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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/12/2012 6:06:05 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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masmiss your are right,but what do we have to be "richer"??why do we have to pay to someone we are serving???why paying a mistress to serve her and she isnt a prodomme??i just want an answer to the "tribute" that most of them require it,and at end,belive me,if they worth to be ladies and queens,they wont ask for money


You are entirely missing Rochsub's point.

He's saying that you're competing with subs who have more money and are physically superior to you.  Just his way of saying that manners and personality will HAVE TO BE the means by which you compete.

Um, and spelling and punctuation, too.




Valid points DS but, I've found that (at my age) cash is inordinately sexy.

(What really pisses me off however is....now, I don't really need all that much cash....if I'd have only known back then what I know now......).

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/12/2012 6:11:06 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Thing is, there are plenty of doms who will never find a good long term sub. Most of those men out there are closer to that tongue boy than anything resembling a submissive.

Rays of sunshine, aren't we.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/12/2012 6:26:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You are entirely missing Rochsub's point.

He's saying that you're competing with subs who have more money and are physically superior to you. 



Perhaps this will make it even more clear to them.

Go to page 1 of this thread, and look at the response from a guy named PeonforHer. Look at his abs. Now look at your abs. Now look at his abs again. Now look at yours again.

Once you've done that a few times, pull out your wallets and give FetishEden a call. In case you haven't noticed, she's beautiful, and she's a fantasy that you CAN ACTUALLY EXPERIENCE (for a price). I think that a much better option than masturbation. But that's just me.

BTW, for those of you who don't know any better, pro Dommes are not prostitutes. So don't treat them like they are.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/12/2012 11:02:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Thing is, there are plenty of doms who will never find a good long term sub. Most of those men out there are closer to that tongue boy than anything resembling a submissive.

Rays of sunshine, aren't we.

I find this to be very true. Guys complain about the dommes on CM being fake, greedy, etc but my understanding of things is that a genuinely good, submissive guy is just as rare as a real, serious dominant woman. Which makes me all fuzzy inside when my dommy tells me Im genuinely submissive

I think all the horny male bottoms should look to Roch to see what their competition is like... What domme wouldnt want a guy like him?

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 4:36:14 AM   
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I think all the horny male bottoms should look to Roch to see what their competition is like... What domme wouldnt want a guy like him?


You're kidding, right?  A guy who balances a blue block on his nose? 


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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 5:51:36 AM   
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You're kidding, right?  A guy who balances a blue block on his nose? 




What have you got against blues? Racist.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 6:26:34 AM   
Rochsub2009


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You're just trying to chase away the competition, aren't you.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 6:27:49 AM   
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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 8:25:15 AM   
hangemhigh1953


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You're kidding, right?  A guy who balances a blue block on his nose? 


Not my kink personally, but I ain't knocking it!

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 8:55:32 AM   
Rochsub2009


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You're kidding, right?  A guy who balances a blue block on his nose? 



It's a form of humiliation play. It's both humiliating and painful. I'm amazed that you haven't tried it on one of your subs.

If you were a TWUE Dom, you would have plenty of experience with blue block humiliation.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 10:29:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: urfunmaleslave

I can't understand why I can't find a mistress to serve. I'm looking to serve
a mistress and in a year I'm willing to be a live in slave. I know I'm to this life
but willing to do what she said, I just want to make her happy. I'm willing to
get a job and give her what I make. I guess I need some guidance.


