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40 questions - 6/2/2006 7:00:09 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


Posts: 1893
Joined: 6/12/2004
From: Rochester, NY
Status: offline 		Over in the Ask a Submissive/Slave forum, there is a thread about questions submissives should as prospective dominants.  floorkitten posted a great link to a list of 40 questions.  Being the unabashed exhibitionist that I am, I thought I would answer them here, and see if any other brave souls (a.k.a. attention whores) might want to play as well.

I don't think this should be limited to dominants, however, so you submissives should answer them too.  I don't think there were any questions that only a dominant could answer, but be creative if you need.

My answers to follow...

Taggard


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:12:28 AM   
Dustyn


Posts: 1044
Joined: 4/5/2006
Status: offline 		1. To live to see 65, but no prognosis I've seen has expected me to live past 60-61.
2. There is rarely anything typical about my day, so just about anything is possible, up to and including amusing people showing up at my house with swords. Was definately an amusing highlght.
3. Depends on what kind of help, I suppose.
4. Exceptionally.
5. Pride, Arrogance and an Inability to Take Anything Seriously
6. Leaving my daughter alone in this world.
7. Abuse of parental trust.
8. Nope.  Enjoy working with my hands too much.  Mostly callouses.
9. A momentary blurt of profanity then I go back to singing along with the music.
10. The cause of my nightmares.
11. For purposes of Internet privacy, will not post that here, but my log in name is my given name.
12. No guarantee of catching me at home, but I prefer no calls after 10PM, except for emergencies.  Panic attacks, however, don't count as an emergency.
13. What type of proof would you like?
14. Gas station at the moment, plus a home based business making chainmail and eventually forging armors and weapons again.
15. Touch and go most of the time, but given the past with my folks, it's not suprising.  Have as little to do with my sister as possible.
16. Rarely.  Just told my mother the yesterday that I have had 2 heart attacks before I was 25, and I am now 30, almost 31.
17. Yes.
18. As a juvenile, yes.  Since I turned 18, no.
19. During my last physical in November 2005.  Had reasons to think that my partner wasn't completely safe and wanted to double check.
20. Several.  Manic depression, cerebrally degenerative migraines.  A couple of other things that I can't remember the name of right off the top of my head, but both deal with the rage I keep bottled up inside of me.
21. The same way everything else does.  Wherever it's supposed to.
22. Every relationship is different to me.  I make no presumptions on how things will go.
23. Wasn't some great flash of the obvious.  Have always stepped in and taken charge when the situation demands it.
24. Qualifies?  People submitting to me by choice.
25. Depends on the person.
26. If you can answer the reverse of the question, I'll answer yours.
27. Hopefully a stable one, not one where I have to play White Knight until you get bored with being a pain in the ass.
28. Anything that is agreed upon by all people involved.
29. Nope.  Not a big one on bondage.  At least not with physical objects.
30. Blanket questions are pointless to try and answer for individuals.
31. Poly relationship with 3 people.
32. I'll withhold names online, but if they had no issues about talking with you, I have none as well.
33. I don't believe in true monogamy.
34. Never been married.
35. A huge laundry lists of problems on both sides, but mostly, she stopped talking to me about her problems with us and started using other people to act out her aggressive streak with me.  Ties in with my answer for a typical day.
36. Collared submissive or play partner? Answers will be vastly different, but mental malfunctions explain most of that.
37. Worked: Honesty, communication and openness.  Failed: Secrets, attempting to remake my code of conduct/ethics and lying.
38. Only in play while she was being tickled.
39. If you didn't, I'd be offended.  Blind faith is the height of stupidity.
40. Previous submissives, members of my old munch group, and my one and only Mistress.


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:20:33 AM   
Tikkiee


Posts: 1099
Joined: 4/6/2006
Status: offline 		Attention is always good  I'll play along.
 
