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ORIGINAL: cbunnie

Hi guys,

Is it wrong to pay submissive/slaves for taking time off from their daily lives so that can be more dedicated and enthusiastic? or would that simply attract the wrong kind of submissive/slaves?

I am socially awkward and I'm afraid of people in general. BUT I generate enough money online to live comfortably. I don't go out and I'm just staying at home, I don't really need all that extra money. I have no use for it. I don't want to hire escorts as I'm not looking for sex (I mean the actual intercourse), I have never had sex in my life and I don't think I ever will until my transition (MTF) is complete.

Chances are I may not be able to find a slave/submissive in my country or continent. But I'm thinking of a live-in concept all year around with the freedom for her to go visit her parents or friends whenever she wants to, and rewarding (not paying) her with substantial amount that she would not realistically earn from a job within her capacity. I'm thinking that would make her feel more relaxed, that her life is not being wasted away.

I tried several classifieds and not much luck. I probably don't know where to look OR whether offering money was insulting. I don't really know. What are your thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay.  Quit thinking that throwing money at some chick will solve your problems.  As you're finding out, that attracts the wrong sort of woman.

Also, being blunt, I agree with kalikshama that you don't strike me as being Dominant.  I suspect that you could get your needs met by a vanilla.  I also think that a submissive would feel lost without a strong enough Dominant presence.  I'd suggest you quit thinking of D/s and advertise for a vanilla.

I'd suggest advertising for live-in housekeeping help.  You really want a companion, but you might as well get a clean house out of it as well.    Just be up front that you're looking for a housekeeper/companion that will be with you as you transition.

There's a LOT of stuff online that MtFs have put together that can guide you.  Send me a message and I'll have my sub tell you of some resources.

Is there any reason that you think six months will cover it?  My sub transitioned over a couple of years.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay.  Quit thinking that throwing money at some chick will solve your problems.  As you're finding out, that attracts the wrong sort of woman.

Also, being blunt, I agree with kalikshama that you don't strike me as being Dominant.  I suspect that you could get your needs met by a vanilla.  I also think that a submissive would feel lost without a strong enough Dominant presence.  I'd suggest you quit thinking of D/s and advertise for a vanilla.

I'd suggest advertising for live-in housekeeping help.  You really want a companion, but you might as well get a clean house out of it as well.    Just be up front that you're looking for a housekeeper/companion that will be with you as you transition.

There's a LOT of stuff online that MtFs have put together that can guide you.  Send me a message and I'll have my sub tell you of some resources.

Is there any reason that you think six months will cover it?  My sub transitioned over a couple of years.

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cbunnie:

your profile is for a couple, and the references to this other person are patchy and.. confusing. Is there actually another person? it sounds like multiple personality disorder.