Your approach here comes across as "any ol' mistress will do".
Most people prefer to be sought out for the person they are, not the position they hold.
If it's merely the position you are looking for, a professional seems to be the logical way to go.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 6:24:17 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		I say, back to Peons' abs and Rochs' humiliation fetish!
I didn't mean to kill the thread with my last post.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/13/2012 6:38:30 PM   
slvemike4u


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Status: offline 		Oh good god but I hate this question.
This is simple ...finding a Mistress is no different than finding any woman.The laws of attraction are the same,woman(like men) are looking for someone who exudes happiness,joy and an outgoing personality.The one way you will never attract a Domme,girlfriend,pen pal or any other thing is by going around advertising your failure in attracting the ----fill in the blank.All that does is make the woman wonder what is wrong with you.
Go to functions,munches etc....be the happiest guy in the room,have a smile on your face,be outgoing...no woman ever looked at a wallflower and decided she was going over there to turn that frown upside down...just doesn't happen.
Enjoy your search,have fun,attract others having fun...play with people(people only play with people who are fun)figure out that the destination is okay but it is the trip that makes it all worthwhile...so enjoy the journey.


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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 5:29:23 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		That which you seek is much like a journey of introspection rather than looking out.

Are you comfortable with who you are? Do you actually know what you are looking for?

If you have specifications (and everyone does) expect to find the odds of what you want to get slimmer and slimmer.

Finding a Mistress is not easy and anyone who says this is the case either has personal references from previous encounters of servitude or is trying to manipulate you for some agenda not in accordance to your own.

Irrelevant to finding a Mistress I have been improving my own skills and abilities in hopes to add to my own value.

Sans Owner or submissive-type.

It increases your chances of someone finding a quality in you that they really like and you may hit it off.

A hedge bet, really.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 5:32:30 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Pyro is wise.

And if all there was to my Darling was his lovely body... well, there wouldn't be much to talk to, would there!

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 6:10:08 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Wait, Your Darling? what?

Bwah, I am far from darling. Deviant maybe, unless you speak of some other darling of yours.

:D

Just play the cards that have been dealt to you and maybe a cat will not walk across your keyboard and you will be fine, OP

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 6:20:44 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I meant Peon, but you certainly have your youthful charms, Pyro!

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 6:24:29 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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ORIGINAL: urfunmaleslave

I can't understand why I can't find a mistress to serve.


Well, what the heck .... join the club!

Yet unlike you, I have MET real Mistresses in REAL LIFE!

Also talked on the phone with them and communicated with them in email that was NOT on Collar Me.

So I guess this gives me some insight, in which to phrase my advice.

1. Every Mistress is a Lady, treat Her like one and She will notice you.

2. Approach a Mistress, the same way you would if you met in real life!

- be interested in Her, and what She thinks,
- talk with Her about Her career and ambitions or Her life,
- be considerate and thoughtful

3. Finding a Mistress is IDENTICAL to finding a long term vanilla relationship ... there are just fewer of them, and you don't have any where near the choices ...

So you just have to work harder ... for a longer period of time.

If you take my advice you will find one ... because men of this type are hard for them to find too!

Good luck!


PS: try getting a job first ...





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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 6:28:42 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You are entirely missing Rochsub's point.

He's saying that you're competing with subs who have more money and are physically superior to you. 



Perhaps this will make it even more clear to them.

Go to page 1 of this thread, and look at the response from a guy named PeonforHer. Look at his abs. Now look at your abs. Now look at his abs again. Now look at yours again.

Once you've done that a few times, pull out your wallets and give FetishEden a call. In case you haven't noticed, she's beautiful, and she's a fantasy that you CAN ACTUALLY EXPERIENCE (for a price). I think that a much better option than masturbation. But that's just me.

BTW, for those of you who don't know any better, pro Dommes are not prostitutes. So don't treat them like they are.


Roch.....I know we've discussed this before (and maybe you should see someone about it) but .....you have a giant blue block on your hayud.

I don't know if antibiotics would help but....it's a little unnerving frankly.

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RE: Why can't I find a Mistress - 2/14/2012 6:30:52 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
Perhaps this will make it even more clear to them.

Go to page 1 of this thread, and look at the response from a guy named PeonforHer. Look at his abs. Now look at your abs. Now look at his abs again. Now look at yours again.



Just for clarity, Peon stole my photo years ago...those are my abs...I don't begrudge the guy, I mean, c'mon, let's all agree...they're quite sexy.

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