1*What do I want out of life? * To be successful at my chosen career, to be kown as a good person, to be liked for who I am, not what I am.
2*A typical day with me ( on a day that I do not have classes ) would be a 5 mile run in the morning, breakfast, 2 hours at the gym swimming, off to work, lunch in downtown Dallas, back to work, home for dinner, work on some papers brought home from work, some time at a club or just home talking, a good beating ( for me  ), then some good, hard, dirty sex. On a day when I have classes...a 5 mile run in the morning, breakfast, 2 hours at the gym, off to class, lunch downtown, back to class, home for dinner, work on papers for class, talk in between working on papers, a good hard beating for me , then some good hard, dirty sex. .....I know, my life is so boring
3*If I needed help, I would turn to the one person who has always been there when I needed a good swift attitude adjustment; a retired sheriff whom I have known since my teenage years.
4*Yes, I am passionate about a number of things. My schooling, my friends, my relationships.
5*My three worse traits would be: my inability to accept failure, my drive towards perfection, and my outlook on personal appearance.
6*I am afraid of being sucked back into the void that abuse causes.
7*In my opinion, the worse crime commited against humanity is genocide.
8*Yes, I keep my hands soft
9*If someone is in such a hurry that they have to cut me off in traffic, more power to them. They can get to the red light faster than I if it makes them feel better.
10*Hmm, the one thing I would hope not be found out is that I have a terrible fear of snakes. UGH
11*Well, due to certain reasons,this one really can not be answered here. My first name though is Cassandra, everyone calls me Tikkiee or Tikk though. And my addy, well, lets just say that I live in both Dallas and Moody.
12*You can call anytime you want, within reason. Does not mean that you will catch me at home though
13*Yes, I can verify who I am, what I look like, where I live, and what I do in my spare time.
14*I work part time as a life-guard during the summer, and as an asst professor at the college. My occupation can be called scientist.
15*I do not see, nor talk with any members of my immediate family. I was placed in foster care at the age of 6 and have no desire to re-establish a relationship with either of my parents.
16*Same as answer 15
17*Never had a restraining order against me.
18*Yes. Been arrested, charged and convicted. I was 16 at the time. And no, I am not proud of it
19*I am screened every 8 months, by choice, not by request.
20*Hmm, no mental health issues. Unless you call flashbacks a mental issue.
21*Well, technically speaking, BDSM does not fit into my life. However, I am a masochist, and it's a very big part of my life. I thrive on pain.
22*I don't adhere to the D/s lifestyle. I am nothing more than a bottom.
23*I first learned of my love for pain at the age of 16, it evolved from there.
24*Since I am not a dominant, I am not going to answer this question.
25*AS to what I believe the role of a submissive partner should be; I am not qualified to answer so I will skip this one also.
26*Same answer as 25
27*I hope to have a relationship based on trust, affection ( no, I am not looking for love ); one that is lasting though.
28*My idea of a consent/consentual relationship is one that has been discussed in depth, leaving nothing to chance. Then and only then, when both or all parties are in agreement, consent is given. If a general agreement can not be reached, then I expect a compromise to be reached and adhered to.
29*I can name several knots, but not demonstrate them.
30*Using only myself here; my partner will know what my extreme hard limits are. These are not to be breached in any way, shape or form. Outside of those, I would hope that my partner would push my boundaries and let me explore other levels of intensity.
31*Currently, I am single
32*Not currently involved with anyone, but you can speak to anyone whom I have scened with in the past. With their permission of course.
33*I am still available because quite frankly, I am too hard-nosed and stubborn to give way over something that I feel strongly about. I accept that though, and learn to live with it.
34*Never married
35*We parted ways because it was something that we both knew would happen sooner or later; and it was something that we both accepted. It was time.
36*My last partner would say that I am stubborn, bitchy at best, I love to fight ( literally, as in throw punches, even better when they are returned  ), I am too analytical and that I think things to death. He would also say that I am extremely active, that I thrive on pushing the limits of what I can do, that I am somewhat reckless in regards to personal safety, that I talk too much, but am a very good listener also.
37*What worked in my previous relationship was the fact that we were both brutually honest with each other, knew how to communicate, how to compromise, how to say 'I am sorry, I was wrong', and how to forgive. What did not work was we both had very set ideas of what we wanted from life, and these ideas could not be compromised.
38*I have used a safeword, in the last 5 years, ....keep in mind that this is a GUESS...maybe twice a month. There were times though that he stopped without me saying anything because he was aware that I was not in a space that I needed to be.
39*Hmm, if a safe call was not set up by both of us, I would wonder at both our sanity's
40*Yes. Not only do I have refrences, I can personally take you around the community and introduce you to most there.
 
 
Ok, I bared my wicked soul. Who's next

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:34:38 AM   
Dustyn


Posts: 1044
Joined: 4/5/2006
Status: offline 		Interesting answers, mon chere...

And thanks to Taggart for posting this... wonder how many people will be willing to answer the questions.


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:36:31 AM   
gooddogbenji


Posts: 5094
Joined: 11/15/2005
From: Toronto
Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
 
Fun

02. What would a typical day with you be like?

Depends on whether or not I have to work, but it involves a lot of staring at walls and sponatneous going out and buying lightbulbs and tropical fish.

03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?

Depends on the kind of help needed, but usually my brother or sister.

04. Are you passionate?

Meh.

05. What are your three worst traits?

Procrastination.
Lack of thinking-through certain things.
Obsessive compulsive urge to fill out every damn internet questionnaire.

06. What are you afraid of?

Not much.  Paranoid about?  Dead spiders and slugs.

07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?

Injustices.

08. Do you have soft hands?

Not really.

09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Mumbling.  Lots of mumbling.  Then meeting their family at the funeral.

10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?

If I told you that, I would not have much hope left, now would I?

11. What is your full name and home address?

I. P. Freely

12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?

If you had my number, yes, you could.  Would I like it?  Depends on the time of day, really.

13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?

Sure!  Why the hell not?

14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?

Meat rendering plant, I work there as a cow.

15. How do you get along with your immediate family?

By yelling at them, usually.

16. How often do you call or visit your parents?

Too often.

17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?

No.  I was told not to speak of it.

18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?

Within the past week?  ummmmm...  I don't think so...  was Monday more than a week ago?

19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?

Tuesday.  I had them all.

20. Do you have any mental health problems?

I think that answer is obvious.

21. How does BDSM fit into your life?

I turn it sideways and it slides right in.

22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?

Yes.

23. When did you first know you were dominant?

Ummmm...  Listen, you may want to start looking for someone else.

24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant?

Nothing, really.

25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be?

Me.

26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?

You wouldn't!

27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?

D/s, with me in the s role.  Get that through your head!  I don't want you as my damn slave.  Go find yourself someone else, goddamnit!  Now go pester someone else!  Sheesh!

28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?

I say go for it.  You go for it.  I get horsewhipped.  We eat cake.

29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?

Yep.  I lie there quite still as I get tied up.

30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?

Yes.

31. What is your current dating status?

I date everything with the dd/mm/yyyy system.

32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them?

No one, but I'm gonna warn you - talking to thin air may make you look crazy.

33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?

I'm better than I seem.  I scare people off.

34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?

Never been married, mostly because they were all dominating bitches so far.

35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?

She was offended when I used her puppy to buff my car.

36. What would your last submissive say about you?

"Damn he sucked at dominating" - I'M A SUB, FOR THE LAST FUCKING TIME!!!!

37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?

Apparently, the whole s/s thing didn't work.  There needs to be a D somewhere in there.

38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?

No one.  Why the fuck would someone tie me up and whip me, only to use a safe word?

39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?

Nope.

40. Do you have references within the community?

Yes.  Wait, you mean good ones?

Yours,


benji


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:39:25 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


Posts: 1893
Joined: 6/12/2004
From: Rochester, NY
Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
     Passion, happiness, fulfilment, excitement, comfort, freedom, truth, beauty and love.

02. What would a typical day with you be like?
    I don't really know.  Since there is no "you", it would really depend on the situation and specifics of our relationship.  If "you" are a slave, I imagine the typical day would begin with "you" waking in your cubby, performing some sort of morning ritual before attending to my needs.  Your day would be filled with the things you need to do, though always keeping your mind on my needs as well.  Night would include normal activities of any family, to be topped off with some sort of evening ritual.  Weekends would include going out (we love to hang out at this one strip club), and a fetish event, if we can find one close enough...


