Casteele
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A discussion at a demo had me thinking so I did a little search...
It seems that a large percentage of the female submissives that are looking for "the one and only" etc. have pictures posted that remind me of portfolios from parts models. (i.e. hand models, .. only one part of the body is used in advertising)
It seems to me that if one is looking for a total package, you would advertise the whole thing.
Is it self objectification? Is it fear of being outed? Or, a limited perception of what they think is desired?
Not trolling but maybe I can stir up some conversation on this and learn a thing or two.
Stefan
Just a few thoughts and observations..
Their reasons are their own, and they are as numerous and varied as people are, which is to say damned near infinite. Some people may fall in to the few categories mentioned for obvious reasons, but many probably do not. On the other hand, I can list a few likely categories most people will fall under.. either they post a photo that means something to them, they like in some way, or they think will sufficiently advertise themselves in a way that will gain the interest of those they want to take interest in them.
One thing in your original premise seems to be the idea that a single profile photo, or a hand-full of photos in a portfolio, will sufficiently tell you just about everything you need to know about someone--the whole package. Perhaps to you it will, if all you are interested in is how they look and care nothing about personality and such. (And this is not a bash on those types of people; Face it, they do exist, and they find their own happiness in living that way. If it works for them, I'm happy for them.) For myself, I view the photo as only a photo, one single snapshot of the person as a whole. Even a collection of photos is still only a very small slice of the "whole picture." (Funny that the saying is "the whole picture" here, when we're talking about things a picture cannot convey!)
But to really get a "whole package" view of a person, I see no way possible to do so without going beyond and looking beyond mere visual presentations, and instead engaging all the senses, all perceptions and all capacities (such as thought--engaging the mind). Not even an audio-visual presentation can do that, even combined with a written profile--You still miss things like smells, touch, and even, for lack of a better term, the "aura" of a person. I've met people that their pictures, profiles, and months of emails back and forth, phone calls, and lots of time "getting to know them," yet, on that first meeting, their natural scent killed every bit of interest I've had in them. Not because they smelled bad or had "BO" or anything; They actually smelled nice, but at some level of nature, we are still animal-beasts and find some smells more attractive and others much less attractive.
Same can be said about just an overall feel for a person. Ever meet someone that just creeped you out for no apparent reason? What about at some event where you meet someone you have "seen around" on some forum but were never really interested in them, until you first looked in their eyes face-to-face? Even then, you still are only seeing one small fraction of who they are as a whole package; The rest, well, anyone who's been in a long term relationship for a very long time will probably agree that it takes a lifetime to learn enough about someone else, with no possibility of ever knowing every last bit of the whole package. (Which is good for people like me, because I get bored easily when there's nothing left to learn ;-P)
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