling due to disgust**

I find this response to be quite humorous. In the last seven years I have had five significant REAL LIFE relationships. All originated on the internet. One originated here on CollarMe. The results are as follows:
1.) cubby - still together after 7 years, married for 3.
2.) nomi - together for almost 5 years - switch.
3.) young lady from CollarMe - now living (in training) with my best friends locally and doing quite well.
4.) "ensign" - were together for 2 1/2 years, now dominant w/his own household
5.) "kaitlyn" - were together for 1 year, now dominant w/her own slave.

Each of these people are real, living, breathing, thinking, human beings. In each case where they did not remain with me, they moved on to explore things I was not able to give them and I am honored to have been able to help them in their journey.

Maybe my outlook when I begin a new relationship is unique, but I don't look for someone who fits a specific "mold". I look at the person, see if we match in ideals and goals, and then take it from there. I don't believe that every relationship SHOULD be forever. I know that in my own experience, even a fairly short term relationship that benefits everyone is a successful one.

To the OP, Don't lose hope - simply refine your filters so that you weed out the unrealistic ones earlier and earlier... and continue to believe in the basic goodness of people. Not everyone is insincere, but if you grow jaded and negative, you might be passed over by someone who's looking for positive aspects of this lifestyle.

I wish you the best in your search...

Lady Kathryn
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RE: So many players - 6/2/2006 9:14:52 PM

Tikkiee

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Ah, but if you read what I wrote, I never said that a peson could NOT meet someone from online. Only that I find it humorous that one becomes bent out of shape when their 'online' romance does not turn out to be what they expected.

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RE: So many players - 6/3/2006 12:04:28 AM

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Honesty, truth, on-line reality vs. face-to-face reality. Geez. How can one claim everyone else is dishonest, not "real", etc. and then post an age that doesn't match the picture?

Wondering minds just need to know.

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RE: So many players - 6/3/2006 12:41:43 AM

Wolfie648

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ORIGINAL: NWDomDommeCpl

Is it any wonder that BDSM is getting such a bad name recently(or much longer)
We have been members a while now and although we have had many responses to our request in our ad.When it comes down to doing the usual checks to prove themselves they suddenly dissapear.
Why do people think its a good thing to do, pretending to be who they obviously are not.
Its very frustrating,spending a lot of time talking,listening and general chatting and getting to know that person just to find out that they are not really who they say they are.
We should stress this isnt everyone who has replied,but it is a lot.
I'm sure many others have found the same problem as we have and are as fed up as we are.
Where has the honesty gone?
Mistress Trish & Master Aren

My faith in humanity (read 'honesty' for humaity) was destroyed years ago (communities are too large for the people interested into looking into the reason why) - by politians who would not admit global warming 30 years ago; and YES I was concerned about these issues when I was 6 years old for those that bother to check (something generally accepted these day; global warming) was happening - ok these people got voted in by the "Majority" (perspective).

The only people they will be saving when the s%it comes down is themselves. All we can do is do the best to save ourselves. O' wait the sky is falling!

Dam, (sic) that's only relevant if you're paranoid.

eh on a lighter note o' you verify people? Welcome to the jungle. Check stats on people surviving in the jungle.

Needle in a hay stack. Just need to find the right haystack dammit!

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RE: So many players - 6/3/2006 5:38:29 AM

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I guess I would wonder what the OP's idea of "usual checks" is. If you are asking for info that could lead to identity theft you have to remember this is online. I would not divulge that kind of info to someone I was e-mailing with. There are way too many people online trolling for just that kind of sucker.

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RE: So many players - 6/5/2006 12:44:38 PM

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LOL...Crappy was kidding and using a bit of sarcasm, I do believe.
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...well, that's entirely different. An intentional error to make a sacrcastic point is appreciated, if not immediately obvious. Sometimes hard to tell without that wicked tone of voice.

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RE: So many players - 6/6/2006 6:48:10 AM

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The one thing We are not looking for is young nubile subs/slaves.We are looking for a genuine female who wants the same as we do from this lifestyle.
her age is not an issue and we actually do prefer an older person.
And yes it isnt a right to reply on any site,we just find it good manners.

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RE: So many players - 6/6/2006 7:23:59 AM

NWDomDommeCpl

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"Reply to sharainks"
When we said usual checks,it was a figure of speech.
We don't even make any suggestions until after a while of chatting and both sides have shown an interest in taking it further.
We then ask if a picture is not on her profile if we may have one and if( We stress if) she is really interested if she would like to chat on the phone.
This can be after several days or even weeks and can be either one making the request.
We would never ask anyone for anything that would cause a problem in their vanilla life.
We always give the same amount of respect We would want in return.
The gripe as its been called by some is simply a question as to why some spend as much time as they can giving the impression they are seriosly interested and then as soon as a personal verbal contact request is made,they just dissapear.
As was said in the original post.We know not everyone is the same.We have also made many very fine friends either Dominants or subs/slaves

Mistress Trish & Master Aren

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