03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?
     I have never really been in any serious trouble, but I imagine I would turn to my family (Elle, my parents, sister, etc).  I tend to want to take care of my own problems.

04. Are you passionate?
     I can be.  I can also be lazy.  I tend to get passionate about one thing and then move on and become passionate about something else.

05. What are your three worst traits?
     I suck at keeping friends.  I don't have a lot of empathy for other people.  I can put things off for longer than I should.

06. What are you afraid of?
  Doing hard time in a real PMITA prison.  I'm just too pretty for that...  *smile*

07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?
     The Holocaust and various Communist purges (China, Russia, Cambodia) were pretty bad.  It would be hard to top them.

08. Do you have soft hands?
     I wouldn't say they were soft, but I love my hands.  They are strong, without being rough. Slender, without being feminine.  I am a very very tactile person...and have been called "The gropingist man in America."

09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?
     I smile and wave, and then forget it.

10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?
    I am very much an open book.  There isn't anything I am ashamed of or hiding.  All the dirt on me you could possibly want is in these 40 questions...so have at it.

11. What is your full name and home address?
     Taggard Andrews, 737 East Ave, Rochester, NY, 14607  (It's also on my webpage www.taggard.net)

12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?
     I only have a cell phone, but you can call whenever you like.

13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?
    Do a google image search on my name and you will find pictures of me on the internet.

14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?
    I am a software engineer with West.

15. How do you get along with your immediate family?
    I see my parents and sister every other month or so.  Email frequently, phone often.  I love them all very much.

16. How often do you call or visit your parents?
    See above.

17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?
    No.

18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?
    No.

19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?
    2004.

20. Do you have any mental health problems?
    In 2004 I was diagnosed with mild NPD.  My prognosis is excellent, and my therapist no longer recommends therapy.

21. How does BDSM fit into your life?
     It is a large part of a very busy, full, and exciting life.

22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?
    I think a D/s relationship is really defined by the D and the s in the relationship.  For me, I am looking for a slave.  She will be my property, belong to me in a real and tangible sense.  She will not want to be my wife or my partner, but instead desire to belong to me in a way that comes closer to the pre-Civil War south, than any romantic version of D/s.

23. When did you first know you were dominant?
    I don't know how to answer that.  I have always been what I am.  I learned about BDSM in 1996, and that gave me a vocabulary to talk about what I am, but I haven't changed.  So I guess I have always known, but didn't know what I knew.

24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant?
   I am quite intuative.  I have very good control of my temper.  I care about the people I own.  I go to lectures, demonstrations and classes on both physical and mental dominance techniques.  I study the topic.

25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be?
  In a relationship with me, the submissive would be a slave.  She would be property, and understand her place as such.  This does not make her inferior to me in any way.  She is who she is, and I am who I am.  We complete the desires of one another.

26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?
    This one doesn't make much sense in this context.

27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?
    A Master/slave or Owner/property relationsip.

28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?
    A slave consents once, during the signing of the contract, to all things stipulated in the contract.  Consent is not implied to anything not clearly stated in the contract.  If the owner wishes to do something outside the boundaries of the contract, consent must be given by the slave before said act can occur.

29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?
    I was a boy scout, and an avid camper.  I know many knots.  Granny knots and square knots are two of the simplest and most common knots.   That said, I am not very into rope bondage, and prefer leather and steel.

30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?
   Yes.  After really getting to know someone, pushing boundaries can be exciting, rewarding, and educational for both Master and slave.  This should not be done lightly, or without preperation and much consideration.

31. What is your current dating status?
  I am living with my girl-friend/partner who is also a dominant.  She is looking for a slave, herself, and knows all about my passions.

32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them?
   I am not currently involved with anyone else, but you can certainly speak with anyone with whom I am intimately involved.

33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?
   I am looking for something quite specific, and I am rather choosy.  I also live in a town without much of a scene, which doesn't help.

34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?
   I was married very young, and we really grew apart.  My involvement with the scene did play a part.

35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?
   See abiove.

36. What would your last submissive say about you?
    I think my last slave would have very good things to say about me.  We had a wonderful time and ended due to time/distance issues.

37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?
     Worked: contracts, rituals, positions.  Didn't work: long distance.

38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?
    Never.  I don't really use safewords (though they are always defined in my contracts.)  I don't do resistance play, so when I play, "no means no" and "stop means stop."

39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?
    I would be shocked and dismayed if you didn't.

40. Do you have references within the community?
    I do indeed.  Mercnbeth, from this very message board, have met me and Elle and we have even given beth a waxing!  More available on request.


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:44:39 AM   
composer83


Posts: 101
Joined: 2/14/2006
From: Oklahoma City
Status: offline 		ok, im feeling brave........& am a sub, so i reversed some of the questions


01. What do you want out of life?
 to be able to consider myself successful in the music/creative industry

02. What would a typical day with you be like?
anything but boring
 
03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?
depends on the problem, but i can always count on my folks
 
04. Are you passionate?
yes, very
 
05. What are your three worst traits?
procrastination, occasional laziness, no short term memory
 
06. What are you afraid of?
failure
 
07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?
genocide, blind, ingorant hatred
 
08. Do you have soft hands?
no, i work with my hands too much
 
09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?
a curse word, but no bird
 
10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?
why would i want to hide something like that?
 
11. What is your full name and home address?
 not putting my full name & addy on here
 
12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?
sure, but you'll actually reach me by cell
 
13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?
 yep
 
14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?
at a studio, production engineer
 
15. How do you get along with your immediate family?
quite well, actually
 
16. How often do you call or visit your parents?
weekly
 
17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?
lol, no
 
18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony? 
plenty of misdemenors, but no felonies ( i was a juvenille delenquent)
 
19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?
about 10 months ago (clean)
 
20. Do you have any mental health problems?
nothing officially diagnosed

21. How does BDSM fit into your life?
it fits quite well actually, & on my mind ALOT
 
22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?
in short, it is a low-drama relationship where it is understood that one is in charge
 
23. When did you first know you were submissive? 
i always have been, but first really understood about 3 years ago
 
24. What do you think qualifies you to be a submissive?
strength, honesty, loyalty, devotion, chivalry
 
25. What do you think the role of the dominant partner should be?
to care for, guide & nurture the sub
 
26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?
n/a
 
27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?
a lasting one
 
28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?
dont hear a safeword?  its consented
 
29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?
i was a boyscout, i know LOTS of knots! lol
 
30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?
yes, but it depends on both the D & the s

31. What is your current dating status? 
single, but dating (not sleeping) around
 
32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them? 
sure, if its ok with them
 
33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?
im picky, & eccentric
 
34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?
 never married
 
35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?
omg, thats a looooong story basically, i felt more like a babysitter, than a sub
 
36. What would your last dominant say about you?
she would say she wishes me well, but i know she harbors resentment
 
37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?
everything worked, except the distance & that she was an energy-vampire
 
38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?
i have never used a safeword :)
 
39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?
not sure what that is
 
40. Do you have references within the community?
no


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:48:28 AM   
slaverosebeauty


Posts: 1941
Joined: 12/12/2004
From: Cali
Status: offline 		That took a while.
{I am a slave, so I answered as such and 'flipped' things when neccessary}
 
01. To be happy and healthy, to make a difference.
02. Time spent with my son, quiet time, maybe watching a movie, meditating; for the most part, I live a quiet life when possible.
03. My bestfriend, my mother, and a few close friends; my partner.
04. Very much, in all things.
05. I procrastinate, I enjoy 'oodalooping' people, I don't trust people very easily.
06. Big Apes, spiders, bugs, snakes, the unknown.
07. Indifference
08. Yup, they get insured a few times a year for modeling projects.
09. If my son is in the car, I keep my cool as much as possible, otherwise, I write down their license plate number and turn that into the cops.
10. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. My social security number.
11. I am NOT posting that here.
12. Yup, if you have that number.
13. Of course, any legit person can.
14. I work with a temp agency, I do office work, and Have training in more than 10 differnt areas [of office work/positions] as well.
15. My mom and sister yup, my son, of course; thats my immediate family.
16. I see my mom everyday.
17. Nope; I have had them against others and still do.
18. Nope.
19. Every freakin time I go into the dr for bloodwork, they screen for that and others things, otherwise every 6 months if I have been with someone, if not more often.
20. Not problems.
21. Its part of my life and my core, M/s is anyway.
22. It means gettign in touch with your innercore and having a deeper relationship with a partner.
23. Always known I was more on the docile side and submissive.
24. Its in my core to be submissive, being a slave is just an extreame.
25. My partner should protect, care, guide, and help me and him to meld on as many levels as possible nda to reach a place where we are just an extention of one another.
26. NA
27. One where we can read each other; one where we fulfill one another and balance eachother out. Very loving, caring, affectionate, and strong.
28. It means that we have a strong understanding and everything we do is for eachother and done with respect and agreed too.
29. Nope.. I can do some self-bondage.
30. Yes.
31. Not quiet sure; holding off on that until after I am healthy again.
32. Knock yourself out.
33. I have high standards and will NOT compermise or sacrafice my standards to be with someone.
34. Yup; long story.
35. He lied.
36. Sheesh..that was a long long time ago. I would have to ask him.
37. Sheesh, I would need a lot of time to thin about that.
38. A few times.
39. Nope. I set them up; always have, always will. It's not smart to NOT set them up, especially when you are a single parent.
40. Yup I do.


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 8:52:05 AM   
Fawne


Posts: 462
Status: offline 		Wow.
In the early 1990s, last days of college,  I thought on graduation "Is that all?". I wanted to get out, see the sights, learn cool new technology +

I applied for a job in a high security goverment agency. <shrug> Lots of us did. It was a fad?

This girl was accepted - highly recommended. "Highest moral charactor"**. Didn't go there. Declined the training/position offered.  Too crazy and scary.......leave it to the movies!

Point: After a serious, formal investigation, testimony of 3 psychologists, agents knocking on neighbor's doors...

I NEVER was asked a series of questions such as that.

But, I think the OP here is bored perhaps and would either like to see we lil sheep squirm.... or is 'silently' providing food for thought.

**  I am now such a pervert, my standing would surely diminish!
Humbly, Fawne 

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:04:26 AM   
MrDiscipline44


Posts: 1776
Joined: 1/5/2005
Status: offline 		1. Happiness
2. Content
3. You
4. Yes
5. Irriatable, callous,
6. Myself
7. War
8. WTF??
9. Curse them in thought
10. If I tell you then you'd know.
11.
12. Yes
13. Sure
14. Self-employed Handyman
15. Yes
16. Visit at least once a year, call about twice a month.
17. No
18. No
19. Four months ago.
20. Dispite what people think, no.
21. BDSM is apart of my life, it isn't the entirety of my life.
22. It means a loving relationship where I am the authority in my house. Just as it was for my parents, grandparents and so on.
23. 14
24. Dominance is a personality trait, not a label.
25. Exactly that, the submissive. I lead, you follow.
26. Because it is apart of who you are, not a decision you make everyday.
27. See answers 1, 2, 22 and 21 in that order.
28. In my idea, it is where I consent to you being in my collar.
29. Again WTF??
30. Yes
31. polyamorus
32. Yes you may speak to all of them.
33. Again, poly.
34. Two dominantes rarely get along.
35. Submissive was a label to her.
36. I don't know, I don't read minds.
37. What worked, when I'm in authority; what didn't, when they tried to be the authority.
38. Never
39. No
40. Yes

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:04:35 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


Posts: 1893
Joined: 6/12/2004
From: Rochester, NY
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fawne

But, I think the OP here is bored perhaps and would either like to see we lil sheep squirm.... or is 'silently' providing food for thought.



Bored: check.
Like to see the sheep squirm: double check.
Providing food for thought: triple check (always!)

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:08:51 AM   
slaverosebeauty


Posts: 1941
Joined: 12/12/2004
From: Cali
Status: offline 		Taggard gave those of us who like to think and do so on a regular basis, something to do this morning. It's a nice change of pace. Using your brain is a good thing. :o)

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:10:38 AM   
caitlyn


Posts: 3473
Joined: 12/22/2004
Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
To make my foster parents proud of me.

02. What would a typical day with you be like?
I'm a student that dates on the weekends and works part time in the eveing during the summer. I love to lay out in the sun, read and party. The rest should be pretty obvious.

03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?
My foster parents.

04. Are you passionate?
Not when sober, which isn't that often.

05. What are your three worst traits?
Relationship challenged, introverted, self-destructive (maturity is curing this).

06. What are you afraid of?
Failure. I'm also highly clostrophobic.

07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?
Child abuse.

08. Do you have soft hands?
Yes.

09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?
It doesn't bother me.

10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?
This question is self defeating.

11. What is your full name and home address?
Anyone that needs to know, already knows. My first name is Caitlyn ... what a shock.

12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?
You will probably get voicemail unless you are foster parents/best friend.

13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?
Only if I want to.

14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?
Student, hostess at a club three nights a week.

15. How do you get along with your immediate family?
Foster parents - very well. Sister - better since she moved to Arlington, Real parents - non-existant would be getting along too well.

16. How often do you call or visit your parents?
Foster parents - daily. Real father - one Christmas card a year, Real mother - never.

17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?
No.

18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?
No. (the picture is just a joke made with a camera phone and Photoshop)

19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?
August.

20. Do you have any mental health problems?
Yes.

21. How does BDSM fit into your life?
Not very well at the moment, but generally, I'm only a bottom.

22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?
Someone that will make you do all the little naughty things you think about in the dark of night, but will never admit to and really don't want to discuss, as those two things make it too intimidating to enjoy.

23. When did you first know you were dominant?
Not yet.

24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant?
No idea.

25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be?
D/s not withstanding, I think it's the obligation of a girl to be a nice submissive girlfriend to her partner. A man can't be a man, if a woman isn't willing to be a women.

26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?
My car needs washed.

27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?
I don't "look" for relationships. I take what comes my way, when it comes my way.

28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?
I generally try to go with the flow, and like a partner to push me ... but if I say stop, and you don't, you will never see or hear from me again.

29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?
Probably knot.

30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?
Yes, but only to a point.

31. What is your current dating status?
I date a lot and go through relationships very quickly. I'm a serial girlfriend.

32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them?
It's a free country, you may speak to anyone you want.

33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?
I don't think I seem that good, and I don't care why I'm still available.

34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?
No.

35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?
Assuming the last relationship that lasted more than two dates ... he dumped me. He said I was the type of person that you could know forever, and still not know they any better then the day you met them.

36. What would your last submissive say about you?
I've never had a submissive.

37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?
Life.

38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?
Never. I have used them a few times.

39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?
No.

40. Do you have references within the community?
Yes.

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:20:03 AM   
champagnewishes


Posts: 1310
Joined: 10/31/2005
From: Orange County
Status: offline 		The universal answer to any question....
 
"It depends...."
 

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:35:42 AM   
PlayfulOne


Posts: 1047
Status: offline 		I think I told way too much here,  lol.

1)  I want to be able to support and take care of my family doing my creative projects.  I don't
want to shoot or edit for anyone else anymore, just my own personal projects, and with the help
and support of one certain very special little slave, who has been wonderfully supportive and
helpful, I am moving in that direction.

2) A typical day, I wish, I have no idea what typical is. I work with a friend doing remodels
and what was a simple pull pout a window and replace with plywwood, turned into hald of the
upstairs wall  rotted away and 20 minutes worked turned into 4 days of rebuilding.  I do what
I need to pay the bills then I am either working on my personal projects, spending time with my
short people, or spending time with thew one I own.

3)  Recently I learned my lesson there.  My best friend/lover/partner/slave became terribly upset
when I had an issue awhile back and didn't give her the opportunity to help.   Should I really
needed help she would be the first one I talked to.

4)  I've been told before that I am too passionate and intense for people to deal with.  Lucky for
me my little one enjoys the passion and intensity.

5)  I can be impatient, stubborn, and too trusting

6)  Small or overcrowded space, Claustropobic and a little manic.

7)  Abuse and misuse of the worlds short people (and no I don't mean vertically challenged adults)

8)  In between, doong construction they are not as soft as when I was editing and shooiting video
but they are not terribly calloused and hard either.

9)  Depends on the day,  sometimes I laugh and shake my head, somedays its "you blankety blank"

10)  Can't think of anything, I'm pretty much an open book

12)  Can't answer that here, but the answer would be yes

13) Within reason,  don't call at midnight 

14)  Currently doing kitchen and bath remodels,  worked for years as a musician and video producer
which I am headed back too

15)  YEs

16) Both parents are deceased

17)  Nope

18)  Nope

19)  8 months ago

20)  nope

21)  It is the basis of my relationships

22)  Define relationship?  We have a long term committed relationship in which I am in charge.
I value her thoughts and opinions often asking for them, but in the end my will rules the house
with all of the resposibility and duties that requires.  We also have relationships with
"play partners" which are defined in very different ways. 

23)  I was in my teens, but had no idea how to follow those thoughts.  I was always in charge of
my relationships but was always afraid of venturing into those other realms.

24)  I am just me.  I don't know what would qualify me to be a dominant I just am.  I can tell
you things that I think make me a good dominant but thats open to debate.  

25)  To serve

26)  This is one that you can't answer randomly,  it would depend on the poerson who wanted to be
my slave/submissive and who they are

27)  Our house is built upon trust, honor, respect, and love. 

28)  In a "scene" type relationship that would be whatever terms have been agreeded upon between
the two parties.  In our relationship she is mine and has consented to whatever I wish.  That said
I don't force her to do things which I know deep down she doesn't want to do.  I know she would,
there is no reason to fall of the deep end trying to make her prove it.

29)  You mean like the old half hitch?  Yes

30)  Yes, in a relationship when one has an understanding of why those boundaries are there,
pushing som,e of them can be useful to both parties.  One should also have a reason other
that just wanting to.

31)  Proud owner of a wonderful little girl

32)  We also have people we interact with and you are welcome to talk to any of them

33)  Not available as in I will be your one and only with one submissive/slave, but we are poly
so many things are possible

34) She told me I was exactly the same as the day we got married,  go figure

35) Not info for wide open spaces, but related to my little one before we beacme to involved

36) I was an amazing dream, but in the end too intense (there's that theme again, to intense,
to passinate)

37)  Thats too much for here,  but open to discussing with someone.  What works and doesn't is
often relationship dependent and doesn't cross form one to another.

38)  I don't have a clicker, have never kept count.  My little one doesnt' need safe words and
such for me to know where she is and when to push and when to back down.  I know her and pay close
attention to what is happening

39)  No

40)  Yes



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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 9:36:21 AM   
Evanesce


Posts: 2325
Joined: 9/14/2005
Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
        Mostly, I just want serenity.  I don't need material things (although they're nice to have), but a peaceful life with one or two people I really connect with would be ideal.
 
02. What would a typical day with you be like?
        Depends on the day, but it would involve piano practice, working out, doing something outside, walking the dogs and, hopefully, a lot of hard-core, dirty fun.

03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?
        I tend to go it alone when I've got a problem, but if I absolutely had to reach out to someone else for help, it would probably be my closest friend, who I know would be there for me.

04. Are you passionate?
       I can be.  I'm certainly passionate about my relationships.

05. What are your three worst traits?
       A tough one.  I tend to overthink other people's actions.  I've been known to jump to conclusions.  And I'm not exactly the most sympathetic person in existence.

06. What are you afraid of?
       Spiders and bees.  One's creepy and the other can kill me.  I also fear losing the people I love.

07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?
        Politicians

08. Do you have soft hands?
       Definitely yes.

09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?
       "Tell 'em I'm comin'!"  (and then I think, "Idiot!")

10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?
        Hmmmm... I'm such an open book, I don't think there is anything I'd be afraid of anyone knowing.

11. What is your full name and home address?
       Denise Elaine Landers - Goshen, IN (the rest is just not gonna happen here)

12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?
       If I've given you my number, absolutely.

13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?
       Yes, when you meet me for coffee.  You've seen my pic, so you know who to look for when you get there.

14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?
       I'm a payroll processing and tax specialist for a national payroll company.

15. How do you get along with your immediate family?
       For the most part, pretty well.  But I'm glad I live 1800 miles away from the family drama.

16. How often do you call or visit your parents?
       I speak with my Mom every couple months or so, and visit once or twice a year.

17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?
       Nope.

18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?
       Nope.

19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?
       Specifically?  About 20 years ago.  Since I don't do casual sex, and neither did the three partners I've had in that time, I'm not really at much risk.

20. Do you have any mental health problems?
       You mean besides the fact that I like to hurt willing victims?

21. How does BDSM fit into your life?
       It permeates every aspect of my life.

22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?
       Oh, Lord... that would take days.  However, I'm of the belief that a slave is property - not a lover.  I believe the dominant should be the ultimate authority in the relationship and that a slave only consents once.  From that point of consent, the only choice remaining is obey or leave.

23. When did you first know you were dominant?
       I've always known.  However, I acknowledged it when I realized that, just because I needed someone else to be in control, that didn't mean I was submissive and I could stop making myself crazy trying to be something I was not.

24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant?
        I didn't know there was a qualifying exam.  I am what I am, and what I am is a dominant individual.

25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be?
       I only have one role for a submissive partner to myself - slave.  Property.  They're here to meet my needs.

26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?
       Since I don't know who "you" would be, I have no clue.

27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?
        A not-so-typical Master/Mistress/slave triad, wherein Mistress and slave belong to Master, and slave belongs to Mistress.  Ideally, all three would live together.

28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?
       The slave consents once.  In giving that consent, the slave acknowledges they know enough about me, my needs, my wants and desires, and my ethics and morals to know what they are getting themselves into. 

29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?
       Actually, no, I can't.  I don't do rope bondage, but I've been studying up on cock bondage, which I'm finding fascinating.

30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?
      Yes, and that time and place varies, depending upon the individual and the boundary being pushed.

31. What is your current dating status?
       I am engaged to my Owner.

32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them?
       I have a part-time, semi-regular involvement with the husband of my Owner's part-time submissive (who is also my closest friend), and yes, if we get beyond the introduction stage, you'll certainly meet them and may feel free to ask them anything at all.

33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?
      I'm picky.  I want what I seek, and I won't settle for "close enough."

34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?
      My ex was my third child, and I knew I was making a mistake even as I walked down the aisle.  I fixed my mistake.

35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?
       My most recent ex was over six years ago.  I fell in love, learned he was married and, ultimately, he broke it off (and broke my heart).

36. What would your last submissive say about you?
       That I'm demanding, but I know what I'm doing.

37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?
       Sorry, but the question is far too vague, and it would take days to answer.  Can you be more specific?

38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?
       One guy used a yellow once.  He'd said he was a masochist so, after a nice little warmup, I hit him with my purple rubber demon.  He didn't like it much.

39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?
       No.  I'd be amused.

40. Do you have references within the community?
      Absolutely.  There are a lot of people who know who I am. 


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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 10:07:52 AM   
zumala


Posts: 1121
Joined: 6/16/2005
Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
Many things, I suppose.  Love, acceptance, adventure, success.  I like to try new things and see new places.
02. What would a typical day with you be like?
Depends on whether or not I'm working outside the home.  If I'm not, then I'd be engaged in taking care of the home/garden/etc.  I like to have scheduled times for exercise and study/hobbies as well.  I do like daily personal time with those I care about.
03. Who would you turn to if you needed help?
Depends on the type of help needed.  For most things, I'd turn to my husband unless we had a Dom(me) over both of us.  In which case I might go to both.
04. Are you passionate?
I can be.
05. What are your three worst traits?
Lack of self-confidence, being introverted, sometimes moody.
06. What are you afraid of?
Being completely alone.  No one knows me and no one cares to.  (not that this is currently a problem, of course)  There is also the fear of failure/ridicule that can really mess up my performance in the workplace at times.
07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion?
Killing without just cause.  This includes babies that didn't choose to be concieved, people who weren't responsible for choosing the color of their skin, etc.  If someone attacks you to kill you, defend yourself.  But let's not kill someone just because they're different or 'inconvenient' to us.
08. Do you have soft hands?
Fairly, yes.
09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Depends on whether or not I'm late.  But typically I just sigh, shake my head, and then let them go speeding on ahead to get themselves into a wreck due to their stupid driving habits.
10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out?
That would be telling.  *chuckles*  But seriously... I don't know.  I'm extremely open with those I actually trust.  I haven't done anything horrendous that I'd want to hide.
11. What is your full name and home address?
This forum is available to everyone on the planet.  I'm not putting that down here.
12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home?
If my hubby and I were seriously negotiating with a Dom, I think this would probably be a 'yes'.
13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like?
I can.  But I won't do that for just anyone.  As stated above, if I were looking at a potential serious relationship, I'd certainly do so.
14. Where do you work or what is your occupation?
Wish I did.  Currently seeking employment.
15. How do you get along with your immediate family?
Pretty well, I suppose.  I also get along very well with my hubby's family.
16. How often do you call or visit your parents?
Usually they call me.  I'd say once every week or two, unless there's something vital going on.  We visit both sets of parents at least once a year.
17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you?
Nope.
18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?
Nope.
19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs?
They probably did that during my last gyno visit, which would have been last year.  Not that it's really necessary.  I've only had one sex partner and he was a virgin when I married him.
20. Do you have any mental health problems?
Not that I know of.  I do get depressed on occasion, but from what I've read, that's normal for most people.
21. How does BDSM fit into your life?
I don't know yet.  I'm curious to see how it will fit in and what changes will occur in our lives.
22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you?
I've heard a lot of different things, but as for me personally...  A dominant is someone who thrives on responsibility for others and control.  A good one should be honest and trustworthy.  A submissive is someone who has a desire to serve someone they feel is worthy.  That's right, I said it.  A submissive isn't submissive to just anyone, otherwise they're a doormat with serious issues.  So a D/s relationship then translates to a close relationship (which may or may not be sexual in nature) between the Dom (leader/alpha/master/etc) who leads, manages, and takes care of the sub; and the sub who obeys, respects, and loves the Dom.
23. When did you first know you were dominant?
Since I'm a submissive, I'll just assume that says submissive.  And I'm not really sure exactly when it dawned on me.  I guess it's always just been an element in my psychological make up.  When I ran into info on BDSM and read the descriptions of Dom and sub, I knew I wasn't the Dom.
24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant?
What qualifies me to be a submissive?  Well, first off, I am a submissive.  Doesn't matter if I'm in a D/s relationship or not, that's simply my nature.  As for what qualifies me to be in a relationship...  I want to learn and to serve.  If a Dom wants a sub wth those traits, then I may be considered qualified.
25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be?
The submissive should never turn their brain off.  A submissive should use all their talents and abilities to serve their Dom the best they possibly can.  It should be their desire to do every good for their Dom that they can.  They should trust their Dom (after carefully making sure he/she IS trustworthy first, of course!) and be able to accept their decisions even when the sub thinks something else would work better.
26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive?
Why would you (the imaginary Dom I'm writing to) be suitable as my dom?  Well, if I were writing to someone seriously, it would be because we're already friends and know a lot about each other.  You've proven yourself trustworthy, honorable, capable of leading, and interesting.  You want things that I want.  Interests are shared.  You are capable of being pleased by my best efforts, but will be able to tell when I'm slacking and call me on it.  You will be genuinely interested in my well-being (mental,emotional,spiritual, physical) and want to help me turn my weakness to strengths.
27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create?
One that's based on friendship and respect first, so that we know each other, can trust each other, and get along well.  I hope to create  a relationship that is stable enough to last a long time and has the potential to grow better with time.
28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship?
Simple.  Everything should be discussed thoroughly so that no action comes as a complete surprise.  Hard and soft limits should be expressed.  If a sub is in real distress, the Dom needs to STOP whatever they're doing to cause the distress and see to the care of the sub.  If a sub says clearly NO to something during the negotiations for the relationship, that should be respected.  No means no.  If you want to discuss the topic again later in the relationship, it can be re-evaluated then.  But if no is still no, that needs to be respected.
29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage?
Not right off the top of my head, no.  Although I'd be interested in learning, just so I can play with my hubby on occasion.  We're both submissive, but playing in the bedroom is just playing.
30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries?
Depends on the boundary and the reason for pushing it.  For instance, I'm shy and my self-confidence is low.  There may be some situation where it's in my best interest to be pushed beyond my comfort-zone with people so that I learn to deal with them better.  In that instance, the boundary pushing is for my own good, not the mere entertainment or gratification of the Dom.
31. What is your current dating status?
I'm not dating.  I'm happily married.
32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them?
I'm involved with my husband, and if you've negotiating with me, you're negotiating with him, too.  We come as a package.
33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available?
Because not many people are looking for a non-sexual D/s domestic relationship with married monogamous subs.  That and we are particular about having trustworthy, intelligent, responsible, friendly Doms.
34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced?
I've never been divorced and never will be.  Neither of us believes in it.  The commitment has been made, and we'll honor it.  Any problems we have will be worked through together.
35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex?
The guy before my husband?  Several reasons, actually.  First of all, our belief system wasn't compatible and I knew I could never be truly happy with that situation.  Secondly, there was a trust issue.  He cybered with others behind my back (our relationship was mostly on-line, although we did meet RL from time to time).
36. What would your last submissive say about you?
I've never had a dominant before, so I can't really comment.
37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships?
What worked: spending time together sharing mutual interests, discussing everything, showing affection for each other.  What didn't work: when I found religious beliefs existed that couldn't be reconsiled (neither of us would change), once there was completely irrational jealousy on the part of a guy which then progressed to abusive verbal attacks and threats of suicide from him.  That definately didn't work.
38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you?
Never, but then again, I've never been in a situation where a safeword was needed.
39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up?
No.  Would you be offended if we have one, too?
40. Do you have references within the community?
I have acquaintances.  Does that count?


< Message edited by zumala -- 6/2/2006 10:09:26 AM >

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 10:14:08 AM   
marieToo


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you are funny funny funny!! 

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 10:19:09 AM   
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I started to answer, but as I went through the questions, I really felt a judgmental air about it. I realize the OP didn't write them and was just throwing it out there for something for us all to do/enjoy. But being who I am, I tended to analyze the questions and the intent behind them more than concentrate on the answers. (Which is exactly what I would do if a sub presented me with the list.)

I found a lot of these questions extremely presumptuous, superficial, and judgmental, and it seems to focus on the negative rather than positive. For instance, it asks 3 worst traits, but not 3 best traits. Really, what does the softness of my hands really have to do with whether or not I’m a person of good character, trustworthy, and safe?

There’s a lot of catch-22ism. The whole criminal record thing. If you have a record, and you admit it, you’re a criminal. If you deny it, you’re a liar. It doesn’t take into account crimes committed at a young age out of ignorant living, necessity, duress, mistaken charges filed, reciprocal R.O.s, etc. There’s cornering questions ("what do you not want me to find out"), a bit intrusive/nosey questions, and really just plain dumb questions.  

      I don’t understand the connection one is trying to make. So my hands are soft/rough… what exactly does that tell you about me? That I like lotion? That my work is less manual? If I have a callus on my hand, does that mean I’m a hard worker or that I neglect to care for my body?

So I was arrested for assault at 19 years old (which I wasn’t by the way). Does that mean 25 years later I’m an evil villain? Or does it simply mean when I was young and immature I got in a cat fight with some chick who was being mouthy at the bar?

So I don’t get along with my immediate family. Does that mean I’m unable to sustain meaningful relationships? Or does that mean they are a bunch of redneck alcoholics that I broke ties with so I could live a more productive life?

How about that restraining order? Was it issued against me because I was a sexual predator stalking minors, or was it because when I filed a domestic violence complaint against an abuser that he retaliated by filing a restraining order against me as well?

What are these qualifications to be a Dom? So I don’t know a knot used in bondage. Could that perhaps be because I don’t enjoy rope play, but I know a ton about needleplay? If I knew 102 knots, would that qualify me as a "true" Dominant?

Talking to anyone I happen to be dating. Most of them would answer "I’m sorry, who are you and why are you calling me asking about my date last week? That’s my business and I don’t even know you."

Is it possible that I don't get tested for STDs because I don't engage in sex? hrm... maybe it means I already know I have one? Or maybe it means I don't have medical insurance.

If someone safeworded with me, does that mean I crossed over the line of their limits? Or does it mean I was playing with a wanker who realized when he wasn’t going to get his penis played with, he backed out? Or does it mean we both consensually decided to try to go further than we had before and they reached a scary place? Or does it mean we heard the school bus pull up out front and the kids were heading toward the door? If no one ever safeworded does it mean I’m skilled and considerate in play? Or does it mean I bore the crap out of my partners? Or does it mean I don’t believe in safe words at all and so have never had a partner use them? Or maybe my partner died before they could safe word?

I would hope that a submissive would have a better screening process in place (like, perhaps common sense and simply getting to know someone via interaction and conversation). If a submissive came to me with this list of questions, my first response would be "why do you want me to answer this?" If they said "just for fun" or "as a conversation starter" I’d probably enjoy the discourse it brought about. But if they said "so I can screen you as a potential Dominant", I’d probably tell them I wasn’t interested in them.

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RE: 40 questions - 6/2/2006 10:29:46 AM   
Sub03


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Status: offline 		01. What do you want out of life?
to be happy and succesful

02. What would a typical day with you be like? depends....is my Master home or at work?? if He's at work its me and cleaning up the house and taking care of the dog, if He is home its whatever He wants to do.....with some beatings thrown in

03. Who would you turn to if you needed help? my Master

04. Are you passionate? yes

05. What are your three worst traits? shyness, smartassness and i can be a procrasinator at times

06. What are you afraid of? snakes and worms

07. What is the worst crime committed against humanity in your opinion? letting Bush be president

08. Do you have soft hands? yes

09. What is your reaction if someone cuts you off in traffic? i dont drive...yet

10. What's the one thing you hope I won't find out? now if i told you would find out

11. What is your full name and home address? sorry, first name is Diane though

12. Can I call you any time (within reason) at home? sure....might be busy though

13. Can you verify who you are and what you look like? yes

14. Where do you work or what is your occupation? looking for work as a Paraeducator

15. How do you get along with your immediate family? we get along for the most part

16. How often do you call or visit your parents? not often enough

17. Have you ever had a restraining order issued against you? no

18. Have you ever been arrested/charged/convicted of a felony?  no

19. When was the last time you were screened for STDs? never have been

20. Do you have any mental health problems? no

21. How does BDSM fit into your life? fits in very nicely

22. Could you explain what a D/s relationship means to you? yes

23. When did you first know you were dominant?  im not

24. What do you think qualifies you to be a dominant? im not Dominant

25. What do you think the role of the submissive partner should be? thats easy....to serve

26. Why would I be suitable as your slave/submissive? i think im pretty suitable :)

27. What kind of relationship are you hoping to create? a meaningful one

28. What is your idea of "consent/consensual" in a BDSM relationship? everything is
consenual between the people involved

29. Can you name and demonstrate at least one knot used in bondage? im the slave i dont know the knots

30. Is there is an appropriate reason/time/place to push someone's boundaries? sure

31. What is your current dating status? collared

32. Who else are you involved with and may I speak to all of them? just my Master, if you
want to talk to Him go ahead

33. If you're as good as you seem, then why are you still available? im not

34. If you have ever been married, why did you get divorced? never been

35. Why did you break up with your (most recent) ex? it was a mutual decision, just stopped working

36. What would your last submissive say about you? i know what my last Dom would say
about me and its all good

37. What worked and what didn't in your previous relationships? we got along well as a couple and liked each other but eventually moved in different directions

38. How many times has someone used a safeword with you? im not a Dom..ive nevcer used one though

39. Would you be offended if I have a safe call set-up? nope

40. Do you have references within the community? yes

< Message edited by Sub03 -- 6/2/2006 10:45:20 AM >

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